I'm 21 years old and never had a boyfriend. i consider myself pretty good looking, im smart, dont smoke/drink, having a good personality. i think my only downfall is im shy. what do i need to do to get a decent guy to ask me out...where do i meet them? should i be the one to always make the first move?
2007-06-29 03:07:45 · 13 answers · asked by happygirl23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You didn't say where you were looking.
Life would be simpler if there were vast warehouses of good men, hibernating up-side down like bats, on moving racks like they have in the dry cleaners. Walk in, tell the clerk what sort of man you were looking for (over 5' 10", 22 - 26, likes to read), clerk pushes the button, you see a selection, pick the redhead, clerk wakes him up and you take him out for a test date.
Alas. Most of the good men are doing things, not waiting around to be met. You have to do things too.
If you are interested in religious men who like to sing, join a church choir. If you are interested in religious men who are willing to give up a Saturday for their church, volunteer to make sandwiches for the next Buildings & Grounds Committee work party (or grab a paint brush yourself.)
If you are interested in men who like to hike, join the Sierra Club; men who like to keep fit, join a gym or co-ed softball league. Men who are interested in 20th century European history, (art, politics, Spanish, literature, ecology) - a night class.
Men who are willing to give up a Saturday for a good cause - walk-a-thon.
Men who like to read - book discussion group.
etc. etc.
Men who are cheap and looking for a quick roll in the hay - go to a bar that offers free drinks for women on Friday from 5 - 7. (That was not a real suggestion, but you'd be surprised how many women go to singles bars and complain about the men they meet.)
Note you don't have to meet Mr. Right at these places; some married 53-year old in the bass section of the choir may notice you are bright, good looking and single and tell you about his son, nephew, neighbor or co-worker who is also single, shy, bright, etc.
You shouldn't make the first move, but you can drop the fact you are single in casual conversation. Approach good men as you would stray cats; keep your voice low, don't make any sudden moves and offer them food if at all possible.
2007-06-29 03:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anne Jovie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being shy is likely a big culprit. It is not a matter of whether or not you make the first move, but what kind of vibes you give off. If you keep to yourself, don't smile, and demonstrate body language that suggests you are not interested, then no one is going to approach you. I recommend two things.
1. See a therapist about your shyness and get some pointers on how to employ better body language to your advantage. You learn how to LOOK like you're not shy, even if you are, and you won't have to approach people.
2. Get out there and get involved! The best way to meet decent guys is to get involved in as many activities as you can handle. Join a club. Volunteer. Take a class. Start jogging. Whatever YOU are interested. Get involved with things you enjoy, and you'll meet like-minded people, and even have a simple conversation starter.
Good luck!
2007-06-29 03:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys are just as shy as you so maybe you could just try to be more inviting.. and that might be a shy smile at some guy you think is cute or striking up a conversation with a cute dude. Oh and I don't know what kinds of things you enjoy so I can't really suggest a place to meet them, but if you are a church going girl why not try the church group?
2007-06-29 03:13:38 · answer #3 · answered by ehad46 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 14:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,
Some guys could find you intimidating if you're too pretty or something.
Sometimes the girls have to make the first move.
Also, guys don't like shy women---trust me.
Guys want confident assertive women.
They love it.
So be confident, make the first move.
2007-06-29 03:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie_ is_ bomb. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl there's nothing wrong in being shy(trust me im like that too...lolzzz)but yes if you want a guy then you will have to open up to them and communicate.And the more you do,the more you will get comfortable with it.Hope this helps?
2007-06-29 03:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just speaking from experience ,people just seem to attract the same type of guys over and over!!! you need to go hang out somewhere different!! maybe a young couples church group or go out with a different group of friends. whatever your routine is ,change it. look at people and places you normally would not be at all the time and be patient. the right one will come along and you will know it!!! good luck..........
2007-06-29 03:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a party, just get out of the house and have some fun. Hopefully someone will come along who loves you for who you truely are- and if not then you will have to seek them out.
2007-06-30 13:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by miranduh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not ur falt that ur shy. a lot of guys wait for a girl like u. see if i was older i would date u. but im only 15
2007-06-29 03:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got your whole life to deal with males. Don't rush it. When the right comes along you'll know....he'll find you.
2007-06-29 03:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋