i need help...?

Question

welll.......i've been cutting my wrists for months and some of my friends are really worried about me and keep telling me that I should stop...but they just don't understand what I am going through...my parents hate eachother, my sisters and brother hate me, i am not pretty (my opinion), i am over weight, people say mean and unbelievably rude things to me that i will not repeat on here....and the guy that i like has a girlfriend and doesn't like me. And worst of all i have been thinking about killing myself lately. I don't know what to do right now and I just need some advice/help or some body's story that I can relate to...
please help me...

by the way~ I am 13years old.....
if that makes a difference.

Answer 1

Thank you for telling me your 13.......yes it does make a deference.....Please read the book " Battlefield of the mind for teens" by Joyce Meyer......You WILL FEEL BETTER ABOUT YOU SELF......if your parents will let you go to some counseling ....that would be great too.....I'll keep you in my prays......and remember really .... things will get better.....now PLEASE ....... GO GET THAT BOOK......

Answer 2

It sounds like a totally rough time in your life right now. Not only do you have the pressure of going from a child to a young lady but other stuff added. Cutting or Self Injury is for most and myself included a way to release those emotions we hold in and don't know how to cope with. People who don't Self Injure often don't understand how or why someone else does. Find someone you can talk to whether it is mom or dad or even another adult at school. You have to be open and honest with how you feel and what is going on. I know you said that your parents hate each other and even if they do they I am sure love you very much. And will want to do what they can to help you. The problem is that parents dont always see or know everything via the psychic channel and so you need to give them a chance. Sisters and brothers at this age often seem more like an irritating disease then someone you can hang with or enjoy being around at times. I and my one sister hated each other growing up and fought all the time. We now spend a lot of time around one another when we can and enjoy each other's company a great deal. So they are also growing and going through stuff too. So take hope that they won't be this way forever and neither will you. Do you have something that you do enjoy doing? Like a hobby? Or a sport you have always wanted to try? Honestly sports, clubs, and the like do help with depression and with self confidence. It is a way of giving people a chance to get to know you outside of cliques and school. And for a while it gives you something else to think about giving your mind a rest for a bit. Sometimes it really helps. Also crisis hotlines are wonderful and great to be able to get stuff off your chest. Sometimes just knowing someone else is listening is what is needed. Try groups on the net for support and to ask questions too if don't want or feel scared about anyone knowing you as you. It won't be like this forever though it might feel that way. So do something to help you and this question is a start. So continue to reach out and try to get the help to you that you so badly need.
Hugs!
Deb

Answer 3

Harsh reality time. You and you only control your life. I know you wish things were different but they are not. Focus on the serenity prayer. Change the things you can. No matter how hard at least keep trying and celebrate small victories. Accept things you can't change. You can't make other people change but you can choose how you react to them. If others treat you badly, walk away. If people you care about fight, refuse to be drawn into their fights. Learn to tell the difference between things you can and can't control. You say you want to kill yourself. Probably you want others to hurt as you hurt but again you can't control how they would feel if you were dead and you wouldn't be there to know what happens anyway. It is a hard lesson to learn but you control your own future, we leave home and family, your looks will change over the years, friends come and go, you are the only thing that will stay with you throughout your life. Learn to be your own best friend and do what is right for you. Then your other relationships will improve or change as you no longer give others power over you through your emotions. Take it from me- cutting your self is no answer to your problems and the temporary relief you feel doesn't last as long as the healing and lifetime of scars. I wish you much luck and hope you will think of all I have said, I used to be like you.

Answer 4

Are you cutting for the attention or for the numbing of emotions? The first time i cut i was 14, and i did it for attention, now i do it to numb the anger and sadness i feel. Your friends are right, you should stop, but they have no idea how hard it is to stop. I've been there...i'm still there. There will be other boys out there, ones that will love you for who you are and treat you with the respect and dignity you deserve. Is there a councillor at your school that you could talk to? and the ppl that say mean things to you..ignore them, life will be better for you if you dont listen to the losers and jerks that need to make others feel bad just so that they can feel good about themselves.... There are many ppl out there who are in the same boat as you, you are not alone. Just stick it out, it sounds like you already have some friends who care about your wellbeing, be grateful for that and that you are not alone in this cruel world.

Answer 5

You need to think more positive about your life, and also think better about yourself. Raise your confidence up, write down a bunch of things you've done well in the past, create a goal list. Also exercise; it will help you loose weight + feel better about yourself. Eatingt healthy also helps both. Also, stop cutting. I know it's a hard thing to do but it should be one of your goals. Take it day by day. And if you cut yourself one day, don't think your a failure and give up, forgive yourself and keep trying. Don't give up on your goals.
Try to make peace with your family. If you cant, then focuse on your friends that want to help you. You're very lucky you have them.
And about the people that say mean things about you.. don't listen to them. There opinion should mean nothing to you. There just idiots looking for attention. Anytime they say something bad about you tell yourself not to care, and move on.
Also, every situation you come across, think positive about.
I really hope this help.

Answer 6

okay, you do need to stop cutting. your problems are taking over your life, don't let it. start doing stuff for yourself. start a sport to get healthy. by being active it will take your mind of things.
there are other boys out there. you're only 13, what's the rush. if you get into a serious relationship, it'll take a toll on your emotions. are you sure this guy will stick with you through thick and thin?
which siblings don't like each other? they are going through the same thing with your parents.
don't kill your self. your family will take it hard, especially with what's going on. if your siblings don't like you, just be nice even if it hurts. years from now they'll remember you as being nice even though they were horrible.
don't take these things on, you have to toughen up and stay strong. try and talk to your school counselor or an adult, like a sensible aunt or uncle. do something that makes you happy and its safe. talk to me if this helped. i'll try my best. you're only 13, you have your whole life!!

Answer 7

Please see a general practitioner or qualified physician immediately. U seemed to be in anxiety and depressed. Self-harming or committing suicide will only traumatise people around u. Why don't u give yourself a chance at becoming stronger, instead of falling into a deep pit? Get hold of a member or leader from Soka in your country. Chant Nam-myoho-renge-kyo and find out more about this buddhism which can help you, alongside your medical doctor.

Answer 8

hey, you are reaching out--that is really smart. I think you need to hook up with someone like the 15 year old who has gone thru similar stuff. Only someone who has been there can really understand. I also think you need to talk to some grown ups about this.....is there anyone you can go to? If you want, you can email me...I am a grown up. You are a precious person, and I hope you can stop hurting yourself.

Answer 9

You need to get professional help. NOW!! Call the mental health emergency hotline. Be honest with them, they will care when it seems that know one else does! The people who put you down and treat you bad are not worth your life! They are SCUM! YOu are worth more than you may think because you are a beautiful, unique creation from God and he made you to His exact specifications, just how he wanted you, and He loves you! Don't ever doubt that! Get some help today!

Answer 10

im sorry but i can not relate honey just please stop cuting when times get tough go for a walk or something or get a pet to make you feal better once your older you will be more intrusted in boys and they will come around i know i am one as for the weight issue if you can live with how you are then dont worry about it and belive me your not ugly just dont eat so much of the fatty foods and you will be ok but please stop cutting if you would like to talk Email me at [e-mail]

Answer 11

Lay your story out to the school counselor or local mental health clinic.

You don't have to feel the way you're feeling. All this can be resolved.

Don't ask your parents. Just look it up in the Yellow Pages and get the help that will transform your life. Or call the suicide hotline. 1-800-SUICIDE.