We reside in Oklahoma & recently a really good job offer for my husband has come along problem it is Burlington, Ontario,Canada. I'm scared to go but, I think it could be exciting and I have heard alot of good things about Canada. I also think my husband would be happier at the plant in Burlington. I am extremely close to my mother and her and my step father have never gone a month without seeing their granddaughter, I told my Mom that we were considering moving to Canada and she started crying. I don't know what to do, and I can't even tell her how often we might be able to visit because we really don't know what the finacial situation will be if we make the move. Anyone out there with some advise or just words of wisdomand/or encouragement would be greatly appreciated.
2007-06-29 07:24:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The opportunity could provide a better life for your family. This is what being a grown-up and a parent is about....looking out for the best interest of you and your children. Your parents will most certainly miss you and your daughter, but should be thankful that you are doing everything you can to provide the best life for your child. Who knows, your parents may decide to move to Canada, too! Good luck!
2007-06-29 07:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my dear, this is a tough one. You and your new husband are embarking on a new opportunity and adventure, You should fully support him and do everything you can to make the change a good experience for you and your little family. With your daughter explore the places in and around Burlington on the internet so you can have something to look forward to. Help her to get her mind conditioned to the move, so she will be excited and looking forward to it. As for your parents, yes they will be sad and miss her granddaughter, but in their heart they know you have to move forward and do what is best for your own family. Like someone has suggested set them up on e-mail and get camcorders if you can afford it. Ask your daughter to send a daily e-mail about her activities and adventures. You can do the sme. Once you are in Burlington and get an idea how your financil situation will be you can plan for summer and or Christmas holidays.
Tell your mom she has to think of you first of all and not of the loss she will experience when you leave. Tell her it is not forever but at this stage you cannot answer specific questions. Ask your mom to support you. The two of you can work out plans as to how to stay in touch. There is the phone as well. I will give you a little tip. Dial 1010229 before the area code and phone number of your mom and you can call her for 1 cent per minute. Honest this is not a lie. Now girl, get ready to embark on this new adventure. Courage my child, courage!
2007-06-29 23:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by teplitz39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make this move. I know how hard it will be on everyone involved, but it will be a good move for your family.Web cams are wonderful ways to stay in touch. If you don't already have computers, you can get just a no frills one fairly inexpensive. If mom and step dad are not computer savoy then show them enough to use a web cam. Buy an inexpensive digital camera, send lots of pictures, phone calls at least once a week, even if there is no new news just a call to say we miss you and we love you. Everyone will be sad and it will be such an adjustment but it is a part of life, the hardest part of being a parent is the letting go. Mom and step dad will adjust.
Good Luck
2007-06-29 07:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by lisani 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your parents love you and will miss you- explain why this is such a great thing for you and your husband- if the kids are excited have them tell thier grandparents why AND why they love them and will miss them.... remind them how close they are to you- maybe do something special with them to build happy memories- but not as a saying good bye kind of thing- but as a we love you and want to have fun with you now kinda thing...
do what ever you can to assure them of regular communication- video phones to just setting up email accounts or buying them phone cards- let them know you plan on staying close...
moving is hard but can be wonderful- it will likely bring you and your husband and family closer since everything will be unfamiliar and you will rely on each other much more- that can really build a family- mine moved alot and not only are we close but us kids are very independant- able to make friends very easily, able to adjust to new situations well, and i think more open to what life has to offer than my cousins that lived in the same place all thier life and then raised thier families there too-
distance makes the heart grow fonder-
this will be an exciting healthy opportunity for your family! embrace it and help them embrace it too!
2007-06-29 07:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by miss m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the move is a good thing you just have to do it, maybe you can travel one time and your parents the next. Email, telephone, send photos over the net there are lots of ways you can stay in touch, just think of the learning experience this will be for all of you, it is like an adventure. Everything will work out for you hon. God Bless and good luck to your hubby on the new job.
2007-06-29 07:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut the apron strings, deary. You owe everything to your husband and child - not to your parents.
If your husband feels this is a good move for everyone in his little family (which doesn't include your parents) then you go with him and enjoy the adventure. It will be tough - but also a great to for you to learn how to deal with their absence (people do die, don't you know). Also, as we learned in Genesis, looking back at things past will turn you into a pillar of salt - an allegorical way of saying "a bitter, sad, angry divorcee in less than a year."
When you get to Canada (and the people in Ontario are awfully nice folks!) look into getting into school, building a career for yourself, etc. etc. etc. It'll be good for you - and your husband as he won't have to shoulder all the burden of supporting the family and saving for retirement.
as for your Mom - well, that's what email and video-web-cams are for.
2007-06-29 07:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough noogies. Now they have some place to go on vacation. There is another world other than where they live. Let them come and visit you. This is your life not theirs. They raised you to become independent and now that you have your life---it not good for them??? I went thru this with my father cause I was in military 20 and was not at home. I heard about it --and continued with my career.
2007-06-29 07:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by Gerald 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't really anything you can say to make it all better, but just try telling her that it will be alright, we will try to come back as much as possible. Have you ever thought that maybe they can come up there too to visit? Thats all I can really think of.
BD
2007-06-29 07:32:38 · answer #8 · answered by Black Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to allow your husband to provide for his family the best he can. Your allegiance is to him when you took your vows. My grandkids live further than 1200 miles away but I understand the realities of life.
2007-06-29 07:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to them
2007-06-29 07:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by colton 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋