How can i stop feeling like the black sheep of the family??
My sister who lives down south is getting married, me and my other sister are bridesmaids, my other sister who only lives a couple of miles away organised a pre-hen night for tonight and only remembered to invite me after i rang her to discuss the hen night about half an hour ago! of course its too late for me to go now!
Anyone else got family like that, that live with/ or near, but still seem to forget that you exist until you remind them?
2007-06-29 10:23:48 · 19 answers · asked by Unhinged.... 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i am 1 of 2 sisters so its a bit different. i did live away for 9 years, had 3 kids while my sis lived at home. i felt a bit pushed out although i was the only 1 with kids so i took a back seat anyway and i'm the eldest and my sis is dyslexic so from an early age i was used to reading alone whilst my parents helped her. not a help to you but i do understand x
2007-06-29 11:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by bemusedconfused 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bravo to Karen and Tattylashes. I'm also the black sheep of our family. At one time it used to worry me and i would try my upmost to please my family. At the end of the day no matter what i did it wasn't good enough. Yes it made me very depressed and had to have councelling. It was suggested that if i had something to say to someone i had to say it. If they didn't like it, they were the ones with the problem, not me.
Since i started to speak my mind, all my family started to turn against me and stopped speaking. I havn't spoke to my mum for 4 years now and i don't speak to any of my sisters or brother. For the first time in my life i feel really great, cos i dont have to answer to anyone and can live my life how i want to. People say you only have one mum. If i could have chose my mum it certainly wouldn't have been her. She's nothing but a hardfaced MOO.
2007-06-29 18:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by panda 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Before you point fingers at your family, you might want to evaluate how you treat them as well. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our own lives, we forget to make those phone calls or send those emails. If you are doing all you can to maintain the relationship with your family and they are not making any effort, then you should make it a point to stay in closer contact with them. You should even talk with your sister and tell her that you are hurt at not being able to attend the pre-hen night acdtivities because someone forgot to get in touch with you until it was too late.
Stick to your guns and stay in close contact with all of your family. Make sure they know you are thinking of them even when they are not thinking of you.
Good luck!
2007-06-29 17:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
was there a venue for you to have the hen party? it sounds like there was,as you say,they organised the party for tonight, so you must of known about it,they would,nt of thought to invite you anyway,your a sister,do you need an invitation? they knew you,d go anyway,unless something else could have stopped you from going,then you would have told them,it,s not being taken for granted that you would go,it,s because your a sister you don,t need to be invited,i think your making yourself feel like the black sheep,not your sisters.
2007-06-29 18:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by paul49177 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is hard but I would call her out on it. I would say to her why she did that and how could she forget to invite you of all people...I would tell her that it hurts and that at times you feel like a black sheep and a outsider in our own family...Don't be the victim.Stand up for yourself...!
2007-06-29 17:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by benzmom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im the black sheep of my family cuz I say what I think and they cant handle it...I have very little to do with any of them any more...My mum hasnt spoke to me for over 8 years...and like you i live miles away from them..You just have to make the most of what you have got...you cant chose your family but you can your friends...and if you find a true friend...they are worth a billion. dont let it bring u down... :o)
2007-06-29 17:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by karen 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, no. I was the black sheep of the family and for a couple of years, I barely spoke to my family. Now my mom calls me almost every day. I really surprised them by going from a party girl to a workaholic. I'm so amazingly responsible it's strange. Don't panic. You'll be fine.
2007-06-29 17:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by nita5267 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Thats family for you, don't take it too heart. Just go to the hen party, you will regret it later
2007-06-29 17:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say yell at her and ask her why she forgot to invite you. you might have to get mad about this and let them know you are mad. i get that sometimes from my family but i made it a point to be in the middle of it all. althought sometimes i get dragged into things i would rather stay out of.
but yeah my best advise is to have it out with her or you can plan something an not invite her so she sees how it feels.
2007-06-29 17:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by c_greiff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we all can feel like this at times, I certainly have! Just hang in there because things will improve and if they dont you will just learn that it isn't a big deal, if you have friends and support around you x x
2007-06-29 17:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by twinkletoes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋