my parents ALWAYS say is something wrong when im acting down.. and there really is something rong but i dont want to tell them and i say no.. i just feel like i cant tell them anything.. and its really bad cuz i have no one to tell all my problems except to some of my best friends... i know they mean the best and they just want to help .. but like i have a girlfriend and they dont really know.. and im afraid to tell cuz they might make me break up with her which would suck cuz i really like her.. i just feel like if they knew all my problems.. theyd know me too much.. and they might not agree with everything.. and i just dont know what to do
2007-06-29 11:40:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You probably dont want to hear this but your parents are the first persons you should talk to. You dont have to go into detail but just let them know a little about what you are going through ( thats why they are your parents they are there to help you and guide you) Believe me when things are wrong with my children I know it, they are a part of me and when they hurt, I hurt. They have been in your spot too its hard for a teen ager to understand their parents were young once and went through about the same things you are experiencing. As far as your friends if you want to go out with a girl go for it they will have to get over it or hit the curb. You have every right to have a girlfriend. As far as your parents knowing you too much that will never happen but let them in to some parts of your life after all they raised you since you were born. I bet they know more about you than you do lol
2007-06-29 13:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by corkscrew62816 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them - parents are so on target about things. You may feel uncomfortable, but they are your parents and they will be with you the rest of your life - not many friends are. Just remember that there's nothing like having people who really love you - guide you through life (you'll know they'll never do anything to harm you and its in your best interest). They obviously already know you well enough to figure out that something is wrong, they just want you to have faith in them and trust them to help you through your rough times - after all - that's what parents are for!
2007-06-29 18:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by jessie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start keeping a journal. That way you are getting your feelings out and will end up feeling better by letting things go. Try little steps with your parents if you want to get closer to them. Tell them small things that don't really matter when they ask why you are down. Find someone you can talk to.
2007-06-29 18:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by vancie121 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Evidently you are doing something you are ashamed of. Why wouldn't your parents like your girlfriend if you didn't give them a chance. See kids always claim their parents do not understand them, but do not take the time to talk to your parents. Your parents should be the closet friends you have because when everything in life gets hetic, they will always be the one to make you feel better.
2007-06-29 18:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Miss. Tee98 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, i feel the same that u do when it comes to ur parents knowing things. my parents don't know a thing about me. i didn't tell them about my boyfriends because i werent sure how they would react. we'd always fight when we lived together. im 17 , and i just graduated from highschool. and since my parents moved out of our house to another one and took my sister and left me, i realized me not talking them could have been the reason of driving them away. now we are kind of able to talk more. i urge you to try and open up with your parents. i started to and things go so much better then did prior. don't start with big things in your life, like your girlfriend, start with little things like what you have been up to or something! just an idea!
2007-06-29 20:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by chica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can your parents make you break up with your girlfriend? If you don't feel comfortable talking with your parents, find another family member or a trusted friend to talk to. It sounds like you have a lot of things bottled up inside you. Get them out. You will feel better.
2007-06-29 18:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Max 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its okay to feel the way you do..but your parents want to know you. I understand that as a teenager you are trying to figure yourself out...but hey remember..it wasn't that long ago your parents were teenagers too. They might be able to help you out. Just go ask...and talk to them. Thats what they are there for. To help you grow into the adult that you need to be to survive in this world.. But you dont have to tell them everything! They do want to know about their son though...enlighten them....
2007-06-29 18:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents are there for you to help you become a great person and to disagree and agree with you. they want what's best for you. you need to learn to open up to them and let them know how you feel because i don't think they'll give a negative response back, they'll be there to tell you how you feel and help you. tell them about your girlfriend. they can't make you break up with her and i think they would actually want to meet your girlfriend. things are not as tense when you let your parents in on some of the details in life.
2007-06-29 19:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mandie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to talk to your parents. you may not want to but in the end all they care about is your happiness. Unless your parents are complete as s and care only about themselves and how you make them look, they won't make you break up with you gf. If you feel as if you really can't talk to them try another adult or a therapist.
2007-06-29 18:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude parents are always going to be in your business until you move out of the house. I say start talking and opening up more to them. It could help you in the future.
2007-06-29 18:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋