I have known my bf for 6 months now, and he is probably the most amazing person I have ever met. He's sweet, kind, decent, good-looking, and I am 100% certain he wants to marry me someday. We started dating a while ago, he's 18 and I'm 14, and I know that sounds bad, but we're both very mature for our ages. We live very far apart, and only know each other because he is my best friend's step brother. He even gets upset sometimes because he really wants to see me, and he doesn't even think he's good enough for me. ANYWAY... Of course we say 'I love you' all the time, we're actually kind of wierd about it, but lately he's seemed off. He asked me to take off my shirt for him, and I did it even though it kind of bothered me I really cared about him so I did, but once he realised how much it bothered me, he promised he would never ask me again. (This was on cam.) He then asked if I would do it in person, and I said yes for the same reasons. But now he's looking forward to it
2007-06-29 11:37:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...and I have no idea how to tell him it would be too wierd for me. Now, I know what you're thinking, because I've read TONS of these before "He's just trying to get into your pants, he doesn't really love you, he's too old, blah blah blah" but I know that isn't true. He dated my friend and she said he was 100% decent with her,and never said ANYTHING like this to her, and he said there's just something about me that makes him act all wierd around me, and I do believe him because he is sincere and I KNOW he does love me, he even said he would NEVER ask me for sex until I was over 18 and ready for it, which I admire about him. I know he wants to spend his life with me, and I don't want advice about how to dump him 'because he's a jerk' because he isn't and I really want to emphisize that. I just want to know: How can I tell him this makes me uncomfortable?
By the way: I would like to say I am NOT doing things for him because he would break up with me otherwise, I know he wouldn't.
2007-06-29 11:42:47 · update #1
HE DOESN'T GIVE A DAMN ABOUT YOU HE WANT TO GET INTO YOUR PANT AND PLUS WHY WOULD BE WITH SOMEONE WHO WAS WITH YOUR FRIEND IF HE WAS SO GREAT WHY IS YOU FRIEND NOT WITH HIM OR MARRIED TO HIM ......YOUR YOUNG GO LIVE YOUR LIFE YOU SETTING YOUR SELF UP FOR DISAPPOINTMENT
2007-07-07 10:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way. There are several at home treatments you can try. I find relaxation techniques such as yoga, breathing exercises stretching can work. Finding a happy place, a fun memory or favorite activity you can think about. For some people music will work, playing a favorite song can alter you mindset. If you feel as though nothing works it is always advisable to go talk to a therapist. There may be something triggering your stress that can be resolved. Good luck.
2016-05-19 00:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be completely, 100% open about how you feel. You know that if he truly loves you like you say he does then he will understand and back off. You've gotta communicate to have a relationship!
2007-07-07 10:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably not going to marry you he just wants to get in you pants. This has been a male game ever since the begging. I know I'm a male.
2007-07-07 00:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by Old Man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
worried? its your gut feeling. if he asks you to do something you feel uncomfortable, and said he wouldn't push, they why worry? so say no.
men have one goal, and women always paint it something else. he's 18. period. may seem reliable to you, but truth is in your gut feeling, and in the eyes of those with more experience.
you should be getting relationship data now by dating those more your age, with less experience, and live closer by. life is short, enjoy the child/teenager-hood for the short time you have it. there are 60-70 years of being adult.
2007-07-07 11:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by almondsarenuts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will u should tell him how u feel. because if u really like him then u should never keep anything away from him. and since he really likes u then he will understand. cause true feelings should always be said in a relationship.
2007-07-07 10:38:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you like you say he does, you should just tell him that it makes you a little uncomfortable, but you still love him very much. Surely he will understand, so you shouldn't have a problem. :-)
2007-06-29 12:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be 100% open and just tell him. He'll understand if he really does love you.
2007-07-06 21:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him you don't wanna do that and if he's he cares for you you he'll understand if not dump him you're only 14.
2007-07-07 11:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by olivette12000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your worried b/c you don't want 2 lose him. He's like a good guy and a good guy is hard to find, and no one wants to let go of a good guy.
2007-07-07 10:14:56 · answer #10 · answered by Torturing Taylee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋