I've also deposited $50 which until now she never refunded nor has she contacted me to return. She accused me of not caring for my wedding, and she is unprofessional by not considering that all weddings have flaw. 15 minutes is not 2 hours.
2007-06-29 07:06:54 · 8 answers · asked by SueNa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I know I was late, but I called her before I was late. I told her there is traffic and that I'll be a little late. She acknowledged then left. I didn't marry at a church. I had the ceremony at a park with 150 guest. I ended up delaying my wedding for another JP, and she threatened me not to report her in because she accused me of having a fake wedding...which is so unrealistic. I have this whole thing planned.
2007-06-29 07:20:04 · update #1
She sounds like a mean person. I haven't been to a single wedding that has started on time.
Traffic happens. I can't believe that 15 minutes would have made so much of a difference.
If she could not have waited then she should have told you, and tried to get someone else to come. At the very least, she could have said when you called "get someone else."
2007-06-29 10:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by dice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have been there on time. Reschedule. It's your fault, not hers. End of story.
EDIT::Ok.... with added details this makes more sense. I thought you were going to the courthouse to get married. If you were having it at a park and 150 guests were there waiting and you called and she confirmed and then left than she probably was in the wrong. I would let it go though. You still got married, your wedding was delayed a bit, but so what? Put it behind you and enjoy your newly married life.
Good luck!
2007-06-29 07:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a wedding planner and I find what she did to be rediculous. If she had prewarned you that she would not stick around, that she had restrictions to the time she was available for the ceremony, or if you were considerably late (like 30-45 minutes or more) and she notified you that she was leaving, then that would be almost acceptable. But other than that, I would definately complain. What an awful thing for someone to do to you on your special day. If you're in Wa State send me her name so I'll be sure not to use her.
I hope everything else turned out well and congrats!!
2007-06-29 08:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by lv82 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you call?
it sounds like she's being a little mean but that is why they give you appointments. Even when you get married in a church you have a specific time. other weddings are probably going to start after yours and throughout the day.
As a wedding planner I see that all the time. I suggest that you try to be nice in order to get your refund... They don't have to give it back and they do have the right since you got there late. Maybe you can reschedule your wedding for another day.
2007-06-29 07:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She was there and YOU were not. The Bride and Groom are supposed to be "in place" and "ready to walk down the aisle" at the time stated on their wedding invitation.
It is your responsibility to be on time to your own wedding.
And have you considered that maybe this "JP" had another commitment or wedding after yours that would not permit her to wait? It is very possible she was on a very tight schedule that day.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-06-29 09:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by Avis B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What would you report her for, being on time? Who would you even report her to, the local Bar Association? My guess is they wouldn't care.
I would agree that she should have told you if she couldn't wait...that was not appropriate on her part.
She probably won't refund the money, since she was there at the assigned time, and spent her time and efforts trying to get you married. 15 minutes is 15 minutes, and for the average Justice of the Peace, this is all it takes to perform a ceremony. She spent as much time there as she was "contracted" to spend, so she's probably well within her rights.
To a certain extent, I would have to agree with her...It would seem that perhaps you didn't care much about it, if you couldn't manage to get yourself into the car on time.
2007-06-29 08:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's your fault. All weddings have flaws, but you're the planner of the wedding, not her. YOU are the one who should allow for errors, YOU should be the one to be flexible, YOU should have been there at least on time, if not early.
Call the JP, apologize, and reschedule. Then YOU and the wedding party should plan to be there at least 30 minutes early next time.
2007-06-29 07:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter.
You were late.
Did you bother calling her to say you will be late? ???
Edit: OK, so you did call. Since she acknowledged you, she should have waited. So she was rude. Especially with all those guests there.
I would write or call in a complaint.
2007-06-29 07:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋