I get insanely jealous when my bf talks about his ex. It bothers me because even though he says she treated him like crap, he loved her a lot when they dated and the relationship mattered to him. It bothers me that he talks about her fondly. I know he is over her because it was several years ago that they broke up and he is really into me in every way. At the same time, I am driving myself crazy being jealous over her. He talked about his sexual past with her too and it makes me sick to think about him being with anyone else but me, especially someone that he also had strong feelings for. I feel like I am constantly competing with his past and I always wonder about how I compare to the ex that he loved. I always worry about being better and I feel like I will never know for sure. He really matters to me a lot and I am very much in love. How can I deal with this type of jealousy? How can I make myself feel better, while at the same time nurturing the relationship that I have?
2007-06-29 13:52:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all,everything you just said to us,say to him.
communication is the key.if you tell him how you feel about this then,if he is as good as you say he is,he'll consider your feelings and not bring her up around you any more.now if he continues to talk about her then you don't need him in your life.you said that he was "into"you but how does he really feel about you?you shouldn't be jealous over a past love sweetie life's too short and just like you got him you sure can get someone that will return your love send.and one more thing,tell him that if he wants to have a future with you then he needs to leave the past where it is.life is not lived in the past.
2007-06-29 14:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by cyrontae1110 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok honey, stop right there! YOU do not need to, 'make yourself (myself) feel better' while being in this relationship with this man. This is the deal, we all know that you don't like the conversation that deal's with his ex. You need to tell him that it makes you feel uncomfortable that includes the woman, their sex life and the things that made him mad, sad & indifference w/ his ex. It's you now, and if he can't get on with it, obviously he's not fully over the ex, and you might have to make some tough decisions on how you should be treated in this relationship. It's between the two of you, not the two of you AND the ghost of his ex-girlfriend.
2007-07-07 14:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by Vetty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's with you now. There is no reason what so ever that he needs to talk about his ex with you. That should be the rule, plain and simple. That way, the two of you can avoid a lot of problems.
2007-07-07 10:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop worrying so much over something that was over with LONG before you were in the picture.when you grow up some you will have the maturity to understand not all people hate their ex,and there will be fond memories, but there wasn't enough of them or she would not be an ex
2007-07-07 09:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking about other guys and you will see it not always what you really mean. That may be also on his side.
2007-07-07 12:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jesús Ernesto Miguel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and whatever he says, give him your full trust and confidence. If he ruis your trust, that would be the end.
Good luck.
2007-07-06 12:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how u feel
2007-06-29 13:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋