When does life's "wrong" choices either act as a feeder of guilt or a chance to learn and grow?

Question

Namaste

Peace and Love

Answer 1

Guilt is useful only insofar as it prevents us from repeating the mistake. Other than that, it is useless. Each mistake is an opportunity to understand it, learn from it and move on. Also, the experience should give us compassion towards others who are erring.

Answer 2

Unwise action is often caused by "self". When "self" is allowed free reign of the Consciousness, being Unwise and selfish, it will choose actions which only benefit "self", never others.

These unwise actions have consequences, one of which is guilt, therefore guilt is caused by "self" and by the clinging...Upadana...to "self".

Whenever "Self" arises in the consciousness, suffering soon follows, although this is a Buddhist phrase, it is very apt don't you think...?

Once the Unwise action and the subsequent consequences are felt..although there are sometimes unsen and as yet unfelt consequences....Karma has been earned nevertheless...there is a very good opportunity to see these things in action as it were...we see that our poor and Unwise actions have caused suffering both for ourselves and for others and need then to re assess our thought processes which led to the action in the first place....

It is very important though to realise that "self" had a lot to do with the thoughts and therefore the subsequent actions and therefore it should be assessed on this basis in order to gain the knowledge and therefore grow in Wisdom to fully appreciate and therefore learn from the mistakes made.

Do not follow up with reprisals for the other persons involved, this again is "self", will cause further consequences and nothing will be gained except further hurt and the cycle will continue...hurt...self....pain...cause hurt...self....etc..ad infinitum...

Instead, think about the causes for "self" to have arisen oin the first place...Why did it arise...? Why did I grip onto it...

Why does "self" arise in my consciousness...?

Why can't I get rid of "self"...?

Answer these from a personal perspective by developing Mindfulness through Meditation Practise and you will have your answers....don't forget...it is a practise....persistence and effort are the Lord Buddha's words..

Persistence and Effort....Viriyena dukkhamacceti

Peace from a Buddhist...

Answer 3

Guilt comes from hurting someone because we made the wrong choice. You can learn and grow from the experience but the guilt is still there.

I hope the wedding was wonderful.

Answer 4

It all depends on the individual's attitude regarding the mistakes they have made. If they acknowledge the fact that they had other choices, they will learn from them. Guilt is always part of that acknowlegement however but is tempered by the desire to and success in making better choices.

Answer 5

You imply that a choice can be valued as right or wrong?

Each person is only expected to see the opportunity or to choose to take another path. The fork in the road...is merely a fork in the road. Each person chooses their path and decides for themselves if they will carry guilt or see it as an opportunity to grow.

Love is often a good choice.

Peace and Love Always!

Answer 6

The experience of guilt is also an opportunity to "learn and grow". Specifically, it is the exploration of self acceptance. Guilt is self judgment.

Answer 7

you have to program your mind to all ways either use bad things as a way to change and better your self(learn from your miss takes) and positively reinforce your self, when you do good look at it and pat your self on your back.... guilt is a temporary feeling like anger that is deeper, it is meant to make you look at Wat you did and better your self and make it right with the other person ,bad people latter in life can be the goodest people in the end don't dwell in guilt u only suffer

Answer 8

Always. It depends upon one's outlook.

(Omg, I haven't seen you for so long! Hugs!)

Answer 9

depends on the heart condition.