I have this Guy"Friend" i have known for my whole life! And we have been dating for the last week.I know he loves me and he has text me and said it but why woun't he say it in person??
2007-06-29 05:00:22 · 42 answers · asked by ღ̣♥ E && A ♥ღ̣ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys are afraid we won't get a 'I love you too' back.
And if we do say it, and don't get it back, rest assured...
He'll be gunshy for a very long time.
What does it really matter anyways? Lifes too short to sweat the small stuff. You know he loves you, Why do you need constant re-assurance?
Try a little horseplay with him, get him giggling and then
hit him with a 'hehe do you love me?' that should get
you what you're lookin for!
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2007-06-29 05:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by -R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ummm... I personally would think that he may not "love" you the way you think he does. If he's a guy friend that you have known your whole life then it's mostly a friendly love. I know that you and him are dating and all that but it's only been a week, when you actually date for a few months maybe even a year he will probably start telling you that he loves you and meaning it as "Im in love w/ you". Give it some time, it's easy to say it thru text messaging vs saying it in person.
2007-06-29 05:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound hurtful- maybe he doesn't just yet. He may have strong feelings for you, but may not be 'in love' yet.
Or he doesn't feel that he is in a position to say 'I love you' yet, after all a week isn't long! And people always put 'love u' or something similar at the end of texts- could it be you're reading too much into it at the moment?
And for the record, I said 'I love you' to my girlfriend first, after about 2 months of going out. She said it back..
2007-06-29 05:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by Cookie_Monster_UK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because in person its more of in in depth thing that usually has to be felt by 2 people.. maybe your not giving him vibes that you feel the same (that you love him) so hes scared it will be awkward if he just randomley says I love you... because if you dont feel the same it would probabley be really embarising and a heart braker.. why would you date a guy youve known your whole life tho.. You would think that relationship would be more like a brotherly sister type.. he probally knows your every move and what your thinking lol... I definatly wouldnt do that.. not to mention if you brake up.. that would totally mess up you guys friendship.. that might also be a reason why he may not feel confortable opening up to you by saying I love you.
2007-06-29 05:09:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys do say it first!! My guy said it to me first and it was AMAZING (not to rub it in, sorry)..but it's only been a week, that's not even enough time for someone to say it and really mean it, give him a few weeks, no maybe months..it'll be better that way. And actually if a guy says i love you all the time it starts to lose it's meaning, if a guy says it sparingly then it makes you that much happier and he's that much more truthful-believe me. If you push it, it's going to crumble like cookies.
2007-06-29 05:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by anaandmialivewithin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww well maybe he does not want to say it to your face because he might not feel it completely inside yet. He probably thinks he loves you and that is why he sends those texts but he might be waiting to say the "i love you" to your face when he feels comfortable with the idea of love and reallly does feel in love with you. Dont pressure him though! Its only been a week! He still has some time to say it to you!!
Just be patient and keep on loving him!! ; )
2007-06-29 05:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by Parle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying "I love you" is a big commitment and he may just be scared. It's not socially acceptable for a guy to be afraid because men are supposed to be big and strong. My husband said it to me first. We had only known each other for a week and on our second date, we were drunk and I just grabbed him and kissed him and the first words out of his mouth were "I love you" and I laughed it off because it was so unexpected. We were engaged the next day. We've been together for three years and married for two.
2007-06-29 05:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by gyoza1216 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you claiming over 3+billion guys don't do something because your "guy friend" hasn't done it?
Lots of guys say it first...depends on the guy. It's not either party's responsibility to say it first however...so neither has any real right to gripe that the other person hasn't said it. If you feel it, say or not but it's your issue, not the other person's.
2007-06-29 05:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys do say it first. Most guys are just as insecure as girls about laying it all out there. Why does it matter who says it first, anyway? Just so they mean it when they say it. Oh, and here's another thing....you say he has texted you that he loves you? Well, as far as he is concerned, he has "told" you....guys think like that. Now, he is waiting for you to reciprocate.
2007-06-29 05:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do and I don't do it or need an "I love you" back in response. Most women take that statement waaaaay to seriously. I love lots of things and I hate it when a woman gets all creepy after I've said it.
2007-06-29 05:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋