Me again. i have insecurities because of what has happened to me in the past. at present time my girlfriend is working at a bar, i do not like this situation because of what i know goes on in most bars flirting, fondling ect... people say this does not happen but i know from my own experiences that it does even if you dont want them to happen i love this lady and i dont want to loose her because of this she is very attractive and out going and like one of the readers on here said it makes me think of very bad things happening when i am not around why do i think this way? can anybody give me insight on this matter? I am loosing it thinking about it and thinking i am competing with every man that comes into the bar where she works. signed, very insecure.
2007-06-29 05:35:22 · 10 answers · asked by uwdntblvitifitldu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u need to have trust and faith if you really do care about her. u need to give her a chance to prove herself. if she ruins that chance then you do have the right to be insecure and you need to tell her so you both can work it out.
2007-06-29 05:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sanita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is playing psychological games with you. He is playing on your insecurities. He does not sound like a good long term prospect. Dump him as soon as you can. True love is unconditional and accepts the other person as he or she is. When you are in a good relationship, your guy will love you no matter what. Even if you were perfectly beautiful, you would still grow old, wrinkled, unattractive. You need someone who loves you for your inside and respects you one hundred percent. Nobody is perfect. It is important for your partner to accept your flaws. My own flaws are: I am not good in bed, have ugly hair, overweight, prone to depression. I am a bad driver. But there are many wonderful things about me too, and I expect my partner to love me 100 percent. He should make me feel better, not worse. When you are loved like that, then you feel like the most beautiful, perfect person in the world. Good luck.
2016-04-01 10:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience, when a boyfriend is very insecure with me, I tend to do exactly what he's been accusing me of after awhile. Because its really annoying to put up with the same argument and discussions over and over again with no bases. So if you dont wanna lose her, loosen up and ask her how her day was with out saying anything negative about her job.
2007-06-29 05:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by Krazyspiral 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well dont enter into relationships where the persons lifestyle or job will make u unhappy. Tell whoever it is to go back to school and get a degree in order to find a better job. Stop complaining if u dont want to take the time out to find out waht u really want in someone before u get in too deep.
2007-06-29 05:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kelechi I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel man. My girlfriend is extremely attractive and I worry bout her too when I am not around sometimes. However, one thing that keeps us going is our deep and strong love for each other. She knows that if she did anything to jeopordize our situation that it is over and vice versa. If your gf truly loves you back then you have nothing to worry about.
2007-06-29 05:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen up. If she really likes you, no matter if you catch someone flirting with her, she'll always like you. She should be thinking about you. Just think like that, if you care for her and she cares for you, you should not feel so insecure, unless you feel that she doesn't like you the way you like her.
2007-06-29 05:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Camille 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting will go on but no extremes. As for fondeling....that shouldn't happen espeacially if the person doesn't want to be fondeled. If you trust her then accept her job and let her know you trust her.
2007-06-29 05:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta get over it. There are so many more positive things to focus on. Keep yourself occupied.
2007-06-29 05:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that the issue here is that you don't trust your girlfriend, if she is happy with you there is no need to worry
2007-06-29 05:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by Greg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only answer is counselling.
2007-06-29 05:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by Aussie 1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋