I just need someone that tries harder. Hes a great guy to be around but he has no job, car in shop and smoke erbs all day. I just cant do it anymore. Please help.
2007-06-29 05:05:29 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's gonna be hurt, but you gotta do it. Otherwise, he'll just drag you down. And pay no attention if he says he'll do this or that. If he was gonna, he would have already. You're a great person and you deserve better! Good luck!
2007-06-29 05:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Ophelia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just got to hurt there feelings. I mean you can not control how a person is going to feel, so stop tripping and worry about how you are going to feel.
You say he is a great guy to hang around? Uh, you might want to up your standards, otherwise you might be the same person one day in his crowd.
Let go and find the meaning of a better person. Not to put him down, but you ever see the commercials of people who are dope heads? The dog walks away from his owner, come on, watch the commercial.
2007-06-29 12:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be direct and to the point. I am sorry but I am at a different place in my life. I want more from a relationship at this point. I have outgrown the partying and I want to start saving and working hard toward my future. I think your a nice guy and a sweet person, but we are at different places right now.
2007-06-29 12:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by melissaw77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him "I'm sorry, but i don't want to date anymore." I'm not a big fan of telling people everything you think is wrong with them-it's a sure-fire way to hurt their feelings, and it makes you look like an asshole/*****. If he really, really presses you about why, then let him have it.
There isn't any easy way of letting people down if they really care about you. The best you can do is be clear and unequivocal. Make it a clean break and it will heal faster.
2007-06-29 12:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and up front and say , although you're a sweet person, I don't think we're really good at dating, however we can still be friends. I need to find out more about what I want in life by seeing different people, I hope you understand.
2007-06-29 18:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter in what state of life a person is,an out right rejection can not only be painful but may result in an unexpected nasty rebound.Use all your tact and diplomacy to convey the message to him.Tell him something like that you had a nice time in his company and would not know know what to do without him but are going to try it from.......[ day/date[].
2007-06-29 12:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard...but just sit him down and say you are not attracted to him as boyfriend but you think he is a great friend and you want to be friends but understand if he does not. Make sure that you make it clear you do not want to "see" him in a boyfriend capacity (unless you two are just friends, in which case tell him you don't want to hang out as much and that your time is being taken up)...
anyway you do it will hurt but if he is a nice, good guy, he'll eventually understand and know that he might not want to be near you again and you have to respect that...
do it in person though, that makes it more sincere and less hurtful
good luck
2007-06-29 12:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by Answers4u 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have any control over how he chooses to react, and people generally don't care for rejection so he may well get hurt. That's just life...be as kind as you can and just let him know the two of you aren't a good match and you are going to move on.
2007-06-29 12:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no way you can change the way he reacts to this, you cant just throw it at him, you need to mentally and physically prepare him for it.....dont return his calls, dont go on a date with him...make him feel your uncomfortable when he comes near you by looking in the other direction .
and then when he asks you whats wrong tell him that this isnt feeling right......and you cant carry on....explain that he is a nice guy but not your type.
i hope he understands
2007-06-29 12:15:18 · answer #9 · answered by i'll solve ur probs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can he be sweet if he's got nothing to give? Just tell him you like someone else. Guys break girls hearts all the time. There is no easy way.
2007-06-29 12:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by Aussie 1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋