girfriend getting mad at me, kidna tearing us apart? what can i do to not think so much like a guy?

Question

ok.. well latly i have been thinking alot about sex. now before you answer this telling me how im just like everyother guy... listin.. we have been going out for like 3 years.. we went from having sex like 7-8 days a week... to like 2-3 times a week... and alot of times... when were alone at home.. i wanna do stuff ;).. but shes never in the mood... and i get mad cuz shes not in the mood anymore... so what should i do? I HATE THINKING about sex like this... it just started a few weeks ago.. how do i make it stop???? its seriously starting to make me mad, lol, and my girlfriend is gettign mad becasue she feels like all i want is sex, which its NOT all i want!... im just a little more excited than her latly? lol please just help me, i want to go back to normal. help!

Answer 1

People get tired of the same thing over and over, and most people want what they can't have, and making is so easy makes it undesirable. It's good now and then to play heard-to-get, and make it more desirable. Its probably good to discuss it with her, and find some area of compromise.

Answer 2

Contrary to popular opinion, some women think about sex as much as guys. If you really feel that you are thinking about it to much then you might want to see a thereapist. There might be things triggering the thoughts/desires. Remember that often times with women, sex is more than just the action itself. Have you tried some romance and simply holding her, even when you are in the mood. --There is the question of whether or not you went from living seperately (creating a higher excitement of being able to be intimate when you could) to living together? Sometimes as you grow, you can grow apart if you aren't communicating enough or perhaps her love language has changed? Try reading the book: The Five Love Languages----it might help.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

maybe you are suspicious of why she doesnt want sex anymore like she use to. she changed the rhythm you two began with. This is normal the way you are acting. when someone is singing out of tune, it sounds different and the music may not sound as appealing when someone changes course and starts singing a diferent tune. Listen to the new music and take it as a new tune. Then see if you can dig it and not take it personal. Otherwise you will not get back to normal. I was there and I am the female that was like you. He just got comfortable with me and was stressed out. SO he says. I was ok with that then all of a sudden he was back to his horny self. But i liked the tune of the no sex guy and it just didnt work out. But good luck to you two.

Answer 4

Try your best to respect her and not have sex with her. I know how she feels and she probably thinks that it is all you do, even if its not. She probably wants to talk more and cuddle without doing anything sexual. Try this for a week. Take her out to eat, watch movies with her. And dont do anything more then hold her hand in public. When you are alone cuddle with her and let he make all of the moves. This way you know she is in the mood.

Good luck

Answer 5

I think people's sexual desires usually ebb and flow depending on a lot of things. You shouldn't have to apologize for it and neither should she. I'm wondering though if you're making her feel like a piece of meat now by pawing at her or turning everything she says into a sexual innuendo. Show her how much you appreciate her by taking her out to dinner or to a movie or just telling her how wonderful she is without trying to put any moves on her.

Answer 6

Don;t let ur hormones get in to ur way
do other stuff with her like cook a great meal for her and pick her up at school or work show her that you care not all you wanted is sex. and what happens if she gets pregnant? are you able to raise a baby? have you thought about all this yet? do some stuff with her that shows that you care . make her something with ur own hands

Answer 7

your day does not have to end with sex. believe it or not you are in control of ALL your actions. and actions bring consecuences. so take positive, productive attitudes and thought into your relationship. ask your girlfriend what she would like to do. if she continues to not be in the mood but to stay in then u need to decide if this is a relationship you want to work on. you see, sex and that's for everybody start with a BANG at first then it becomes boring because that's what we tend to focus on when in a relationship, instead of having fun. its summer, go out, amusement park, beach, concerts, you name it. let your girl know your intentions, if she is uncooperative and just wants to be a homebody, then let it go. that's not healthy, life is meant to be lived, and doing it with wisdom and style. check yourself, you can only work on you. your girl is responsible for herself. If you and her are not compatible in nothing else but sex. then it will be a BORING relationship.

Answer 8

dont try anything with her ,let her come to you or ask you about sex,maybe she stopped having sex b/c she met someone else (you never know could be a possiblity)another thing you could do is masterbate if shes not in the mood or try kissing more or hugging non sexual stuff or cuddling watching a movie

Answer 9

to get her to have sex- dont pounce on her, talk her up, women love that. let her know that you want to have sex with her because she is just irresistable to you! also try a little foreplay, kiss her, seduce her. make it so she cant help but want to jump all over you.
if this doesnt work and she refuses-let her know your going to have fun on your own and that it has nothing to do with you likeing porn more than her, its just that. . .well your horney.
most of all just be honest with her. theres a very real possibility shes just having some issues and if you can resolve them. . .well i think you know. dont try to change tho, your horny for a reason and shes gonna have to accept that

Answer 10

Men are physical
Women our emotions.
Tell here you love her ought times and you ll get as much sex as you want.