I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and i love him to death but I have this friend thats a boy and I call him my bestfriend because I can talk to him about anything..he's my ace. Anyways me and my "bestfriend" have this undeniyable chemistry that I cant ignore and the worst part is that we have had sex TWICE (yes, i cheated). I love my boyfriend but I think I love my "bestfriend" too. It's hard for because I cant just dump one... and I want both but I know thats impossible. With my "bestfriend" we do stuff with no strings attached yet we talk all the time and I have SO much fun with him. My boyfriend is my heart and soul the one I wanna be with forever but the chemistry is so undeniable I cant let go of it. What am I supposed to do?
2007-06-29 12:37:35 · 7 answers · asked by partyanimalkg12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to tell you this, especially because you probably already know, but you're going to have to get rid of one of them. I was in the SAME EXACT situation, but I was playing the role of your "best friend." My guy friend and I started fooling around with no strings attached. Then, six months later, fell in love with each other and he couldn't be honest about what he was doing because she was getting suspicious of us (rightfully so). And from then it became a mess. It all blew up and the three of us had this nasty love triangle going on with him in the middle not having any clue what to do. And that was the problem. Even though he didn't want to...all he did was cause pain and drama in all our lives. It wasn't his intention, but it couldn't be helped.
You get where I'm going with this? As much as it sucks, you have to make a decision. If you don't, eventually, it'll blow up and could cause so much more harm. Obviously, I can't tell you what to do and you're going to do what you want to do, but I'm just telling you to be careful. Figure out which one is really, really for you and try to do what's best...otherwise, you may end up with neither one of them.
2007-06-29 13:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know. But I think u need to dump ur bestfriend because u u said that u love ur boyfriend is ur heart and ur soul. And u can ask ur boyfriend if u can create or add something to ur life. U need to add a chemistry. And u need to tell ur boyfriend that u cheated on him because u felt that he didn't like u. Maybe it's not a good idea, but u need to tell him evantually
2007-06-29 12:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by flint carter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be a good girlfriend you gotta choose. You can't expect the bf to be OK with this relationship. Think about how you would feel if he had a girl best friend. Its also not really fair to your best friend; I don't know, but he's probably kinda waiting for you, and if your not sure, he could be missing many opportunities to be happy.
Be good to your self and make a choice! Good luck!
2007-06-29 12:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by sugarcookie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you love him to death. not a good sign for me. i rather be loved not loved to death. thats like loving them to die. well have you considered 3 some? you get what you wanted, 2 guys. well then, you should find a guy that has both the qualities you want. one you can talk to about anything and whos fun, and what your current boy friend is that you love. you have discovered more of yourself.
2007-06-29 14:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok before i even read your content, you cant love 2 guys its not possible. Either you love one and have a lust for the other or you just have a lust for both.
Ok now im gona read it.
Sounds to me like you cant be confined to one person.. sorry hun but if you cant keep yourself to one person you better hope that he dosent mind that. If i had a girl who wasent loyal enough to stick to me then it would be over, plain and simple.
2007-06-29 12:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by neohnecrosis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can recommend you do is listen to your heart, and try to figure out which one of those guys you really want to be with. I know it would be a difficult decision, but I'm sure they would both appreciate your honesty.
2007-06-29 12:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go to India and have them both, or you can have a BATTLE ROYAL.
2007-06-29 12:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by Ray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋