I'm a 20 year old guy , and I live in Holland. I've been so depressed.I used to live on the island of Curacao . I had a "life" there , a car , was going to college. My biggest dream, was to finish my degree in IT , then go to Cuba or Puerto Rico , to study and pursue a carreer in music. Things weren't going so well in college, i lacked motivation so I decided to come here and live on my own , and finish college here in Holland. Been a year now, and I'm so depressed. I got no life here, I never go out, I don't got any friends. I was thinking of going back to my island and get college over with , so I can work on my dream of hopefully become a prof. musician. My dad don't like that idea so much, cuz he sais i'm in Europe now, and I got a once in a lifetime opportunity to explore the world outside Curacao. But the thing is, I don't feel comfortable here in Holland. Of course I wanna explore the world, that's what life's all about.But I'm young right? I don't know what to do, please help.
2007-06-29 13:53:38 · 16 answers · asked by mrmafiosso 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I feel so bad for you. This is the 7th time you've asked this question here. Perhaps, you should look inward and follow your heart.
Good luck and take care of you!
2007-06-29 13:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never be comfortable or happy with where you are until you realize who you are (not what you do, not what you have or don't have, not where you've been or where you want to go, etc., but who "you" are.)
I know many musicians in Europe, so there is nothing stopping you from being a "musician" there if you have the talent and are willing to work for what you want. In fact, being in Europe might well add to your musciallity. However, even if you become a musician in Europe, that will not be who you are. It will be what you are doing.
As to the aspect of being "young", no one and no thing has permanence. Every one and everything is in a constant state of change. There is no guarantee as to how long you will live or when this life will be over. We all live moment by moment in the eternal nowness of reality. Your father can not live for you just as you can not live for him. What you are calling living is simply what you are doing and not who you are.
Who are you? Find that out first and procede from there.
May it all be well with you.
2007-06-29 21:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Big Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a huge decision to make. You are meant to be there for some reason but it may be time to move on. When I am unsure of what to do next, I put it in Gods hands and wait for an answer and it always comes. Try to get out and enjoy yourself in the meantime. Think of it as a long vacation.
Knowing what I know now, I wouldn't pass up a college education. Do it before you settle down rather it's in Europe or back home.
2007-06-29 21:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go back and finish school you have a life time to travel the world go to school finish and get ur life back on track. If you have nothing now why stay there.You can explore after you graduate and get a job.Just think you dont want to live ur life the way u r living right now forever obviously not you wouldnt be on here askin for advice.Your 20 yrs old and old enough to make responsible descions and you know whats best now not ur father so go for ur dreams.goodluck.,
2007-06-29 21:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by ~~~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go back where you were happy. Everybody lacks motivation when it comes to college/ school. Who really wants to be doing homework all the time instead of traveling. And don't listen to your pops. Finish your degree but follow your dreams too. If you don't make it as a professional musician you can fall back on your degree. Your life is your life. Live, laugh, and love.
2007-06-29 20:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living up to someone elses' expectations will only increase your stress. Since the reason you left the island in the first place was because you lacked motivation, make sure that won't happen again once you return.
If you don't feel comfortable in Holland, consider moving somewhere else nearby. If you truly miss your home, then I encourage you to go home & finish up what you started!
Good luck!
2007-06-29 20:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by mademoiselle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attune
Upside down people are those that go from negative to negative. What you want to do is change your perspective. Things were good before, they will be good again, and actually things seem fairly decent right now.
And actually you have things perty well together comapred to some of the idiots running around the inner city . . . but you would have to meet them to appreciate that.
in the morning, every morning pause for a bit untill you realize that you are having fun on an adventure.
2007-06-29 21:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let others influence you. If your heart isn't in Holland, then explore the world like your dreams want. Do what makes you happy and go places that make you happy.
2007-06-29 20:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by I<3Pink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You are you, you should make your own decisions. Your dad just wants the best for you and if you think or know that I'll be better if you go back then you should do it. My dad used to be a really good singer at his school. He wanted to become a prof. but his dad wanted him to study he listened to his dad and didn't become a prof. But he regrets this. Whatever you do just don't regret it when you become "old" Good luck!
2007-06-29 20:58:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what you want to do....if going back to Curacao is what your feeling...go with that. As far as happiness goes....u may want to see a doctor. Sure a car and friends help with a happier life, but the only way to be truly happy is to be happy with yourself first. i will end this with one of my fave quotes: "Life isn't about finding yourself......life is about creating yourself .....happiness is a choice....it can't be pursued, chased or won!" Best of luck buddy! =o)
2007-06-29 21:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your life not your dads so you gotta do whats gonna give you the most serenity. but you really need to do some things to pull yourself out of depression. and keep in mind that if your a big drinker it may be causing a lot of your depression believe it or not you just gotta look deep and if your spiritual ask for a solution and trust that it will come. keep your chin up. i hope i helped some
2007-06-29 21:02:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋