I know alot of People Have this same Question everyday but i just need to know am i in love or do i have a crush?
Well there is this guy and he is a total flirt! He flirts with every girl in school but with me its diffrent and when he talks to me he makes me feel really nice about myself. When i talk to him my words get jummbled. He is always my first thought when i wake up and my last before i go to bed. He is really sweet and every once in a while when i see him i have naughty thoughts about him and ive never felt that way before sometimes it scares me. Is this love,a crush or just a stag?
2007-06-29 07:29:07 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a crush, sweetie. You dont know anything about him. What is there to love about him yet? What does he like, what does he believe in, what are his interests, how does he treat his friends and his life?
Admiring someone from afar and having a flirty relationship is adorable. But its just a crush. :) Get to know him first.
2007-06-29 07:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is an amazingly abused word, and part of the problem is that it is one word for several different things.
There is no difference between a crush and romantic love. It is a chemical process controlled by oxytocin intended to make you addicted to a potential mate. When the person becomes likewise imprinted on you and the two of you engage in courtship behavior, the same feeling is called romantic love. When it is just one person and is unrequited, it is called a crush.
Over time, if you remain together, you will also become bonded by the simpler, more durable, and less chemically intoxicating type of love that is common to familial and tribal bonds. This is a different emotion altogether. It is rather important too because romantic love will not last more than several years, and begins fading within the first year.
2007-06-29 07:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Diminati 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what anyone says, love doesn't happen overnight. It "feels" like love but you need time together, learning the good, the bad and the ugly of each other. You might "love" the good but how will you feel about the bad and the ugly? Only time will tell.
And one more thing from experience...his flirtation with all the other girls also makes them feel nice about themselves too so you are probably not the only girl on campus batting eyes at him. I'm sure that makes him kind of feel like the the king of school. If you two begin a real relationship and he continues to flirt with everyone else then he is not the one for you. He should want to direct all attention to you. To me, flirting with everyone is a red flag right off the bat!
2007-06-29 07:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a crush. He knows how to flirt and knows how to flirt with you which is why it's different from when he flirts with others. Flirting is a nice start and you might fall in love someday, but now you're smitten - it's a crush. Enjoy it but don't let it consume you. Let something develop if it's going to anyway. You need to get to know each other. In the meantime, don't try to force it by thinking about him all the time or you'll drive yourself crazy.
2007-06-29 07:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Obvious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a crush !!! Come on u might like him for a little while but u really dont get to know that sombody until he shows he's true character in a fight!!! or when someone offends u he sticks up for u !! But dont be fooled this guy is a total flirt he just wants chicks and that period .
2007-06-29 07:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely a stage, probably a crush, defnitely not "love" hon. Trust me on that one! That said...so what? Nothing wrong with pursuing the guy if you're interested - to find out, if indeed YOU ARE INTERESTED AND VICE VERSA. Who knows? You could get to know him better and not think as well of him.
You never know unless you open yourself up to such an opportunity or experience, right?
You go girl!
Grace
PS -But don't be surprised, if HE IS A FLIRT, and think about striking up a relationship with a guy who goes from one girl to the next...unless, of course, it doesn't matter to you?!
2007-06-29 07:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a crush, you're just experiancing those classic signs of lusting for someone...
Being in love, however, is far more than that. People say it's when you really get to know the person, both their ideals and faults, and that you accept them and appreciate them for who they are in the deepest levels. Others say being in love can be attained when being in an exclusive and dedicated relationship. Others say it just cannot be defined in words...
In my experiance in the dating scene, I havn't encountered "being in love", so I can't say that those I mentioned earlier are from my own experiances. They're from those I know who "felt" that it is what it is. BUT what I do know, from my own experiance, is that what you're experiancing is NOT love, just lust.
2007-06-29 07:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by johnny101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how old you are, it is more than likely just hormones. Therefore, it's a crush. Most crushes are harmless, but just be careful. He sounds like he might be a player. Guys who flirt with everyone tend to be.
2007-06-29 07:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jeannie Redd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably a loving crush, what I mean is that we can feel love, but it's surface, sort of superficial love. It took me years to learn that, for genuine love, you really have to know the person. Need to know them for a long period of time on a personal basis by spending time with them.
2007-06-29 07:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by gabuyt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know him well and know a lot about him? If you don't, then it is probably just a crush. If you don't know a lot about him, you can't know whether or not you love him. You probably think he is nice looking, funny, kind, etc., but if you got to know him better, he could be a total jerk or a wonderful person. Knowing about him and his demeanor makes it love.
2007-06-29 07:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋