Why do people think that Jesus would have "chosen" to marry?

Question

Marriage were arranged. If he was Jewish he would have most likely been married by the age of 13. People didn't grow up and fall in love and get married. That wasn't the way the culture or religion worked. I'm not saying he was married or not though I believe he was. I just don't understand why people are saying he would have had a choice. He was Jewish.

And why would it be in the Bible? It had nothing to do with his teaching.
There IS documentation that he was married. So it COULD be possible.

It is implies in the Gospel According to Mary.
Now before you jump down my throat I am not getting this from DaVinci Code. I also admit a good portion of this gospel is missing. I also conced it was written after the time of Jesus, but A LOT of the gospels were.

Answer 1

You're right, they did marry very young just as some cultures today marry very young. A Jew's first commandment is to be fruitful and multiply. Men were not considered to be an adult until they married; hence, Jesus would have had no followers at all (especially Jews) if he had not been married.
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Answer 2

Jewish men usually married when they where about 30 years old, so they had time to get fiscally settled. The women where usually betrothed in their teens.

I am no sure it the man made the arrangement with the woman's farther or if the man's father talked to the woman's father.

Also Joseph died when Jesus was between 12 and 30, it might have become Mary's responsibility, or maybe Jesus'.

Also God might have told Mary or Jesus that Jesus was not to get married (it is just not recorded in the Bible).

Answer 3

I had no idea that "people think Jesus chose to marry" unless you are referring to an as yet unsubstantiated theory that Jesus and Mary of Magdala may have been husband and wife.

Some scholars conjecture (theorize) that Jesus might have been married although it is not mentioned in the standard traditional Gospels of the Bible, because it was considered very weird, in fact not in line with Jewish culture, during that time to NOT be married. especially if one were a "rabbi," which Jesus was considered to be.

Although there is no definitive proof of this, some scholars (academic and amateur) of early Christianity think that Mary Magadalene and Jesus may have had an intimate, marriage-like relationship. Some Gnostic gospels allude to an intimate relationship between Jesus and Mary although this might be elaboration on a theme since in some Gnostic groups--unlike in what became standard patriarchal Christianity--the idea was that God had feminine and masculine aspects or forms to the extent that men and women had a different, more exalted and sympathetic attitude toward each other (and especially toward the "divine feminine") in these systems (which were similar to some pagan and Eastern spiritual systems) because they saw complementary spiritual identities in each other.

A French legend (The Golden Legend) says that Mary Magdalene was pregnant with Jesus's child at the time of his death. According to the legend, she and her child--a daughter--fled to France. The child supposedly became the ancestor of a lineage of French royalty and Mary Magalene became an ecstatic mystic and hermit who live naked in a cave.

Answer 4

So they can sell books and make TV specials about it.

Jesus did not have time for a wife and kids. If he did he would have had to stay home with them, and would not have been able to attend is flock as much as He needed to. That idea is also expressed several times in the bible.

Also, as Jesus knew He was going to die the way He would, why would he want to put a wife and kids through that? Losing their their father/husband, in such a brutal public display? And when this is brought up, most peole talk about Mary Magdelene. But given when he met Mary Magdelene, it was only a couple years before his death. Not a good deal for her either.

And let's face it, if Jesus was married don't you think that would have been important enough to mention in the bible?

From a deeper Theological perspective it wouldn't make sense for Jesus to get married on earth. Jesus is God. And God is a perfect union. A family if you will. God made us in his image, as male and female, so that we could join together and become one (like God), forshadowing the perfect union with God in heaven. Priests today do not mary because they are "skipping" this earthly union, to devote their lives to God, and begin their union with Him on earth. How much more would this have been true with Jesus, who was already divine! He would have been the last person who would have needed union with another human. His union with God was perfect already!

Answer 5

First off you have to remember that Jesus wasn't just some Jewish guy. He was God in human form. His thinking and every thing about Him was different.

Please give the location of the documentation, that you have, that he was married. Mary Madeline was close to him and usually with him, BUT, no such documentation exist that they were married, as far as I know. Pops

Answer 6

He would have been BETROTHED at 13, he wouldn't have married until he was 16, or 18 and actually had a job.

Answer 7

Mary and Joseph knew who Jesus was. They knew he wasn't a normal Jewish kid. It's absurd to think they would have tried to raise him as such.

Answer 8

Jesus himself followed the jewish laws and customs. If they mentioned he was married in the bible it would have taken away his God like status when they wrote the myths about him.

Answer 9

Didn't Joseph and Mary fall in love? I don't remember anything that says it was arranged.

Answer 10

Jesus turns you on doesn't he? Is that why you're obsessed with his sex life?