Neither me, nor my boyfriend are religious, but I'm a member of my old church back home. We're looking to get married next summer, and I know that it would mean a lot to my family to get married in a church, since they're all religious. Since I do belong to the church, and it's a beautiful place to hold a wedding, would it be appropriate for us to get married there? I don't just want to do this for my family, or for the ease, but it just seems that since I know the pastors at that church that it would be more personal. My boyfriend likes the idea, but since we're really not religious, would it be alright?
2007-06-29 08:25:26 · 22 answers · asked by meg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You are a member of the church so it would be ok to be married in your church. But don't do it because you want to make your family happy and you won't be. But if you are fine with getting married in your church and so is your fiance then go for it. Everyone including you and your fiance will be happy. There is nothing wrong with that. And it will seem more personal and can bring all you guys even more closer that you already are.
2007-06-29 08:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by TJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is perfectly acceptable. Even though you aren't religious now, that church was a big part of your life and upbringing, and you feel a connection to it and the pastors. I'd guess your family are still members of it, so it would mean a lot to them, and if you aren't against being married in a church, I think it is a great idea. Plan a visit to the church and meet with the pastors. Also, it is a nice gesture to attend the church a few times before the ceremony, like Christmas, Easter, and whatever weekends you are there planning the wedding, just to get reacquainted with the pastors and their styles, and the members of the church as well.
2007-06-30 16:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got to say no. Of course it would be pretty and would be nice for your family but don't start your marriage by making vows you have no intention of keeping. I'm not talking about the promises to be faithful, etc, but the fact that your vows are made to God in a church ceremony.
I would, though, suggest that this would be a good time for you to examine what you really do believe. You say you are a member of the church at home. Why are you still a member if you are not religious? If it's just that you have got out of the habit of church attendance, why not give it another try and see whether it really does mean something to you. You might be surprised.
Good luck with whatever you choose.
2007-06-29 16:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to the pastor(s) there, find out if you can have non-denominational (non-religious) vows. Most churches don't care, but some has strict requirements. It's always better to check as far in advance as possible so you can plan accordingly.Other than that, there's nothing wrong with being married in a church, even if you aren't necessarily religious.
2007-06-29 15:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by lv82 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about it? My husband and I are not religious, even though my family is and I know some pastors quite personally. We decided not to get married in a church because it would have felt wrong to us, our love, since we don't believe in the christian god. If you feel comfortable with getting married in the church even though you don't consider yourself religious it is ok. But don't do it just to please your family, it is YOUR wedding after all, and there are nice alternatives out there.
2007-06-29 17:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Churches usually don't mind if someone uses their church to get married. You can have another pastor, you own music and singers, whatever. The pastor you get may ask you and your fiance questions about marriage and religion, that is common now. Just besure to pay the church for using the facilities for your place.
2007-06-29 15:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by lana s 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive been a christian for 52 years I'm not religious, but i have a strong relationship with the Lord, and He with me, being religious wont get you to heaven, any more than going to church every Sunday will, but God created marriage, why get married if your not going to make him #1 in your marriage? and no don't try to please your parents, its your marriage, make a stand and get married where ever you want, i have been married 3 times, not once in a church, good luck God bless your marriage.
2007-06-29 15:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by free_mark53 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why it wouldn't be all right. As long as you don't plan on coming in and saying we don't agree with this crap it wouldn't be an insult to anyone. You wouldn't be the first or last person in your situation to choose a church wedding and the church could always use the money.
2007-06-29 15:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you not church goers or not religious? if you believe in God and try to be a good person, i think you should get married in a church. sometimes people just have their own ways of worshiping and have problems with how churches are organized. Do you go to church on Easter or Christmas and feel weird? if you do, i would not get married in a church. i think my family would rather me be happy than do something that did not feel right in my heart.
2007-06-29 15:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Christina V 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Of course, it's fine. Most people that get married in churches don't really go to church anyway. Sad but true. Congratulations!
2007-06-29 15:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by billiejo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋