First off all, I've been with my bf for 3 years. On tuesday, it was my 30th birthday, and I wanted to make love. My bf says he's too tired from a long day at work. The next day, Weds, I wanted to make love again....but my bf says again, he's too tired. So, today, we made plans to see each other after I get off work. While I was at work, my bf called me around 5:30, saying that he's going over to his brother's house to go for a riding on a bike. I said, "oh, so you're too tired to have sex with me, but you're not too tired for going to riding" He got mad and said that I was wrong to say that to him. Was I wrong for saying that to him? Or is there something going on???
I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm giving up. I really do love him with all of my heart. I'm tired of making the moves on him. He doesn't make the moves. I think from now on, I'm not going to make the move, or I'll just say... "I'm too tired"
What do you think??
2007-06-29 15:15:22 · 8 answers · asked by Kim W 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a good idea to communicate your needs to your partner. But you put it in form of accusation. If you were to put it nicely he probably wouldn't have gotten mad. After all, if he didn't feel like it, it's not a good way to make him want it.
Seduce him. Try something new... It might work better than starting a war on him over it.
2007-06-29 15:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex in not everything but it's a MAJOR part of a healthy relationship. You were harsh to him because you've reach a brink and out of frustration, you know the rest.
You can't change the fact that he is now having a little bonding time with his brother.
You do not want to "be tired" for him too, you'll be cutting off your nose to spite you face. NO SOLUTION!
So, in the mean time, have a nice shower or a relaxing bath. Look and feel very sexy when he walks though that door. Look him straight in the eye, then allow your eyes to roam over the rest of him without say a single word, make eye contact again and don't lose it this time. Walk backwards slowly to the bedroom, let him know with your eyes exactly what you want.
You will end up having the craziest sex you've had in a while. Wait until the next day to talk about how you have been feeling so that this does not keep repeating itself.
If there is still no action in the bedroom do not wait until tomorrow to talk.
Do not sell yourself short.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
2007-06-29 22:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by Dreamlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems 2 me that he doesnt want to have sex even though u have been 2gether for 3 years.....seems he wants to wait.....u were not wrong 2 express ur feelings to him but you were wrong to say that.....i understand where u afre comming from give it some time maybe he will be ready soon...u have 2 consider the way he feels about the situation!!!
hope i could help!!!
2007-06-29 22:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by nole girl(the best in da world)! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't wrong for saying that. But it seems to me that he's bored of you and just doesn't want to have sex. You have to excite your sex life up a bit or work out to improve yourself physically. Good luck
2007-06-29 22:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think something may be up. You should talk to him and tell him how you feel. Set everything straight tell him you need more from him. And that your tierd of making the move.
2007-06-29 22:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can do the roll reversal, and say your tired. but the downside is what if he doesn't care and you just get more upset and sexually unsatisfied.
if this keeps up i would be suspicious
2007-06-29 22:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a jerk dump him! seriously. gfs come 1st. bike riding? loser-
2007-06-29 22:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by muhahahaha... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not interested...sorry
2007-06-29 22:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by macaca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋