Threesome?

Question

Ok i have a bit of a problem, i am bi-curious and my boyf has alwaysliked the idea of a threesome. At first, iwas like"no way!!" but now i know that our relationship is strong and it could withstand anything(weve been thru alot lately), i would actually quite like to try new things. My problem is that how do you go about organising it? see my quandry is that if you do it with a mate-will it be too weird, where as if you do it with sum1 you know vaguely, well, that has it obvious faults... what do you
reckon? please dont answer just to preach at me cos i have thouroughly thought this thru , i want suggestions only! cheers x

Answer 1

Just be sure the both of you are ready.
The last thing you want is to have one or both of you be jealous because the third party can do things for you the other can't.

Maybe try simple flirting and make out session before you jump into the full on threesome.
Maybe your man can watch first, it's important to get comfi with it before you jump into a threesome.

And have a good long talk, all three of you & set up your boundries and be honest that it's just sex, or whatever.

Answer 2

I'd recommend against a good friend, due to the issues it can create in that relationship. Perhaps a casual friend you don't really hang out with much or someone you just met...just use protection (same as you should when dating a new partner).

As long as you and your bf have a solid relationship. No jealousies and no insecurities, you should be fine. Just make sure there's an agreement beforehand that if either of you becomes uncomfortable or wants to stop the 3-some situation then it'll stop. No questions, no arguments, no coercion or begging. Adding playmates to a relationship must be a mutually agreed upon thing, or not at all.

Enjoy!

Answer 3

Although your question does seem sincere, that's a tough one. I have never experienced it myself, but like most guys I would love to be with two women at once. If you can find someone neither of you know that well, that may be alright; less emotion involved with the the 3rd party. I wouldn't even know how to find a girl like that though.

If you find a girl that you know but he doesn't, that may be even better than previous suggestion, because between your b/f and the other girl, there is no emotion involved, it's just physical. You and the girl that you would know may have a an emotional issue to think about. Good luck with your endeavor and write another post telling us how it worked.

Answer 4

You've thoroughly thought it through but see problems whether the third person is familiar or a stranger.

I've got to be honest here. I think it's very unlikely that the relationship with your boyfriend will remain strong if you two bring in a third person. It's supposed to be about you caring for him and vice versa. How strong is your relationship if you're so bored you need to bring in someone else?

Another thought is that maybe you should break off the relationship and try dating women to see if you're really a lesbian. Whatever you decide your orientation is, I think it's best if you see only one person at a time, and hopefully you'll eventually find someone who's interested in you and only you.

Answer 5

I had a threesome with one of my guy friends and my best girl friend. It was not awkward at all, and the girl was cool with it, before and after. I prefer to know the person I'm messing around with...I would pick a close friend who wouldn't judge you, and who might actually love the idea. If you can't find one, then go out and meet some new people until you find the "right" one! Good luck. Have fun!

Answer 6

I have had the same quandry and it has always seemed that minor friends of hers that she never saw much worked out best. She knew them fairly well but we didnt have to see them all the time, so their was no weird vibes afterwards. This was the best of both worlds. She always inititated it so there was no jealousy on her part.
As for it possilby making a relationship rocky, well if you cant get through this unscathed then you probably wouldnt stay together anyway.

Answer 7

Not preaching...BUT...if you're bi-curious...there's a strong chance that you could end up having more fun than your man with this other chic!! I had this happen to me and the guy actually got VERY jealous and seriously ended up pouting over the fact that I was enjoying myself so much!!! Anyway...you need to find the right person. Mine was with a very good friend. We just got drunk and went nuts. However...I wouldn't really like the idea of it being a stranger. I'd want to know what her deal was...ya know?? Good luck and have fun!! Cheers to you to!

Answer 8

It's hard to say what is the best for you. If you are with a close friend, and it wasn't what you thought, are you going to be able to hang out again later? If it was what you thought, is your boyfriend going to wonder every time you 2 hang out together?

I would say to find someone that is not real close to either of you. And, lay out the ground rules ~ is it going to be just oral between everyone or does he watch the 2 of you or are you willing to let your boyfriend have sex with her too? I would make sure that everyone is tested...that way there is no confusion.

Talk everything over first with all parties. Be prepared for all outcomes.

Answer 9

Alcohol is key here. You are right to choose an acquittance rater than someone close to you if possible. We're talking about adding another female to the equation right? Because threesomes are really, really cool, especially for the dude(well I only know from the guys pov). I don't know how well you can organize it unless someone is lined up. Best of luck to ya, sry I couldn't help too much.

Answer 10

Dr. Phil and that guy Dr. Drew (from LoveLine on Mtv,etc.) would both say threesomes are a bad idea and would most likely damage if not destroy your relationship. If your boyfriend can't be satisfied with you then you need to look elsewhere. There IS someone out there who will find a relationship with you fulfilling on an intellectual, emotional and sexual relationship. Don't sell yourself short. and if you don't want to have a threesome DON'T DO IT! If he keeps pushing, leave him. Take care and good luck!