I'm having a "bad" time of it at the moment. It's good to be home.
Namaste
Peace and Love
2007-06-29 06:23:25 · 9 answers · asked by digilook 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If it's unintentional........
2007-06-29 06:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wellllll. There's more than you involved in this - there is the perception of the person who is experiencing the "unintended grief".
For which you are not responsible.
That may not be helpful...would a *hug* and reassurance that this a common experience, just part of being human, help?
"The light in me beholds, and honors, the light in you"
2007-06-30 03:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by Raven's Voice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Burning through karma at an accelerated rate. I've had such periods in life too and one simply has to bear with it, not take it personally and try to see the positive side of it. Stay strong. Eventually this period will end. Mantras also help ( I mean repetitions of eg Vajrasattva 100 syllable mantra).
2007-06-30 01:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where have you been? Nice to have you back! LOL!
It's growing pains. We all have our own perspective and conflict is about those differences even when it is as simple as unintentionally hurting each others feelings. We cannot eliminate these things, we can only take them as opportunities to broaden our prospectives.
Healing and growth, acknowledgement and perseverance!
Look at the word insight. 'In' 'sight'. Inward sight. In sight into another...a privelaged place. Honour the experience.
Peace and awareness!
Jamie
2007-06-29 07:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would seem that you're seeking to release attachment to outcome, and so you've created some to explore.
To the extent that Peace and Love are understandings of the mind, they must be attended by chaos and fear. Once you find yourself to BE Peace and Love, there will be no need for dualistic silliness.
2007-06-29 19:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by philmeta11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome home my friend. I see there were problems at your daughters wedding, these are always very emotional and touchy situations when a family is reunited for a celebration.
Expectations and especially perceptions of such expectations are very variable at such times, especially if folks are unaware and selfish. We must remember that other's do not have insight into Right View and Right Effort or Right Speech and the other methods of the Eightfold Path, on the other hand...we do..!!
Has someone "hurt" you by speech or deed or thought...? How is this possible if you have so "self" to be hurt..? What has been hurt ..? These are important questions my travel weary friend...do you feel "self" arising in your consciousness...? Is it causing you to feel anger or frustration or other equally negative pain and suffering ascociated with the "self"...how often have we spoken about this "self" and it's inherent emptiness...? It is only now that you are really experiencing "self", are you feeling sorry for your "self"...? If so then you are now feeling the full force of the "Arising of self in the Consciousness"..you now have a choice to make...either allow "self" to take over and be given full reign over your consciousness, or fling it away, release it...you have exhibited clinging...Upadana...already, It is my self pity...I own it.....it is justified...I have been hurt..., these are normal feelings of a Human Being...yet you have spoken so often about the emptiness of self, yet you cling to it and it is causing you pain and suffering, the suffering of Unfulfilled Tanha (craving)....yet it is never too late to release it...it will bring you Peace by doing so...yet you already know this wisdom...releasing "self" is tough isn't it..? We have talked about it so often...yet words are not Action...you have an opportunity to Act and Act Wisely...
The Lord Buddha has said.."When Self arises in the consciousness, suffering soon follows"..you are now experiencing the truth in his message...
It is now required of you to release it, fling it away...do not give in to "self"...now is the time to begin...but it is up to you to make this very important and extremely tough choice...it is ...necessary..!! Don't do it for your own happiness though...make your intent for the happiness of the person or persons who hurt you...let them think that they have won..it matters not who "wins" in any case when it comes to "self" only that "self" does not win...but this will bring both of you Peace....fling it away...
I extend a smile for you, not in mirth but to bring you a small relief from your pain...you have reached a milestone...be aware of self by experience of it, it will allow you to grow by wise actions...these wise actions will always have positive Consequence...make the effort and be persistent...it's tough but this is the Lord Buddhas message....
Effort and Persistence the only 2 ways to rid the consciousness of the self....
Peace from a Buddhist....I mean it and you deserve it....
2007-06-29 08:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by Gaz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you know , whatever you are doing is in your best intrest and not meant to intentionally hurt someone, I guess you can just let it go. if someone is hurt, try to explain to them that what you are doing is what you believe to be right
2007-06-29 06:30:02 · answer #7 · answered by vrtee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when I don't play my part that they have dreamed up for their drama!
2007-06-29 06:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are all human and it just happens............
2007-06-29 06:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by Mulereiner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋