my gf and i have been seperated by her parents for 3 months and thats the longest weve been apart she has abandonment issues and i just really love her i cant talk to her or see her at all so i have no contact with her for 3 months(all summer)...what do i do to keep my mind of missing her so that i dont do something stupid like hurt myself(cutting) (i have a history of cutting) plz help
2007-06-29 02:53:31 · 8 answers · asked by Mi Pe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 16 and shes 16
2007-06-29 02:57:55 · update #1
I have absolutely no contact with her for 3 months no phone no computer not even writing letters to her
2007-06-29 03:00:12 · update #2
aww i totally know how you feel and something similar like that happened to me except at a younger age and i tried to cut myself i would cry everyday till i fell asleep .
i was in 8th grade and my bf in 9th and i wasnt allowed to date so i went out ith him behind my moms back and we only got to go out for 3 months because i hardly saw him since i would lie to my mom and say i had to go with my friend to the movies and i would meet him instead (it sucked not being able to see him or talk to him freely ) so i couldnt take it anymore and i broke it off except i liked him so much and i couldnt take it anymore and i wanted to go back out with him but he was too hurt and it would still be in secret so we dint go out and then i attempted to cut myslef but with a protractor, needle but never with a knife iw as too scared . and i only did it twice and then i stopped and me and him stopped talking to each other for a year and his mom hated me for hurting him and we still feel we like each otehr but if we do want to see each other it would be in secret sicne both our parents dont want us too see eahc other(and i want to see him badly ..its been two years since all of that) i would say you call one fo her good friends and tell her to tell your gf you want to see her and then plan to see each other in secret (if for sure you arent allowed ot see her then thats the only things that is left and i should know that things in secret dont work out but if you guys truly miss each other then its worth it ) i really hope everything works out!!! and in the meanwhile try to see other friends and get your mind off of cutting because it really doesnt help because once you cut yourself you will still miss her so its best if you try to see ach other (even if it is in secret)
2007-06-30 11:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by riskybusiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is clear you are thinking a whole lot about her. If she is thinking of you in the same way, then she may be feeling the same way. You need to figure out a way to connect with her and perhaps she is also trying to connnect with you. Think and figure out a way to communicate with her. Do you know anyone who might know how to get in touch with her? Do you have common friends that can help you get in touch with her? try that. But quit thinking about cutting yourself. That is not going to help you and for sure regardless of how strong her feelings are for you,, she will feel bad because for sure you touched her heart in a special way and she will never forget you even if you are not on her mind 24/7. So again, DO NOT CUT. Use your brain to figure out things to do the right things.
2007-07-06 18:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by jorge e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a cutter, then you need professional help for this, bud. There is nothing anyone here can do to help you, except to advise that you go talk to your doctor about this as soon as you can. Hang in there, and good luck!
2007-06-29 02:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
me i would sneek talking to her on the phone and tell her to meet you a the movies or the mall some where that doesnt make it obviuos shes up to somehting.... so thats what i would do....good luck, and im so sorry i hope you get to see her again
2007-06-29 04:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by Aisa T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god, i feel sorry for you two.
but u shouldnt cut yourself! what if ur not looking and you cut yourself so deeply you died and then you would never see ur gf again, yeh? plus it would make ur gf really sad.
can you call ur gf? if you cant, can you email ur gf? facebook? myspace? xanga???? msn?
gdluck
2007-06-29 02:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by hello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to a therapist if you think you are going to hurt yourself. how old are you?
2007-06-29 02:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
KAISE MAJANU HO YAAR ? BOTH OF YOU ARE IN SWEET SIXTEEN. JUST RUSH / RUN AND HAVE YOUR OWN FREE LIFE. YOU STILL NEED ANY ADVICE ABOUT WHAT TO DO ?
2007-07-06 23:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by SUDHIR M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go masturbate... dont cut that hurts!!!
2007-07-06 04:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by partyup84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋