About two years ago I was the MOH at my "best friends" wedding. Since then we have almost completely lost touch with each other. Part of me feels like I was in her wedding so its only right for me to ask her to be a part of mine. But at the same time another part of me, is saying you two aren't even close anymore. It's going to be a small wedding and I only want 3 bridemaids.
2007-06-29 18:05:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No you dont have to ask her. If you were that good of friends you wouldn't have lost touch. Dont feel obligated to do this and your friend shouldn't expect that of you.
Invite her to your wedding of course. Seems to be a trend with weddings, just because they asked me, then I should ask them.Stay with who you have.
2007-06-29 18:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Flicky G 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Then have only 3 bridesmaids - This day is supposed to be all about you - If you are not speaking with her @ least once a day or even at least 3-4 times a week then I guess you know what to do - Small wedding or not, if it doesn't feel right then don't ask..... Good Luck..
2007-06-30 01:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lords of Stockton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No definately dont ask her. Trust me - i had similar situation and it was terrible. I ended up asking her and then closer to the wedding i told her i didnt think she should. It was always about her and she could not even be there for me on the day i was choosing my wedding dress!! I felt terrible at the time but now as i look back on my photos and memories of the day i know i did the right thing.
Good luck!
2007-06-30 01:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Nic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't ask her. Just because she had you in her wedding does not obligate you to put her in your wedding, especially since 2 years have passed and you aren't close anymore. It takes alot to be in someone's wedding....expense wise....and only a very close friend would happily do the duty. Chances are, she wouldn't even want to do it if you asked her and would only say yes out of obligation. I'd save those spots for people who are truly close to you.
2007-06-30 03:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've lost touch so if you don't ask her there's virtually no way that see will ever know that made a conscious decision not to ask her. So ask somebody else.
By the way: asking a friend to be in a wedding party is about the cruelest thing one person can do to another. Especially for chicks that have to buy dresses, shoes, hats, gloves, and under thingies just to go with your lame butt "Prom on Steroids" color scheem.
Do your frieds a favor and leave them out.
2007-06-30 01:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you were her MOH does not mean that it needs to be reciprocated.
You are no longer close, therefore you do not have to ask her to be in your wedding party.
Ask those who you are close to.
2007-06-30 08:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough! If you have three other people you'd rather have in the wedding, I'd probably not ask her. It's your wedding! It's a special time.
2007-06-30 01:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to do something at the reception. Maybe she can do the toast or something like that. Honor her in another way but if you put her in your wedding just because you'll hate yourself for not doing your wedding your way.
2007-06-30 01:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by LOVE BEING A MOMMY 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long have you been friends with your "BEST FRIEND"???? if you've been friends with her for YEARS and years then I'd ask her to be in my wedding---if you were only friends for a few years, then just send her a wedding invitation........but remember if she was a LONG STANDING really good friend ----you really SHOULD have her be IN your wedding ....
2007-06-30 01:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you should have your bridesmaid be someone that is your true friend currently. Don't feel like you owe someone something, that was their decision not yours. I do think you should invite her, as a way to catch up again. If you dont she might be offended.
2007-06-30 01:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋