i only have intercourse 2/3 times with 1 person (& no i dnt hav any std) & the first time it hurted like hell which i knew it would. but every time i have intercourse it doesnt feel good i heard its suppose to hurt is it true
2007-06-29 06:39:25 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is it a hurried affair?
Do you feel pressured?
If you don't feel good about intecourse, just say no!
And if this person can't deal with that, you're better off without him. *
2007-06-29 06:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by krishna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is yes it could be noramal for various reasons.
As long as your OB/GYN say you are healthy then its probably not so much a physical issue as a mental one.
Number one if you aren't really emotionally ready you can't be physically ready.
If you have feeling of guilt or feel rushed or have not been sufficientlt stimulated you will not be relaxed emotionally which will manifest in your vagina tightening and a lack of lubrication.
If you have a inexperiance or agressive partner who rushes for his own gain, you will more than likely not enjoy sex.
There are other variables like allergies to latex used in condoms that causes the vagina to dry out and tighten to protect itself. etc.
But if all things are right and you are relaxed, healthy and with someone you truly love who isn't an agressive inexperianced oaf. Then no sex does not hurt even the first time if all the things stated before are right there may be very minor discomfort but not pain.
Have yourself checked for infections this does not necessarily mean std could be a UTI and have a general physical if all is good either relax or tell your partner you need more romancing befor penetraion.
And yes you can buy lubricants to use but dont start there or you'll never correct why you were having the problem to begin with.
A real man romances his woman sometimes for hours before the actual act occurs and trust me all that warming up makes for better sex.
2007-06-29 14:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by ems2000tab 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I had sex for the first time, it was a little painful, I must admit. A couple times after that, it was still painful but less so. I told my boyfriend so we did everything slowly so I wouldn't tear.
Eventually, it stopped hurting. The main reason was I was more comfortable having sex cause I started to know what I was doing instead of being clueless and scared.
When you are scared or cautious, you become tighter (we get tense everywhere when something freaks us out if you've noticed -- this is basic physiology).
Are you comfortable having sex with this person? The more comfortable you are, the more relaxed you will be and the less pain you will feel.
Foreplay is really fun and it helps you get relaxed as well. Also, if you want to, use lube. Stay away from mineral oils and lotions. ONLY use sexual lubes like KY. Those other ones increase the risk of bacterial infection (look up UTI or bladder infection -- it is very painful, believe you me.)
2007-06-29 13:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by travelrookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not suppose to hurt. The first time yes, but after that it should not hurt, unless you two are doing something wrong.
2007-06-29 13:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready (aroused) for penetration, it can hurt more. Also, this is still new for you, so you may be tense, which can also cause pain.
Try engaging in a little more foreplay with your partner. Having him touch you with his fingers and get you ready for more might help.
If nothing seems to help, you should speak to your doctor. I know someone who is just shaped a little differently and does find sex painful sometimes.
2007-06-29 13:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Just 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that you are not lubricated enough. Before sex, put some lubricant either on his penis or inside the vagina amd see if it feels better. Sometimes men push too fast and too soon and the girl has not become wet enough and that will hurt.
2007-06-29 13:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by Frank L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not supposed to hurt everytime. Next time, try using a lubricant; you might just be alittle dry. Good luck!
2007-06-29 13:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jen C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be you are not aroused enough to have sex. Sometimes when the woman is not aroused it can be uncomfortable. If you are and it still hurts then maybe your partner is too big for you. If that's not the problem then you should seek medical help.
2007-06-29 13:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by hootie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm your proabaly not wet enough. Make sure you are aroused before intercourse or it will hurt. try to relax and do it slow. He might be doing it to hard and that would make it hurt. Hope I helped
2007-06-29 13:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by ADNAMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first maybe yes. You might need to go to the doctor anyway just to make sure. Your might not can't handle your partner if you know what I means. Go slow and take it easy both of you.You going to hurt more than he will.
2007-06-29 13:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does feel a little painful the first few times. Make sure that you are appropriately lubricated tho. Perhaps you need more foreplay.
Good luck.
2007-06-29 13:41:45 · answer #11 · answered by JDawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋