i was looking thru her text not that big of a deal. she starting tripping not hard but enough to irrate me.
2007-06-29 15:13:45 · 18 answers · asked by Mr.Gifford 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most Women will have a problem with this but it's kind of a double standard thing. If you the Male was to freak out because your wife looked at your phone... You would be looked at as your hiding something... Other way around your invading her privacy... I thought marriages were supposed to be open with no secrets... things have changed...
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2007-06-29 15:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you were being sneaky and didnt even ask her to look first then yes it was totally wrong of you. Plus y do u need to read her texts anyway? Do u think she is cheating or something? Girls share secrets gossip and issues over texts she could be trippin becasue one of her friends confided in her over a text message or something. She probably also thinks you are suspicious of her or dont trust her so u might think about that. How would you feel if she read ur texts without asking?
2007-06-29 22:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by Aurora 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
President Regan said, "Trust but verify."
Your husband and wife. If she leaves it out for you to scan and you find nothing then you have verified. Now you can trust and not need to verify again.
That you did it so she could see you do it is the real problem. Regan used spy satellites in secret to watch the Russians he trusted. You should have done the same.
Buy her some flowers from the grocery store with a card that says, " I love you more than any woman on Earth." Never mention what took place. If she brings it up just say with your hands in the air, "I love you and am a stupid guy who wasn`t thinking." Our wives are used to us being stupid so it will go away.
Glad you asked
2007-07-02 17:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Gone Rogue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong because it just makes you look paranoid and insecure. But if you suspect that she's doing something wrong then there is a right to look at those texts. Another thing would be if she wasn't hiding anything why would she act like that? I don't know maybe an invasion of privacy. Just respect her and if you suspect anything then go investigate.
2007-06-29 22:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to consider how you would feel if she was reading your text messages or going through your phone. Would you be hurt or angry if she did the same to you?
Would she be hurt or angry if she knew that you were mistrusting her?
I personally don't see any casual reason for any person to go through someones phone or address book, whether wife or sister or coworker... If there's a phone number that you need, there's no reason that you couldn't ask for the number or ask permission to get the phone number BEFORE fishing around in their phone data. If my boyfriend were rummaging through my phone and emails, I'd certainly be upset that he disrespects my personal items, and that he mistrusts me to need to check up on my messages.
If she is upset by it, I think that you ought to care about her feelings and respect her feelings about the matter. If she thinks it's wrong... well, it's her phone and it's her right to dictate who handles it and who has access to it.
2007-06-29 22:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by Pumpkin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong. It shows that there is a lack of trust, whether it is subconcious or not. Are you doing it because you are worried about what others are saying to her/she is saying to others? If so, it would be much better in the longrun if you talk to her about what may be bothering you instead of being sneaky about it. Trust me, she will find out about it one day and will probably not be happy about it.
2007-06-29 22:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we can all be insecure at times. I know I have looked at my husband's text messages, and he has looked at mine. I think in the back of our minds we know we are not going to find anything, but we just need to check for whatever reason.
2007-06-29 22:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by LittleOscar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had a reason to dig through her messages she needs to know what the reason was. But digging through her messages cause you had nothing better to do is not nice to her. How would you feel if she did the same to you?
2007-06-29 22:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong. You should respect her privacy. You gave the impression you don't trust her and you acted as if you were looking for something.
2007-06-29 22:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by ~Secretrose~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i looked thru my husband's phone whenever i have the chance. because he never leave his phone on whenever he is home so do u blame me for it???
so if your wife behaves this way then don't feel bad about it!
but if her phone is on all times then u should not feel insecure like me.good luck
2007-06-29 22:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋