I am 18 and he's 19. We been together for 1 year. We're extrememly close, and make out ALOT, just not to the extent of having sex. Theres no pressure from him...but I just dunno if I am ready for sex and all of its consequence. Physically, I want to, but there's always that dreaded first time (we're both virgins). I mean right now, we're at the stage of innocence and fun, and with sex, we'll be at different stage. We both love each other very much, and old enough to do it, but...I don't know if we are maturely enough. I don't know. I am very scared because...sex is something that will happen eventually...but I am prepared. My mom is of an entirely different generation (shes 54) and different culture, so she doesn't even know of all the drugs/preventions. So, more than advices, please tell me tips for the first time. Thank you.
2007-06-29 14:14:10 · 18 answers · asked by yqnlc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well sweetie, personally you are not missing much. I lost my virginity at 17 but not only because I was in love but also,mainly because I was curious. You and you boyfriend should wait it out a few more years and if you feel the same about each other then go for it. Having sex doesn't make you mature. Maturity comes from within and self value. If you value yourself and him as well I think that you should wait. It will be a story you can tell your kids when you get older. i am only 24 but I wish I had someone to tell me then what I know now.I don't even know you but I am proud that there are still some young women out there that are still virgins. Take your time and experience other things, let sex with that special man be your last. Who knows you may marry this guy and he can sit back at a bar or some place and tell all of his pals how he has a good girl. Most women won't tell you but I'm sure alot of them wish they would have "kept their goodies in a jar". Good luck, stay blessed....
2007-06-29 14:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready yet, then don't force yourself to be ready. Especially if your boyfriend isn't pushing you. Be happy that you have someone who isn't just trying to get into your pants. You're still young and have your whole life ahead of you. When you are ready to have sex, you'll know.
Make sure your first time is a good one. You'll always remember your first time so it make be with someone you really love and who loves you in return. Use protection to avoid pregnancy if that's what you want, And just relax and enjoy yourself! If both of you are virgins then you'll learn about having sex together. Sex is a wonderful thing that can be clumsy and awkward at times even for those of us who aren't virgins.
2007-06-29 21:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by theadram 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are ready and use birth control and he wear a condom. I don't think you are ready to care for a child are you? If you have waited this long, give more time and thought. To look around and see so many teenage parents who aren't ready to be parents is sad. Talk with your doctor about the best birth control for you if you choose to have sex before you get married.
2007-06-29 21:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a really smart girl, especially since you are one of the only people who admits to not being ready for the consequences. You need to do what you think you are ready for, You sound like you'll make the right decision.
2007-06-29 21:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by T agent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel that you are ready, then you aren't ready. Wait until you have absolutely NO doubts, and want to love and enjoy this man and experience sex with him. A lot of people have said "I wish I would have waited." But I don't know of anyone who say "I wish we would have had sex earlier."
2007-06-29 21:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably shouldn't take my advice but if you ask me, I don't think it's such a big deal. I think it's ok just as long as you take care of yourself and use protection EVERY TIME. Of course you'll be scared the first few times you do it but eventually you'll get rid of the fear. You're old enough but it's up to you.
2007-06-29 21:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by ~Mommy*of*3~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 54 and lived through the 60's and doesn't understand about drugs/preventions?
I bet she would surprise you if you can bring yourself to talk to her about it.
2007-06-29 22:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by demarkation_line 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to even ask if you're ready for sex, the answer is a definite no.
2007-06-29 21:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should wait. Just a few years until you get more into the relationship. Be patient. Fool around while your still a kid:))
2007-06-29 21:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lauren A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till u r ready
2007-06-29 21:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋