Do you think that love is a real unique feeling, or it is just the evolved form of lust?

Question

I mean what is it like when you really truly fall in love with some body? And what is it’s deference with the times when you sexually get attracted to some body? And do you think that real love will last forever, what makes it immortal?

I just I felt that I was in love two times before but one of them ended in hatred and another ended in a very nice and deep friendship(we’re best friends now but not bf-gf situation anymore), haven’t you ever had the same experience ?

Answer 1

well i find this interesting and have been reading about this area. well there are three phases:lust, romantic love then comes attatchment.these three stages can work together. for exmaple, you can feel deep attachment with a long term person, while you feel romantic love for someone else and lust unrelated to to either partner. therefore it is apparently possable to love more than one person at a time.

the first part to getting with someone begins with the 'gaze'. this is flirting, sometimes i guess you cant realize that your doing it. its all about the eye contact - this is also a intent stare which lasts for 2/3 seconds but feel like forever. at this point pupils dilate. then they look away.

lust is made up and driven by hormones. testosterone and oestrogen. this is made up by many chemical reactions in the body and which is the natural equivelant of heorin.

then comes the smile. the 'upper smile' . this is where you show your upper teeth. this is a sign of strong intrest. the eyebrow is also raised along with the smile, which lasts for a split second. also, the smile where the lips are drawn back, which shows upper and lower teeth is used to pick up one another.

then comes communication. we talk. voices are higher, softer and the subject matter has no purpose. for example, i like your shirt. but is not what u say, but how you say it. ...eventually this leads on to touch. a brush on the arm etc.

romantic love follows. this is falling in love. it involves emotional and physical attributes. again this has all to do with the chemical reaction that occur in our bodies. these hormones create excitment and happiness. love can become addictive. people can become love junkies, where by they have a need to keep falling in love, in order to feel its high, therefore there are many short relationships .

scans show that the brains of people who are deeply in love have the similar scans to people who take cocoain!!!

attachment. this all about staying together as a couple. its a bond. again a this has a lot to do with the body chemicals.

so i hope this helps you to make up your mind on this matter. to me love is confusing. great feeling. but also pain. bitter sweet. i also believe that you can fall in love with someone without really knowing them. as you can pick up a lot a bout someone just by there body language and the way they behave. then again. i think only u know when you have fallen in love. its a strong, powerfull feeling unlike any other and rare. it will hit you and have an impact. you will also love that persons flaws, because thats what makes them who they are. and as a person in love, you are willing to accept that. but being in love doent mean your only attracted to them in a lustfull way. who love them despite that to.

hope that helps you to make up your conclusion. isnt it just fascinating!!!


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Answer 2

True love is the deep understanding bond that two people have for each other. You love someone for everything they are including their faults and weaknesses, and you are attracted to them because of their personality, heart, and soul. When you first meet someone it could be lust at first, but when you fall inlove with them the sexuallity of it becomes just a small part of the relationship. And if you base the relationship on just the sexuallity part of it at first, that could lead to problems down the line. Because it always makes the relationship have complications. Where as if it was based on love, you would have a much stronger base to the relationship to get through the problems that life throws at you once in a while. And that is the kind of love that will last a lifetime.

Answer 3

Love is choice, not a feeling. You learn to love someone throughout your life. It may be the most important part of marriage. It teaches us how to love people. The feeling you are talking about is more lust and infatuation. It will last for a while, but eventually it will go away. It could come back sometimes, but that feeling won't last forever. Real love lasts as long as you choose to make it last. If you quit, then it won't be immortal. If you don't quit, then it will be. I am a Christian and I know that God loves women more than I do, so I can always turn to Him to help me love someone. He really does love people through me, although I'm not really sure how to explain that to someone that doesn't believe. I don't have a wife yet, but if and when I do, I'll rely on God a lot to help me to love her. I'm sure she'll do the same with me.

Answer 4

Love is certainly a real feeling. to ask such a question, it is clear that you have never experienced it. It is possibly the most complex and amazing feeling anyone can ever feel. With that said, there is no real way to define it...but i believe that if you can forsee yourself happy with that person for the rest of your life, then you are most likely love the person. I also believe that love is aquired over a period of time in a couples relationship. It cant be forced upon someone, nor does it really involve any physical pleasure. sex simply enhaces the feelings of love you already have for the person and allows you to bring your relationship to another level...but sex alone will never by any means make you fall in love. that my friend is lust. I dont believe love will always last forever, simply because humans change. thats a fact. However, if feelings are mutual, then yes it will last forever. But, once again...love is extremely complex and i dont believe any one person can really define or explain it (including me). These are simply my beliefs and i hope they my assist you.

Answer 5

That is the problem with today's society, so many people put all of their eggs in one basket from the bery beginning. "I won't know if I love him if I don't kiss him, sleep with him, live with him....etc" What ever happened to getting to know someone (not physically) and really knowing them....I believe that it is when you take the time to truely get to know someone that you will find true love. I tried the dating scene in places that the guys only wanted one thing...you don't find the love of your life there. I actually found the love of my life in church. We didn't kiss until our wedding day (we both had kissed others before...but hadn't had sex) and we have a great marriage!

Answer 6

Love is a real feeling i mean you love a person deep inside for who they are and the body shouldnt matter as much you can feel when a person has as much intrest in you as well as your body too cuz they have to love who you are and what you have.

Answer 7

Personally, I believe in Sylvia Brown and others when they say that our soul mates are not even in this world. But I know I love my husband just as much as my children. My love for my children is definitely NOT you know. Don't even want to put those words in the same sentence:)

SO I guess I vote unique feeling!!!

Answer 8

Lust is when you think of what someone looks like
naked, or stuff like that.

Love is when you want to spend time with tha someone
and just hang out. You're comfortable to just sit around
and look into eachothers eyes. Trust me, once you fall
in love you'll know.

Answer 9

I think it's a real feeling, you'll know when you truly fall in love someone, you just know. When you sleep with them, it's meaningful than when you are with someone you only lust for. I think true love never dies, the feeling never dies if it's real.

Answer 10

Lust is something that comes and goes Love is forever just like a diamond.