Do I need a ring to propose?

Question

Is it necessary to have a ring, or is it okay if I get a fake?

Answer 1

It's not necessary to have the ring. A small legion of women like to go with their fiance's to pick out the ring so you could always get if after she says yes but do not go with a fake. She may take it to be appraised or sized and find out the stone isn't real then. Just ask and if she says yes then go ring shopping for something small right now.

Answer 2

I wonder if I'm reading the question differently than the others ... are you saying, you want to fool her with a fake ring (instead of a real one)? Or that you plan to get a real one, but you want to propose first, then buy the ring later?

If it's the first -- dude, that would suck. Buy what you can afford, but don't try to fake her out. That would be lame.

If it's the second --

If she is REALLY particular about her clothes, jewelery, accessories, etc. (or, how can I say this nicely, somewhat of a control freak), definitely propose with the fake ring. She will know exactly what she wants in a setting and stone (i.e., what shape she wants -- the ring she has been dreaming about may not have a round stone, and it may not be a diamond). Also, she may want to buy an engagement ring that is part of a set. Better to give her total control over the finished product. Before you propose, set up an appointment with a trusted jeweler who you have already met and checked out. When you propose, acknowledge up front that this is a fake ring, and explain that you want the real ring to be the ring of her dreams, and then tell her the date she will get to meet the jeweler to pick her perfect ring.

If she isn't a total control head, I agree with the other posters -- pick the diamond you think she'd like, put it in a plain setting and propose with that.

Answer 3

It would be NICE to have a ring when you propose, but it is not needed.

I would think about what your girlfriend would wish to have. Would she mind not having a ring when you propose?

Do you mean fake as in a cracker jack ring?

Do you plan on replacing it with an actual engagement ring?

Is it finances that are holding you up from getting a ring?

If your g/f is understanding then go ahead and propose without a ring.

But if/when you get an actual engagement ring, ask her again, that would be a sweet surprise.

Answer 4

No it is not necessary to propose with no ring, but don't get a fake. Make it sincere, and say that you didn't get a ring because you want her to pick out her ring.
If you want to propose with a ring, take her ring shopping, get an idea of what her style isand her ring size. then pick a time when you think its perfect to ask

Answer 5

I wouldn't propose with a fake ring, expecting to fool her. She'll find out eventually, and it will be perceived as a lie. But, if you aren't sure what kind of ring to get her, you could propose with something else. If you are a funloving couple, you could propose with a candy ringpop, a bug gaudy fake ring, or a plastic kiddie ring. Or, you could get her another piece of jewelery, like a necklace or bracelet. Then let her help pick out the real engagement ring.

Answer 6

I think it depends on the proposal... if it is amazingly planed and thought about, although you just can't afford the ring, I think any girl would be so happy she wouldn't really realize the ring thing...although it does depend on the girl.... To me the best thing to do is buy a nice ring and keep paying on it, trust me most girls want at least 6mths to plan their perfect day so you have that time to pay it off without her ever knowing how much you spent or didn't spend on it. The best time to buy a ring is around a holiday they are always on sale... and remember it is no the size of the rock, but the love that you two share..... I hope you surprise her and woe her either way, best of Luck!

Answer 7

Yes it's necessary to give her a real ring. You're proposing marriage, it's not something you should be taking lightly.

If money is an issue, get an inexpensive diamond ring. If you two are in the position to be considering marriage, she should realize your financial situation and marrying you is part of that. You can always get her a better ring as an anniversary present.

Answer 8

You do not actually have to have a ring with you when you propose, at all. It would honestly be better to propose sincerely and with feeling, and tell her you'd like her input in picking out a ring that she would love, than to use a fake!

Answer 9

You do not need a ring to propose.
If she is worth being your wife she is worth a decent ring. You can make payments on a bridal set. No woman wants a fake wedding ring!

Answer 10

If you would like her to choose a ring then I would propose with an empty box and the promise to take her ring shopping. Yes you can use a temporary ring maybe an inexpensive one that she can still keep and wear until you buy her the permanent ring.