my kids' dad (ex hausband) is in jail. We broke up 3 years ago and I've moved on and really happy. Thier dad has not really been a part of thier lives because he was really caught up in drugs and basically a total flake. Well I guess since hes been in jail, hes been sober and wrote me a letter deciding he should take a role in our kids lives.
Anyway.. his girlfriend just had a baby and she would really like our kids to see their baby brother. Should I take them? The kids dont know her very well, but since they are half brother/sister, i kinda feel obligated to let them see the baby... what should I do??
2007-06-29 05:48:00 · 12 answers · asked by Cat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The kids are 5 (twins).
I'm trying to be grown up about this and all, I have no ill- will against either my ex or his girlfriend. I guess i just find it strange that "all of a sudden" they want to be a part of the kids lives when before they were just too caught up tweeking to care about anyone but themselves. : /
2007-06-29 06:10:44 · update #1
that's a hard decision. Because even if you do. When your ex gets out of jail whose to say he's going to stay clean. My father was constantly in and out of jail, he'd be clean for about 1 month, then he'd go back to his old ways. So you should consider if he's still with this girl there is a chance they will all be in and out of their lives. I'm not saying not to do it, just be very cautious, and let the new girlfriend know that it needs to be a constant thing not just spuratic.
2007-06-29 06:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get too excited about your ex wanting to be a good
father now that he is in jail since he wasn't involved in the children's lives much before. It is easy for him to say that now that he has hit rock bottom, wait and see how he acts once he is a free man again. As far as the kids seeing the half sibling, that depends on their ages. If they are old enough to
fully understand then ask them. Hopefully their father will eventually step up to the plate and assume HIS responsibility
as a parent with all his children, if so then they will grow up
knowing one another. Good Luck!
2007-06-29 06:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is sober and found probably god.................he is in jail. Once he gets out he will go right back into the old crap again. I find nothing wrong with letting the children be apart of the new babies life. But do not take the children into the jail not a good environment for them.
2007-06-29 06:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by aintlifegrand 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all, your ex is sober in jail, because he likely has no other choice.... what is going to happen when he is set free?
you are only obligated to do what you think is best and safest for you and your children. i don't see what the point in introducing the kids to their half-brother would be, unless you want to become part of your ex's and his girlfriend's lives.
do you?
take care of you and do what you think is most sensible for your family.
2007-06-29 06:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push the kids, but ask them. If they want then go ahead but don't force them. As they get bigger they'll realize what a putz your ex is or was.
Don't feel obligated.
Or maybe take them the first time, if they like then they could go back.
Good Luck
2007-06-29 06:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ricki F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your ex has changed then y should he not see your kids, they now have a half brother who weather you like it or not will always be related.let them get to know there dad again and if things go wrong at least you tried not for your sake but for your kids
2007-06-29 06:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is entirely up to you,but you didnt say the kids ages,if they are at an age where you can sit them down and ask them if they want to see her and the baby,,,,if they say no or yes just let her know off there decision,,,,good luck xxx
2007-06-29 06:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those kids have a right to know their siblings. Be brave for your kids.
2007-06-29 06:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what, kids need to be with their family, no matter how we as adults feel....
2007-06-29 05:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by Heather Randall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what would it hurt for the kids to actually know each other?
2007-06-29 05:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋