I have been with my fiance for 4yrs. We have had our up and downs. We have had verbal fights as well as physical. He doesnt trust me going out with my friends or making new ones. I have lied about certain things in my past but the past is the past. The way I feel about him today isn't the same person I fell in love with 4yrs ago. Recently he took a job out of state and wants me to move with him. I have a good paying job and family here. I would be giving all that up. To move somewhere that I will not beable to find a job that pays as much. I also have met a guy that is so nice(no we havent done anything) and have had dinner a couple times as friends only. The thing is he is all I think about even when I close my eyes but he wasn't the settling down type. So I decided to go ahead and move in a month but now I am unsure. I need some advice
2007-06-29 11:24:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To be honest everything already sound as if tho it is going down a bad path verbal/physical fights he already don't trust you with your friends. Do you think he would want you to make new friends when you do move out of state with him you already know the answer to that so you will be lonely there and he will have more control over you which is the main reason why he's doing this move in the first place if i was you i would stay where i am at because it will only get worse I am sure that you can see that already and this is why you asked you want validation on what you already know you need to do and want to do what you have been telling yourself over and over again go with your gut feeling it will never lead you wrong weight the pros against the cons i can tell you already the pros win.
2007-06-29 11:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by EGYPT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this is a hard one,
you just got to put your self and what you want first.
but make sure you really know what that is before making the decision.
maybe going with him will be a good thing for the both of you but you say he isnt the same guy u fell in love 4yrs ago, maybe you should really sit back and take a look at ur life like i said and make sure thats what you want if there are any doubts then talk to him tell him how u are feeling. its not good to keep things bottled up. it just gets harder
2007-06-29 11:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by stace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so your shacking with a guy who for the last 4 yrs hasnt married you yet, he has hit you, you argue a lot and youd rather have him than no one at all?I would MUCH rather be alone than stuck with someone I can't stand.As far as him not trusting you, I wouldn't trust a girl who has "DATES" with guys she is interested in leaving me for.Can I get a duh huh here?You will be moving to a place where he can REALLY abuse you if you p_ss him off.Here is what you do, tell him no thank you and get out on your OWN, then go to E-harmony and see if they can match you up with someone who thinks like you do, has the same values etc.Do not drag out this pathetic relationship anymore.Don't get involved with guys who want to shack you instead of marry you.You aren't getting any younger BUT you can STILL afford to be picky so do NOT settle for something just because it seems better than nothing, because it ain't hon.
2007-06-29 11:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt make a move like that unless I was completly positive it was the right decision. It doesnt sound like you guys are really made for each other and it does happen people fall out of love. So if it were me I wouldnt be moving with him.
2007-06-29 11:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by feb29 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously? You want a toy? Well I wager females have their demands as good. Kudos on being open approximately it. You earned my recognize. Anyways, cross with the child and run to the shop and get your self a couple of batteries to make use of day after today. I doubt that it is that dangerous that you simply could require the use of your toy this night.
2016-09-05 10:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by carol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to anyone who tells you to go. He's a jerk. You know this or you'd be with him already. Don't go. Start over. Of course you'll probably just prove that you're a typical all emotions no actual brains woman and go dripping to him to get your head beat in so just, yeah, go have fun with that.
2007-06-29 11:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you would have to forfeit your career and proximity to your family for the sake of this relationship, so it depends on how much you value each aspect of your life. I think only you can decide how much you value each.
2007-06-29 11:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by kirbyguy44 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice for you would be that if your are unsure about your relationship then i wouldnt move dont give up your life if you are not sure that is the best thing for you if you are unsure then that should be your clue right there
2007-06-29 11:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by southern angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four Years? Where's the wedding ring?
2007-06-29 11:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by Max 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you are really loves him you will everything as you think he deserve but when i looked to what you have written i feel that you love to him become in low stage so my advice to you is to make what your brain and heart tell you as our lives is group of experiences teaches us not to fall in the wrong twice
2007-06-29 11:32:52 · answer #10 · answered by miracle_student_scientist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋