My best friend was engaged last August and they are having the wedding September of NEXT year. so its still over a year away. I just got engaged 2 weeks ago and we want to get married in a year. So, maybe May of next year. However, I have a feeling this might annoy my friend and I dont want to "steal her thunder" so to say.
2007-06-29 02:11:06 · 20 answers · asked by Andrea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She wouldn't be annoyed if she's a true friend. She'll understand that this is what is best for you. Also, there is some time between May and September, so don't worry, the glory of her special day will not be any less because of your wedding. Congratulations anyway! :-)
2007-06-29 02:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by ✿Purple✿ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want a May wedding, there's no point in waiting two years just so she can have hers first. Also, hers seems like a long engagement - she could've waited just one year as well. I think that if she's a good friend, she'll understand and be happy for you either way! If you were getting married within a month before her, I think then she might think you were "stealing her thunder" but this is 4 months! I think you'll be fine.
2007-06-29 03:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, she might get very angry at you-i've seen this so many times and it's happening to a close friend of mine. If it was just an aquaintence then it wouldn't be so bad but you're going to have so much planning you're going to want your best friend there to help you and if she's upset with you, you're going to be really unhappy about it. Is she going to be in your wedding? you have to realize that a wedding is expensive and she may not have the money to get a dress for your wedding or get you much of a gift or have enough time to plan your wedding shower. The best thing to do is get her honest opinion on the whole situation. But remember that by that time next year you won't have time whatsoever to help each other out with plans and that is what best friends are for! (remember to that even though your best friend may be a kind and gentle person, she'll most likely turn into a bridezilla closer to her date and she'll be more emotional and irrational about things)
2007-06-29 02:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She and her fiance have set their date pretty far ahead. The events are separate. You are not planning to set your date to be the same as hers or within a couple weeks before. It really oughtn't to be a problem. I'm sure you will also choose your own style and colors and cake flavors and flowers for your wedding, so nobody will be attending the same function twice in one summer.
If you really think she's going to be upset, talk to her. After all, this is your best friend and that's a bond worth tending. But honestly, when a bride chooses to have a two year long engagement, that ups the chances that someone else in her circle will marry first. This doesn't affect how most guests view either bride's wedding.
A true friend will be happy for you, as you are for her.
2007-06-29 02:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually had this happen to me when I got engaged. We announced our engagment and gave the date. well with in the time period that we did get engaged two of my other friends did to. We planned ours to take place a year and half after engagment. Well low and behold they were getting married around the same time.
Honestly it did piss me off. But then I thought about it and figured it will be a happy day for us all. It was all different days. And let it go. I laugh about it now b/c I am the only one still engaged. Still with their parnter.
But dont worry about it. May and september is enough time between them. I would say go for it and congarts...
2007-06-29 02:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this somewhat happen to me. I have a friend who got engaged a year before me and I am already married and they are getting married this upcoming September...Because they are true friends they did not have a problem with this. Especially since we have totally different families and guests at our wedding and it isn't going to tax out anyone...Don't worry about it.Set it for when you want it.
2007-06-29 03:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by ventity325 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your weddings are well over a year apart so there should be no issue at all. The fact the both of you will be planning your weddings should be helpful. My bestfriend and I are both engaged so we have been able to get double the work done in less time. You both should use it to your advantage.
2007-06-29 03:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 07:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by eilermann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey if she's your friend, she will be happy for you just like you are happy for her. Your wedding has nothing to do with hers, so chose the date that you want...It's you day and you shouldn't have to worry about what she thinks. If you were to chose the same month, that would be annoying but you will be 4 months apart. So have a beautiful May wedding and congratulations...
Good luck
2007-06-29 02:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by johanne 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is 4 months between your preferred date and your friend's wedding, how on Earth would that be stealing her thunder?
2007-06-29 02:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋