I am irish I have had to move back at short notice to look after my termanilly ill father. My gf thinks I have abandoned her and her daughter but i intend to come back as soon as things are over whats everyones views
2007-06-29 10:18:55 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ahh well in the process of being dumped
2007-06-29 12:14:14 · update #1
my gf has made the point that this is only one point of view she says that isnt me leaving that is the problem it is the fact that i didnt consult enough with her, that it was just what i wanted. Any views
2007-06-29 21:50:52 · update #2
her point bout one point of view is correct
2007-06-29 21:53:04 · update #3
i have just sat here and read these answers to the question ....ok its probably how anyone would first respond readin this but i l would like to know what gives you the right to judge someone that u do not know or have not heard her side, things are always deeper than whats on the surface or written about on a view lines on here sometimes .......... its to easy to judge and have one sided views what does that achieve ?
2007-06-30 00:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Women are creatures of conversation. Sometimes we assume the worst, until we hear it said otherwise. Explain to your girlfriend that you really do intend to come back and be the man she loves. She needs to hear those exact words so she won't wonder or worry. It might be hard to be in her situation, there are so many what ifs when it comes to a relationship. Tell her everything you know and plan to do so she gets the whole picture. Also explain that while you're with your family you will need to be strong and be as much help to your Dad as possible. Don't let this stress you out any more than you already are.
2007-06-29 10:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jennie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. Your father needs you now. You have to be there for you dad and once everything is over you will be satisfied that you have done all you could to help him. I know from experience, my mother passed away last year and I spent all the time I could with her. The only difference was that my husband supported me all the way. I think your girlfriend is acting selfish but do not worry she will get over it.
Do what you have to do. Take Care, I wish you all the best.
2007-06-29 10:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by superstar68 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is being unfair. I can understand her being upset because you have had to move and leave her behind. You need to make it clear to her what your intentions are and what your plans are down the road....Let her know what your going through is hard enough and its even more difficult without her love and support....Is it possible for her to come there with the child?? If so, tell her if she can save the money she is welcome to join you. But I can tell you that your need to comended for stepping up and putting your life on hold for your ill Father that is not an easy thing to do!
2007-06-29 10:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by benzmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend loves you then she will stop being so selfish and let you be there for your father. You have the rest of your life to spend with this woman and only a short time left with your father. She should be more sensitive.
2007-06-29 10:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Selfish to the very core mate, he's your father for crying out loud and you need to be with him at this very difficult time.
When my mum was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer my life went on hold, if my b/f had accused me of being selfish because of this, he'd have been shown the door and then some!
My heart truly goes out to you mate, it's heart breaking seeing a parent going through this and your g/f should be encouraging you and be proud of you, instead of acting like a spoilt child who cant have all the candy from the shop!
Take care and god bless. x x
She really aint worth a carrot mate, she's shown her true colours, you concentrate on you dad and enjoy every single precious moment you have together.
2007-06-29 11:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a strong sense of family and take responsibility for your family seriously. She should be proud of you. Miss you? TOTALLY, but not make you feel guilty. She's being a little selfish and insecure.
Just talk to her and let her know that you intend to come home to her. Try to find away to have her come visit you while you're there.
2007-06-29 10:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
go and take care of your dad...she's not the one who's got a terminally ill parent, you have....she is very selfish and inconsiderate...tell her that your father won't be around for much longer but she will so stop being so difficult and have some compassion....seems to me like she wants it to be about her and not you....she's still gonna be there when you come back...as for your poor dad, he has not got long left so the best you can do is be there for his final moments on this earth....tell her that if she does not understand your situation then she's better off alone....go and be with your dad...he needs you....as for your g/f...she needs to grow up....
2007-06-29 11:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FAMILY comes first!! The old saying that "blood is thicker than water" applies in this situation. If your girlfriend does not understand that your father is dieing, then maybe you should re-think whether you really want to be with someone like her in the first place.
God bless you for caring for your father. I know it's not easy losing someone you love.
2007-06-29 10:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That seems awfully selfish of her. Maybe she's worried about dealing with things while you're gone on her own? I'd ask her about it more; going to help with your father is a noble cause, hopefully she'll come around, or maybe you should say goodbye to her for good.
2007-06-29 10:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by joyfuljess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋