So i've decided to tell my parents next week that i dont believe in their church anymore...any tips?

Question

Also, how do i know when a good time is?

By the way, they raised me mormon...that's the church i'm leaving. And i'm DEFINITELY still christian.

I'm not asking IF i should tell them now, before i'm 18 (i'm 15). I've been thinking about this SERIOUSLY since November. My decision is already made. I want tips on WHEN i tell them, not IF i should tell them.

Answer 1

Be honest, be gentle and respectful of their feelings and reaction, be firm in your convictions, expect them to try to talk you out of it, don;t let them sway you, and go with your gut feelings.

Your heart will tell you when the time is right, trust your instincts. Remember, be honest, and don't dramatize, but let the truth guide you.

Good luck, I am cheering for you as you find what path is best for you!

Bright blessings,
Lady Morgana )0(

Answer 2

You really don't give enough information to get a reasonable answer on this. I've "been there and done that" but depending on your age, your parents' beliefs, your alternative to their church, etc.etc. there is no way to get really good advice on this without more details.
Maybe if you want to give some more info I could write more. For example, if you were going to tell them you didn't believe in their church but you were going to be a Mormon or a Catholic, there would be some things I could say that would be helpful.
If you were just going to say you didn't believe anything, there would be other ways you could soften the blow.
If you are under 18, that gives me a few more ideas.
See what I mean?
But the bottom line, the thing you need to remember more than anything else (even though you NEVER say this) is: It's none of their business what you believe, or what you do about it.
Good luck.

Answer 3

If you are underage. then I would suggest that you wait until you are 18 and moved out and on your own. Parents can make your life very uncomfortable for you if you're still living with them and reject their Religion. Even if you ARE out of the house and on your own it is one of those things that needs to be broached very delicately. I became a Wiccan at 21 and dy mother didn't know about it until I was 51. She sort of had some suspicions because I'd decline to attend church with her all the time. But she saw that I was STILL a moral person and that I had DEEP spirituality so when I told her about it she was dissapointed but also accepting of my Religion. I think that you have to show them that you are mature and making a decision that is based on the RIGHT reasons rather than just dong it to be COOL or rebellious.

As for when is a GOOD time to do it? There's NO such thing as a GOD time to do it. Parents see your decision to change churches or Religions as a rejection of them and their values. You're just going to have to SHOW them that they DID do a good job raising you and that your decision is based on THEIR upbringing. Hope this helps a bit.

Raji the Green Witch

Answer 4

My sister, you are wise in your decision. Religion sometimes twists the true message of the bible. Religion is a man made thing, and many people disagree. I have seen first hand, the LDS, being baptised twice in there. But I have been fortunate to have good men at work, and at Calvary Chaple Salt Lake City, to explain the mormon myths.

God never intended only mormons to be allowed into heaven. And the bible IS the true word of God. To elevate Joe Smith to something other than a man, to have your own planet (Kolob), to be equal to Jesus (Brotherhood), to have the only true church, to some day be a god, is all a twist. God is greater than making mistakes. The bible is the only book that was inspired by God. Other wise, the missionaries don't need to go world wide. God would have given a book here for the Chineese, and there for the Africans, and a fourth for the Indians of India. Instead, they don't think: they just do what they are told: go spread the Book of Mormon worldwide, when it was supposed to be written and recieved for the Americas only.

They will probably be angry, but believe in Jesus. He took your sins and died for them, and also mine. Going to the temple is not the way to heaven. It is the blood that was sacrificed like the lambs, rams, bulls, tec. in the old testament.
Stick to you guns, but do it calmly. You need to make your choice, and perhaps, someday, you can tell them the real gospil is in the bible, and they will see the faults of the LDS.

Answer 5

You don't say how old you are; that's important.
I'm guessing between 14 & 18, & living at home.
Which means your parents are responsible for you.
If you're older than 18, & living away from home;
you have a right to choose your own religion.

But chances are you haven't really tried to understand.
You just don't want to get up on Sunday mornings.
I'm guessing you haven't been reading the Bible.
You probably need to find an active youth group.

Answer 6

I am a 45-year-old Christian mother to an 18-year-old son. I raised him in a Christian home, but due to some life events and being let down by certain individuals, he has decided that he no longer believes in God. He says he doesn't believe because he flat out doesn't believe, but that he doesn't believe because he can't prove the existence of God. He does not go to church, nor share my beliefs. He is well-versed on the Bible and what it contains however, and I believe he has a good, solid foundation with which to understand the way that I myself believe.

That said, it truly made me sad when he told me how he feels and it continues to make me sad because the way I believe is so strong and the way he believes (or rather, doesn't believe) is so contrary to what I believe is right and true. Just the same, he is my son, I love him unconditionally, and I respect his right to believe or not believe as he sees fit. It is his life to choose. Let me just say as a parent that there IS no good time to tell your parents, nor no easy way. You just have to be honest with them. Make sure that in your honesty, you are not putting them or their beliefs down. Make sure that you express to them that you love them and respect them, and because you do, you respect their right to believe how they do. Let them know that you have chosen to believe differently. Tell them that you appreciate their intentions in raising you the way they did but that you would like to choose for yourself how you believe. Let them know that it in no way changes the love you feel for them, and ask them to please respect your beliefs as you respect theirs. Beyond that, there is nothing more you can do. You too have the right to believe as you choose for it IS your life to live and you alone are responsible for how you live it. I wish you all the best as you tell your parents, but as a parent, I can tell that you seem like someone who respects your parents enough to want to do this right. Anyone who would raise a child to be this considerate is probably going to accept your news, even if they don't like it or agree with it. Give your parents time. They will adjust. If they don't, then you will have to figure out a way that you can all agree to disagree.

God bless you and good luck!

Answer 7

I am sorry you are leaving the Church, but everyone should be able to make their own decisions about what religion, if any, they choose to follow. Simply tell them it, straight out, and hopefully they respect your decision.

Answer 8

Well not really. It really depends on how they take it. FYI: There isn't a good time.

I told mine I didn't want to go to church anymore when I was about 13. They just left it go and never asked why. I figure they really don't want to know.

Answer 9

Be respectful and sincere. Understand your reasons clearly. Pray for clarity and guidance. Don't criticize them personally for their beliefs but be ready to answer what it is exactly about their religion you don't accept and why.

Answer 10

You are making a right decision. Say that you follow Jesus not religion.

In the morning. after the breakfast so no one is hungry.