If you lived a life aiming to please,and or you cared to long
about what others say and think of your character.or you allowed others to dictate what type of person you should be.
2007-06-29 14:31:14 · 7 answers · asked by stilesking 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I did that without any benefit until I was 31 and then a light went on. You need to take care of your body first. Then you need to vow to do no harm. Be kind for the sake of knowing that it is the right thing to do. Help others only if it doesn't hurt you or your family.
The key to a happy and balanced life is personal responsibility. If you treat everyone you encounter with respect and take upon yourself to show them the correct way to treat people by example than you can sleep well knowing that you have done the right thing.
If you treat yourself and family with respect and are responsible for your actions and reactions than you are leading by example. Just remember that you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink, so if you don't see changes in people right away don't worry. Someday they will do the right thing and/or be kind and respectful to someone else and set an example for that person.
Don't forget you give what you get but if you don't give to yourself first you won't get anything.
Good luck!
2007-06-29 14:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am by nature a YES sayer. I still struggle with people pleasing. What I have found is that people have more respect for you when you say no once in awhile or stand up for yourself. I deal with feeling guilt ridden, especially when it comes to spending money on myself. Like I dont deserve it. I know I do (logically) but there have been many times I just leave a full cart and leave. Not to long ago I started crying and shaking at a counter, paying for a blouse. I had just spent $100 on swim trunks and flip flop for my son, then acted like a crazy person over a $30 top. I am much better when I PLAN. I think of things to say inadvance when I think I will be in a situation when I am asked to help, or do or give and I just cant or dont want to. It is hard, but you can never make all of the people happy all of the time and you will kill yourself if you try. JUST SAY NO!
2007-07-04 00:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by verlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand how to be assertive. I don't know how old you are but start with some books geared at teens. Some of these books read like they are written for fifth graders. They are the best though because it starts you at the basics. I was around 25 when I finally understood assertivness. I felt and still feel so liberated.
2007-06-29 22:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Candi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got the most help for those things from associating with people who were more the way I wanted to be. I "picked up" their more happy & healthy characteristics by listening to their advice & by imitating their ways of being. It helped!
You could also go to counseling, either paid, or just talking with a trusted relative, friend, or adult, who could give you advice & encouragement to be yourself, more.
2007-07-06 21:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by embroidery fan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you are who you are ,second dont try to live up to what other people want you to be cause it will hurt in the long run. you try to do your best in life that is all do what you want to strive for. live to the fullest, life is heard enough just to do what you can never mind what they want you to do . remember you are you no one can force you to do anything. god bless. remember please no one but yourself.
2007-07-06 10:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exercise and doing something that you enjoy doing is key. Sounds cliche I know, but that's why it is.
And it applies for any age.
Keep moving.
2007-06-29 21:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by leesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LIke me for who I am or don't like me at all ...
2007-07-07 08:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Bruce L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋