I have 2 very good male friends and would like them to be in it. But my fiance is having his best friend as best man, brother as groomsman.. and that's all we know so far.
I only have my MOH and a bridesmaid though.
2007-06-29 16:22:42 · 22 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sorry, but no. Imagine if your husband had a woman friend and asked if she could be one of your bridesmaids. Your fiance will be spending all day with these guys, and they should all be special to him.
If you or your husband don't have ideas for ushers, maybe you can have your friends do that or be a guest book attendant.
However, you may want to talk to your friends about it first. If they're like most guys, they may not want to be part of the wedding.
2007-06-30 01:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by trpaz2979 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bride's attendants no longer have to be all female, and groom's attendants no longer have to be all male.
If you want the guys to be in the wedding party, have them on your side!
There is a magazine you can look at for photos:
People Extra, the July 2007 issue.
On pages 74 and 75, there are examples of what I am talking about.
Good luck to you!
2007-06-30 09:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the simpler the better.
when you start adding people on each side as bridesmaid/groomsmen than the wedding party gets huge because if you ask this one, you have to ask that one not just for symmetry but for people's feelings. you will be very happy with just two on each side.
As far as your male friends, i would ask them to be ushers if you want them in your wedding or just be guests. But if they are ex boyfriends who are now friends, i wouldn't give them any role that would have them sharing the limelight with your husband to be
the bride expecting anyone but possibly their brother (if she only has one) to be a groomsman is out of line.
2007-06-29 23:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure you do, but keep in mind that you have to be willing to add some of "his girls" too. In my wedding my brother was a groomsman and his sister in law was a bridesmaid. I have heard of a new trend called "bridesmen and groomswomen" basically you just stand on the side of who you know. (no cross dressing!) Whatever floats your boat. It is a day to celebrate with friends and family. Include who you wish.
2007-06-29 23:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by JM 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless you want him to have a say in who you choose as bridesmaids, you best allow him to pick who he wants to stand with him on his wedding day.
However, there's no rule that says bridesmaids have to be female. If you want these 2 friends of yours standing up with you, then by all means have them. You could also have them do readings during the ceremony, escort grandmothers up the aisle, etc. There's lots of ways you can honor these male friends of yours, if you just start thinking a little out of the box. Good luck!
2007-06-29 23:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Would you be okay with it if he wanted a couple of his very good female friends as bridesmaids?
I suggest letting this one go, and only requesting your choice of groomsman if he's your brother.
2007-06-29 23:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The attendants are for BOTH the bride and groom. For example, if you had a brother, you may want him to be a groomsman. If your bf had a female cousin he was close to, he may want her as a bridesmaid.
However, you having 'very good male friends' to be in the wedding party is NOT a good idea.
2007-06-30 08:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, you do not. Not to sound rude, but your fiance has chosen the ones he holds dear to HIM, who've made a huge impact in HIS life to stand next to him on his big day. Which have nothing to do with your guy friends.
HOWEVER, it's not uncommon for some brides to have guys instead of girls as "bridesmaids" so-to-speak - if merely for the fact that I don't know how else to term it. You can have your two best guy friends in it. Take that into consideration. That way no one is put out.
2007-06-29 23:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by Heather S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can suggest people.
If you can suggest who to have as groomsmen, he can suggest who to have as bridesmaids.
My fiance and I talked about who we'd want, and when we agreed we asked them.
If not groomsmen, your two friends could be ushers, or do a reading, or something else regarding the wedding.
2007-06-30 08:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely have your friends be involved in your wedding. If you add 2 more to his side, you'll need 2 more for your side. But if you dont want to alter that set up, I used my 2 guy friends as ushers. You need them & that's a great job for them. They are very involved & have a big role in the wedding. Congratualtions!!
2007-06-29 23:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mandy419 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋