Here are two senerios: the guy who instantly clicked and the physical side was amazing..but the emotional side was awful. Then you have the guy that the emotional side is good, stable and loving but the physical side is not so stellar. What is more important to have long term? And why can't you have both?
2007-06-29 04:31:00 · 17 answers · asked by nifer_101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually, you 'can' have both. It's just a matter of finding the right man, is all. You may not find a 'perfect' balance, ever, because it's not a perfect world, but you can come close- IF you search hard enough, and are determined to find what you're looking for :-)
No, you don't really have to settle for one compromise or the other. Men (or women for that matter) aren't clearly divided into two groups that way. There are many 'flavors' in between, and how intense they are in those flavors will vary a great deal. [Hmmm... I'm getting hungry.] :-)
Now, based on the two examples you provided, if ' I ' had to decide, I would choose your second example. Why? Because he can be taught to become more stellar physically. He can learn to be better physically. The guy with the emotional issues is much hader to change, if to any good degree at all. Those with awful emotional problems rarely get that much better, and it takes a lot of work. Too much work. Men with physical failings however, are a lot easier to improve :-)
Choose the man whos's better for you love and heart. The physical stuff is a lot easier to fix- or to settle for as they are.
Hope that helps :-)
~ Jonathan Rich
2007-06-29 04:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jonathan Rich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, they're both equally important. But I'd much rather have an amazing emotional connection than just a great physical one. I think you can have both if each individual is committed to working on the relationship.
2007-06-29 04:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by Judy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long terms are for the emotional stablized persons ... physical is short-termed always and is obtained so lustfully if emotions are severly lacking in a relationship .. but be sure that ain't no one living without emotions or without tha physical abilities .. it is just different porportions needed to be balanced by love and understanding.
2007-06-29 04:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sara007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to compromise. if u want a long term relationship the emotional side is more important because the physical part disappears with time. it is possible to have both of them and whoever has it is very lucky.
2007-06-29 04:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Val 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The physical side is not always so important; you can get away with not having it sometimes, and sometimes you just don't want it. The emotional side is ALWAYS important, so go with that.
You can have both. You just need to find the right guy!
2007-06-29 04:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only reason we can't have both is because no one is perfect and if a guy does have both sides then that means that there is another side to him that you probably don't want to see but the emotion side would last long term
2007-06-29 04:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by texasafronegro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's difficult to build the emotional, etherial on the foundation of the physical...it's just too shallow.
the physical is going to change, and over time, the physical will inevitably deteriorate.
the spiritual is the long term winner...the physical attraction can grow from a foundation of mutual respect and honor for each other.
Godspeed.
2007-06-29 04:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which is more important to you: emotional compatibility or sexual compatibility? Are you willing to settle for one or the other in order not to be alone? There are no right or wrong answers to this question-it's a value judgement everyone has to make for themselves.
And it is possible to have both. You just have to hope you're lucky enough to find the right person.
2007-06-29 04:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me if you are asking this question you don't really want, down deep, to be with either of them long term in my eyes physical shouldn't matter it's what in the inside that makes a person beautiful emotions they are a big part of a relationship, otherwise that person will always be looking out for number 1--himself
2007-06-29 04:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by sassysandyinmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a personality and physical attraction. Perfect scenario would be a friend who has a great personality who you end up attracted to because of their personality. I wasn't physically attracted to my bf when I first met him but loved his personality and now 7 months later, he is the sexiest, most gorgeous man in my eyes. It's all about love.
2007-06-29 04:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by Low Pro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋