So I've been with my boyfriend for a while now, and we're living together, I'm completely financially independent from my parents, and things are going amazing with my boyfriend. We're talking about getting married in 2 summers, once I'm done with school and everything. Last weekend we went to visit my parents and my dad and I had a chance to talk alone, and he told me that he really wanted us to get married, like next summer. I really wasn't expecting it, they've only met my boyfriend probably 5 times, and they like him, but I just thought it was weird he'd say that...are parents usually eager to get their kids married off??
2007-06-29 07:37:27 · 11 answers · asked by meg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well..usually...parents would be a little more sad than eager. Perhaps your parents think that although you are their little girl, that it is hard to find that one person you love...They realized that you are well off on your own, but maybe that IS the reason. They don't WANT you to be alone. They might want you to be with someone that they like and you like(ur lover) but asap so that you aren't facing the challenges ahead all by yourself. Maybe I am wrong...but I hope I gave you a new perspective on things.
2007-06-29 07:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like maybe your dad would prefer to see you married than just living together. He knows what is going on and would probably feel better about it morally if you were married. He may also want to know that you are going to be taken care of and that this guy isn't just using you. He's a dad, and you are his little girl - he wants to make sure you are happy!
2007-06-29 14:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are reasons for parents wanting their children to get married.
Perhaps they are uncomfortable with you two just living together - that somehow your lifestyle reflects badly on them in the eyes of family, church, etc.
Perhaps they want grandchildren sooner rather than later.
Perhaps they are concerned for your welfare and even though you are financially independent from them, they feel that once you're married, "everything will be OK."
who knows - you'll have to ask them.
2007-06-29 14:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he was just hoping you'd get married before shacking up. He's thinking anything can happen in 2 summers, like you could break up, and here you'll have had nothing to show except for shacking up. If you are already shacking and having sex, what's the point of waiting so long to get married? You are already living pretending to be married.
2007-06-29 15:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the individual situation. They probably just really like him and think that he will take care of you. For a lot of parents it is important for them to know that their children will be taken care of.
2007-06-29 14:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by from_a_dark_place 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, mostly they don't want thier kids to get married because they're afraid of losing them. but maybe your dad is just really excited about your marriage because he thinks your boyfriend is right for you.
2007-06-29 14:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by saskia r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would think its becasue you are living together anyway. they probably figure if you are already living together and already plan to wed, why wait. they want yall to make it legal
2007-06-29 14:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by just me #1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have different values than you. Don't rush in to marriage for there sake!
2007-06-29 14:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anxious to have grandchildren
2007-06-29 14:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They want grandkids. :p
2007-06-29 14:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by 006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋