PLEASE HELP me!!?

Question

I'm 16 and struggling with some VERY low self-esteem. I'm smart and all and I have intellectual interests and I'm not into partying, smoking, drinking and all that stuff, but I feel so bad about myself. I have stretch marks from when I used to be bigger (I lost 30lbs) and lots of acne scars. My mom is always telling me how proud she is that I'm smart and grew up so well, but when I see girls at my school posting slutty pics of their bodies on the web for everyone to see, it just makes me cringe.I've seen pics of girls in their underwear, holding their bums out and girls with no tops, covering their breasts. I even seen one with the caption "Fvck me harder daddy". What bothers me is that these are the exat girls that boys lust for. They don't care about nice girls like me with good souls, just the slutty ones. One guy even said that every boy he knows likes a *****. I know that I'll never be some sexy dominitrix, but I'm pretty cool personality wise (Myspace.com/ Tia DeGiobbi, check me

Answer 1

Morgan, you are a beautiful young woman. The only reason men go out with the girls you see is only to use them. You are a jewel and they know that when they come to you they 'll have to clean up their act and take you seriously as you deserve to be treated. The girls the are ssss are not helping themselves and it's sad because years from now, they'll be old mattress ,used by men and they'll have no pride or self- confident anymore. I am happy to say that I'm just like you, i do have my wild side but i do not lower myself for any body. This is the ideal girl for the best man and you'll come to see that as time goes on how fortunate you are to be the person you are today :-)
Stay as sweet as you are!

Answer 2

Here is what I say....use cocoa butter to smooth the stretch marks, ask your mom to buy you Pro Active for the acne scars (it softens them a lot) or use make up.

Remember....you will always be a sweetheart and those other girls will always be sluts.

Stay who you are...don't change at all. I don't understand why you have such low self esteem. Don't compare yourself to other girls (even know at 16 that's very hard to do). Keep cringing when you see those myspace pics of those other girls...those are the ones who are gonna drop outta high school because they have a baby on the way.

NOT ALL GUYS lust after girls that are sluts...they just think they are easy so it's a good way to just, very harsh saying but it's true, to get their d***s wet.

Don't worry about it...you will do bigger and better things than they will....

As for guys...they will come along. You probably have a guy friend that really likes you but you don't know it yet.

Remember...there is at least one person of the opposite sex that is thinking about you everyday...remember that. :-)

Answer 3

You are only 16 and have a long way ahead for you when it comes to relationship. Yuo should be proud of yourself.

When I was you age, i had similar problems and they use to call me names. When I was 19 and had my first job, everything changed. Guys were atracted to my personality and not physical appearances.

I am hapily married to a wonderful man who is gorgeous and loves me for the person I am and more.

There is nothing to br proud of when girls put up naked pictures of themselves for guys to see. All those guys want is sex and nothing more and those type of repationship never lasts. When they want fun, yes but when it comes to a serious relationship, they want someone like you.

Study hard my dear and do well in school. You will soon see that things will change.

Answer 4

First of all, I would post your myspace as much as possible ( I didn't look at it yet).

Secondly, I think that those boys that are like that don't deserve your time, energy and emotions because who are they? Take yourself to a better place (rise yourself and hold yourself up to a pedastal)

Third, I know you have low self esteeem and so do I so I'm not much help, but guys like that, let me tell you, they are NOT worth your time. I repeat NOT! People have told me that guys like that never last. This is high school, so I suggest to just enjoy your time with friends and dances (like I did) and ALWAYS school work.

Answer 5

your only 16, when i was that age, most guys were like that too. Personally, at that age, i wouldn't deal with those type of girls nor would i want to date them. I was mature for my age i suppose. don't worry about the type of girls guys lust for. lust is the key word there, you don't want ppl to lust for you anyways, lust isn't a good thing. Just relax, make friends, and be patient, the right guys will come along. but during high school, you'll discover many guys are immature. They may lust after these type of girls, but the girls like you are the ones who when they mature, they want real relationships with.

Answer 6

Whatever you do don't change who you are for anyone. I had to learn the hard way that when you try too hard to impress others you end up extremely dissapointed in the end. You have to learn to accept yourself for who you are. I took up the attitude that whoever else doesn't like me for me then they can just step because that just means they aren't worth my time. Hang in there sweetie. You'll see that people who have the same integrity as you will soon start surfacing and you'll have friends and people to hang out with and who knows, maybe a cute boy! :) Remember that it isn't wrong to have dignity in the midst of all those extremely easy girls. Be proud of yourself for being different and for having respect for yourself. Shoot I don't know you and I'm proud of you for not being one of them! :) Just hang in there... things will get better.

Answer 7

The boys have ragging hormones to deal with and will seek sex with the sluts and bitches-and may even marry them. As they mature the hormones will decrease and the better guys will be looking for the good girls like you to settle down, marry and raise a family. Do not worry or change to be popular-your time will come.

Answer 8

as guys mature, they'll start to realize that slutty girls aren't the ones they're looking for. i'm glad you haven't turned to bad things like that yet. if you have some makeup and you don't like your image, go online and find a model with your body shape and hair color. use some concelaler to cover up your scars and some blush. if you find you have dark circles under your eyes, use this thing that looks like tan lipstick, sorry i can't remember the name. if you have a favorite outfit, wear that. go shopping if you don't like your wardrobe. but either way, those guys aren't going to be a good boyfriend if they like girls like that, so relax, you'll find your soul mate!

Answer 9

It'll get better once you get out of high school. Right now you're dealing with a bunch of immature kids focused on looks, money, etc. Hang in there..you'll be all the better for it and besides, there is no sweeter revenge than success!

Answer 10

guys in high school r just that way but once they mature they will go for the girls with the good personallities and stuff so i guess u just have to wait it out b/c obviously none of those guys r worth your time! but i mean ovbiously ur a great person and one day a guys will c that u r and yea so u get wat im sayin!♥