Camo Wedding?

Question

My man wants to have a camo wedding... With Camo tuxes and all. I on the other hand dont. I want a fairytale wedding... How do i comprimse?

HUNTING Camoflauge. We live in a hick-town and have heard of many camoflauge weddings. I HATE the idea. I agree he needs to Grow up.

Answer 1

What about having a fairytale wedding and a camo reception?? You could wear your fairytale dress, he could wear a traditional tux, everything at the wedding could be your way. And at the recpetion you could have the groomsmen all change into their camo gear and have it themed that way with camo table clothes, BBQ, beer, venison, outdoorsy decor, stuffed animals, etc.

That might be a good compromise. That way you still get awesome pictures of your fairytale wedding ceremony and he still gets to have a grand old time with his camo theme. You know you could be his "best trophy" and all that jazz lol...

Just a thought!

Good luck!!!

Answer 2

Ok, unfortunately, I have seen this done too. The key word here is compromise. He gets his camo, or aspects of it, you get your fairytale. Try camo vests or a dark green or brown or tan. Not camo tuxes, just the vests. Your girls can wear one of these colors, if you like them, or a girly one. His cake and cake table can be decorated however he wants, camo, fishing, a deer head shaped cake, whatever he wants that represents him (it is his wedding too.) Your cake and cake table (and the rest of your decorations for that matter) are fairytale princess elegant. the important thing to do is make him feel included, or he isn't going to want to plan at all. Maybe he's just giving you a hard time and when you give him the OK, he'll say he was just kidding, or maybe he's serious, but you won't be able to find camo vests, and then you're off the hook. But, if he wants this, it is obviously important to him, and you should let him have some ownership in the wedding, even if it is limited, and you can still have your fairytale. If your area is like our area, people will understand and the women will sympathize with you and the men will think you are the coolest bride ever for letting him have even a little camo!

Answer 3

I'm assuming you know your soon-to-be-hubby quite well by now. Does it suprise you that he wants this? I am in a similar situation. I thought I wanted the super girly, over the top wedding...then I considered that I was going to be spending the rest of my life with this man, and he can wear camo undies and a duck hat to the wedding and if nothing else, it would make me love him more. Those are the things we usually hold more dear, are our mates quirks.
If you can't find a way to both be happy with what each other wants, either with a compromise, or by adjusting your own visions, how will you handle something more serious 10 years down the road?

Answer 4

First of all where on earth do you find camo tuxes? What about comprmising with a black tux and camo vest? You could surely find a color such as a pretty green that would coordinate with the camo for the attendents. You could have the florist put together something using pretty grasses and wildflowers for your florals. For your dress I wouldn't recommend something stark white, possible an off white or a cream would look better because the stark white would clash.

Another thing is what type of camo are you talking about...army camo or hunting camo, which pattern? Email me if you like.

I do think the camo tuxes are a little over the top and if he really thought about it he would realize how ugly they would be.

Answer 5

I'd be cautious on how much to compromise on this...You don't want to see pictures of yourself come to you in an email titled "Redneck Weddings".

So, talk to him, and try to get to the bottom of his camo "vision". Does he see this as a jungle battle, or a desert battle? Is this in Vietnam or Northern Africa? See if you can focus in on that part of it, and decorate the reception accordingly. I know you can fairly easily rent silk plants, so it might work to make the reception feel as if you're in a dense tropical jungle...I'm sure there are cacti available out there, as well, if that's where he's trying to get.

It shouldn't be too hard to find netting, camo fabric, and/or parachutes at your local Army surplus store. Use these as tablecloths and/or backdrops.

If you make the wedding colors dark green and cream, the bridesmaid's dresses would certainly match the rest of the decor.

Perhaps if you can convince him to keep all of this at the reception, he'd be willing to let you have the fairytale piece at the ceremony, and wear a tux.

Answer 6

Tell him that you will be willing to have the groomsmen and him wearing cammo colored vests under their tuxes and this can all come out in the reception but you would like to choose the colors for the wedding. Or you could do the rehersal all in cammo even have the guests dress in their best cammo and still have a fairytale wedding. Decorating the hall with fall colors is also another way to include his thoughts. But remember the groom will aften subjest something outrageous so they are told they can no longer help. It's their way of getting out of things...

Answer 7

I have seen white, pale gray, and light gray camo for parties but not for the wedding.

I have seen a bride in a 1880's white Western gown and white boots and the man in a black Western suit and hat. Horses and/or cattle was the theme. This is not to uncommon.

I have seen a Tool or Hunting shower for the man and yes! it was themed along those lines. Same for a bachelor party.

However........

I don't see this as a answer for decorating as one for working out a problem if your fiance is demanding this.

If he is demanding, don't go squalling. Don't start a fight.

Set a good time and good mood to discuss it between yourselves and no one else. If he needs to know what it is about, tell him it is about his camouflage wedding idea. If he asks what about it? - tell him once you two are alone.

I would sit down and ask his feelings on this to see how serious he is. I cannot image a mature, kind, in-love fiance telling how he feels about it, how important it is. As he discusses it, he may change his mind or at least decide a middle ground.

If this is a fight, I would wonder why he is picking it, knowing you do not like camo. I would wonder if it is about the camo. I would seek pre-martial counseling, which is a good thing to do anyway.

Tell him you would like to compromise or negotiate. He give up ALL planning and he gets to decide something else.

Negotiation suggestion.......

This is the middleground I would suggest: You have your dream wedding according to your budget. This is your day to shine! Get help from family and friends or a church member to make suggestions, and maybe work on the creations.

If you don't want your ladies in camo, don't. If you don't mind a hunter green and him in a dark brown tux or suit, don't.
I say this because you will regret this and may hold this against him for the rest of your life..... you will have to learn to let go of this resentment or anger and this could be hard.

Instead, with your color scheme, I see grape vines draping the sides, behind tables, over a garden arbor, climbing a trellis, across an altar, etc. like Christmas garland. In the vines, I see toil or foliage and your selected colors mixed in whether sunflower yellow, pink roses, purple grapes, fall leaves, or snow flakes ......

Would be easy to make vine wreaths at the ends of several pews or hanging on a wall.

You can hang ferns and natural arrangements for a woody effect.

I would make a big deal over the reception. Have one side or corner with the bride's cake and whatever you dream of around and behind it for photos. The table will extend out on either side. A corner is pretty for photos!

On the other side, go camo, hunting, fishing, 4-wheeling, whatever turns him on. Have the vines turn from wedding white and colors to total outdoors or camo theme.

Get material that looks like mosquito netting, tree limbs, a whole small tree in the corner behind everything, (bucket for safety & maybe tied), have a sturdy, small section of branch with melamine plates glued to the sawed off top of branches to put snacks on, or set in front of log or driftwood.

Set the trees or branches in concrete in a cheap metal bucket for safety & maybe tied. Cover bucket with camo material, fake or real vines, foliage, leaves, twigs, etc.

The cake can even sit on a camp stove, a camo/hunt/fish throw rug, etc. Put in camo chairs in the set up. Put in some large mixed with small woody looking stream rocks on the table or ground. Even candles can sit inbetween a group of rocks - safer than material.


Hang Coleman lanterns or fake candle burning lanterns up high in the area.

Go to hunting magazines or his hobby for ideas.

Here's Cabela's link for instance:

http://www.cabelas.com/

A good compromise (this differs from a negotiation) would be that in addition to the watch or whatever gift for the groom from the bride is give him a gift certificate to Cabela's for his camo heart's delight.

My son's room has the oaktree camo comforter, a deer rug, his taxidermed ducks, deer antler lamp, gun rack, camo table, brass items, 1 large Larry Martin print, Native American dreamcatcher, feathers, etc. Look in the Cabela's bedroom suggestions...... he loves it.

Honey, may your day be a wonderful, happy one !!!! Life is ahead and this is just a minor bump.

Answer 8

Generally, it's the bride's big day, but that doesn't mean you can't compromise. I wouldn't want camo tuxes or anything, but maybe use the colors, or have the reception in a camo theme, the reception is usually more informal. Have fun! but i wouldn't want my dress, or my husband's tux in camo.

Answer 9

I am from the sticks so I have seen stuff like this... just tell him NO, grow up, it's not happening and it's not appropriate for the wedding. Get him a camo groom's cake.

Answer 10

will you be able to find camo tuxes? or does he want camoflauge uniforms to be worn at your wedding. I am all about comprimise, however camo (either military, or hunting) symbolizes war and rage to me. i dont think this is appropriate for an event honoring two people's love