I suffer from Borderline personality disorder. I need some feedback/help.?

Question

Why do people treat me like I'm crazy OR accuse me of acting out when I'm really unleashing all the bottled up anger, sadness & frustration over many years? What really sux is I am unemployed therefore my resources for getting help are very limited & I feel screwed b/c I have tried every SSRI or ani depressant to little or no avail.

PLEASE NO Christian crap: I am an atheist Tyvm & nothing or no1 will change my mind.

AGAIN: PLEASE No God or Jesus BS! What part of ATHEIST don't you understand! If there was a GOD he'd make it go the hell away & I'd be fine so piss on God!

I also have severe depression, anxiety, impatience, social anxiety disorder, agoraphobia, hypochondria, eating disorder & OCD. Can that ALL be related to BPD or are some them different disorders altogether.

I REPEAT : NO GOD LOVES YOU BS!!!!! I am an ATHEIST!

Answer 1

borderline personality still has a very big amount of stigma around it. I know this as I have BPD as well as bipolar. I am totally open about the bipolar but not the BPD. there are loads of different meds out there that might be of more help like mood stabilizers could be something good to look at as a option. Also a very good therapy that is siad to work for BPD is DBT (Dialectical behavioral therapy)
take care good luck

Answer 2

I also have BPD. Medication can help with some of the symptoms of BPD, like mood stabilizers and/or atypical antipsychotics, but BPD is a learned emotional disorder, and no medication can address it in full. Antidepressants can actually trigger a manic episode in a borderline, because we so often tend to have symptoms similar to bipolar disorder.

DBT has proven to be the most successful treatment method for BPD to date, but it's a skills training class, not group therapy. Classes can be pricey, so check and see if your county or municipality offers DBT classes through a community program.

Check out www.mindfulmind.com for more information and helpful resources. There is a book called "Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified" by Dr. Robert Friedel - I've read a number of books on BPD, and his is far and above the best IMO.

In direct answer to your question though, unleashing bottled up anger, sadness and frustration is pretty much acting out. There are healthier ways of processing what you've been through without unleashing anything except your self-esteem.

ALSO - check out the Yahoo group "borderline". Open ONLY to those who have been diagnosed BPD, it's a safe place to speak openly about your experiences and get advice/feedback from people who won't judge you or be scared away when you're in an episode.

Hope to see you there.

mrscjr

Answer 3

Therapy is likely to be the most helpful treatment for you as the corrective experience it provides allows you work through the interpersonal abuse and neglect that caused the disorder to develop. It's not a quick fix however and may take years. If your resources are limited, you can still access a mental health clinivc as most operate on a sliding scale if you have no insurance. You can also try Catholic Charities in your area (if they provide counseling services-not all do) and rest assured that the therapy you would receive has absolutely nothing to do with religion-yours or theirs-it only related to how they are funded and there is no religious bias whatsoever which I agree would be offensive and unwelcome.
An excellent book that is cheap and available is "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" which really explains BPD and may help you develop some insight into your behavior, but more importantly to realize the impact it has on others. This is critical as oftentimes your behavior towards others when you are angry ends up pushing away those pople you most wish to draw closer and thereby precipitates the rejection you try so hard to avoid-that's the paradoxical nature of the disorder and how the core beliefs and fears become self-fulfilling prophecies. Marsha Linehan's Skills Manual is the basis of DBT and if you are motivated and insightful, there is no reason why you could not purchase the book and read/practice the skills in it on your own. The downside is not having a therapist or group which provides a safe place to practice those skills or the benefit of the corrective experience, however there is much you can learn from reading the book itself.
People treat you like you're crazy because your reactions appear based on a rigid set of perceptions and beliefs rather than on the actual interpersonal dynamics. It's as though you interpret all interactions through a distorted lens and when you act on these distorted perceptions, others react to your behavior and it sets off a chain of self-fulfilling disappointments. Learning how to see people's strengths and flaws together without needing a person to be "all good" or "all bad" will help you make more realistic appraisals of others, reduce your disappointment in them and therby reduce your rage, hence decreasing your reactivity.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

Something that is being discovered is that Borderline Personality Disorder is being TREATED much more effectively when you use a new model. Don't let your therapist consider it an untreatable personality disorder. Find a therapist experienced with dissociative disorders, experienced with working with DID, the new name for Multiple Personality Disorder.

It may seem odd, but BPD is caused by many little traumas, in much the same way that DID is caused by many bigger traumas, so the dynamics are the same. Read books on MPD/ DID (some listed below) and I think you'll feel much better & get faster results!

Answer 5

ok, lets see if this helps. It's because they are IGNORANT. It's hard believe me. I suffer from Bipolar Disorder and have for the last 20 years. I just recently started receiving SSDI payments and the help of a lawyer who by the way charges only if you win. Then in my case I never saw any of that money anyhow and plus didn't need it because I got a large lump of back pay. I do work part time, and have a great med doc and did have a therapist but now I don't need her. You need to gather every resource you can and maybe get a friend you trust to help. Calling everyone and every organization you know to help you through this mess. There are drugs out there that work, but it sounds like you need a break from "life" so you can work on these issues.

Answer 6

BPD is a very serious disorder that brings a mountain of pain to the patient as well as his/her family. I think people may be 'treating you as if you're crazy" because they are frightened by how angry and sad you are. There are many community mental health services that you may avail yourself of, if you are unemployed, call your local health dept and explain the problem - They really are there to help !
If your SSRI is not working (and I am sure you know that they take about 6 weeks to 'kick in') then for the love of Pete - go back to the DR and get something else ! You deserve some peace, and should stay on top of the DR's who are giving ineffectual advice. Good luck to you !

Answer 7

Its alright I'm Buddhist, lol well, nevermind about that, I know what you mean about the God converters though, trust me. I'm not going to tell you something you don't want to hear either. People treat you like your crazy because your not acting like them , " the norm" simple as that. As for pills, I find pills not to be that effective and pointless really, you are feeling what your feeling, why ignore it. My advice, try deep breathing exercises, just try to relax yourself, drive off to some isolated area and just get away from it all for a while, take a little vacation from the craziness of society. My boyfriend's dad has some bottle up anger issues, and apparently he gets relief out of breaking ****, so, perhaps try breaking something or take a bat to a tree. Your not crazy , people are people, no one is better, less, or equal to you, we are all simply people, once you realize this you will see that changing your mental state is not all that challenging.

- P.S I have learned also, the more you reveal your distaste for god the more they will think you are possessed or in need of god's love so just cut down on that and you should be fine. I don't mean to put down other religions, but sometimes it gets annoying.

- goodbye my love.

Answer 8

People accuse you of acting out because you are. That is a big part of BPD.

I was diagnosed 9 years ago. I, however, didn't act out. I kept all my feelings inside most of my life. Eventually, my subconscious decided it was time to deal with a lifetime of feelings and I developed chronic back pain. A million tests later the doctors decided there was nothing biologically wrong with me and sent me to a clinical psychologist. He knew early on that I had BPD and also major depression. I did some research and asked him and he confirmed it. He doesn't like labels.

I learned that the accepted length of therapy for BPD is ten years (Psychoanalysis). I'm in my tenth year of therapy and it has saved my life. I know I will never stop therapy. There is a fairly new therapy being used successfully called dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). Marsha Linehan developed it. It might be an idea to Google DBT and the name of your city. Maybe you'll come up with something. Spell it out though, don't use DBT.

There is a book that might help you. It is called "Lost in the Mirror." It helped explain why I was the way I was.

Good luck.

Answer 9

There is usually a state supported mental health program where you can get hooked up with counselors, doctors and medications. Check out the phone book in your area.

Answer 10

Try an outlet like painting or writing...do anything creative that makes you feel good. Also meditation to some relaxing music may help when you are agitated. Do what feels good to you. Good luck.