Men don't find me very attractive?

Question

I don't know what it is, but ever since I've never had a boyfriend. And when I was 19, only the ugly guys ( or I mean guys who weren't my type) came after me. What do you think it is?

I don't think it's my personality? could it be? I'm not mean to anyone? At least not on purpose.

Would you like me or think I was cute if I was in your class?

-Asian (filipino)
-dark hair and eyes
-5'2
-slim

etc.

I'm just an ordinary pacific islander person or asian, whatever. So what do you think? I know that most of it may deal with the person's personality, but.....

just on the physical aspects of me. Would you date me? If at all ?

Spelling nazi- by the way, I didn't give you the thumbs down.

"I wouldn't date you because you come across as someone who is shallow, judgmental, insecure and vain."

How? don't you have dating preferences too? that was kinda mean!

"I wouldn't date you because you come across as someone who is shallow, judgmental, insecure and vain."

Actually, i'm far from that. I don't dress slutty and or show my skin in class like most girls did in high school.

I may be a bit shallow but who isn't nowadays?

And judgemental? Excuse me? what about dating prefferences? and what ever happend to online courtesy? seems like YOU need some.

"Flip power!!"

y thank you! You too! ;-)

"It's so easy for girls. For a shy guy nothing is easy except to just give up and find a hobby."

Aww! I don't think you should give up that's never going to get you anywhere :-).

"Stop focusing on the external, you can't change it anyway,"

You do know you can change your looks by plastic surgery, enhance your boobs and all of that stuff right?

I just want to find a man that's both attractive and nice. Is that so hard to ask? I know we all have competition but we can't be satisfied until we meet the right guy. Going for just any guy, even though he has a good head and personality on his shoulders might cause you to cheat because, if theres no chemistry, there just isn't. You can't force who you fall in love with! you of all people should know that! And maybe I was thinking to highly of your judgement. And since you don't know me, how the heck to I seem shallow and only care about physical aspects? Most are shallow anyway. The ones I meet anyway. I live near the Hollywood hills! How do you expect people there to be down to earth?!!

Answer 1

perhaps you come across as unapproachable. Do you make eye contact? Smile?

Answer 2

I think you somehow seem unapproachable to guys who are your type. If you are reasonably physically attractive, even ugly with a good body, you don't need to do much to get dates.

Forget about the eye contact myth, that means nothing to most guys.

You just need to be where the guys are and be approachable. Smile, ask questions, be friendly. That's it, nothing more required.

But for extra credit, dress to attract the right kind of guy. Be clumsy and drop stuff to single out the gallant type. Bring a prop as a conversation starter to draw attention to yourself.

If you single out one guy you really like, just touch his arm lightly when you talk to him, if he is attracted to you in the least you now have his full attention.

It's so easy for girls. For a shy guy nothing is easy except to just give up and find a hobby.

Answer 3

Perhaps they might be intimidated by you. Guys might automatically think your already taken. Where do you try to meet these guys? You should try to meet guys like in a job or something. I have a friend who is also filipino, he's 31 and looks younger. He also has been single for a long time. Try making male friends and they might be interested in you or might introduce you to other friends

Answer 4

Try to be a bit more outgoing, you seem like you might be shy. If you keep to yourself then no, guys aren't going to notice you. Go talk to random people, be outgoing. Flirt a little, even if you're not interested in the guy. And enjoy yourself. Guys seem to mostly notice girls who put themselves out there and are fun and enjoy themselves. Good luck =)

Answer 5

I would date you...you sound gorgeous but that may intimidate the opposite sex. Have you tried to approach a guy that you found attractive? Don't wait for them to make the first move go and get what you want. If you wait for someone else to make your life happier..you may be waiting the rest of your life (I know that sounded very Dr. Phil-like but it's true).

Answer 6

You are too hard on yourself. Give it some time. You should also try to be more open minded about which guys you think are right for you. You may be looking in the wrong areas.

Answer 7

I agree with the person who said maybe you come across as unapproachable. You sound very pretty, try smiling at people more other than that I'm sure someone will come along who is equally as attracted to you as you are to them.

Answer 8

The information you gave aren't enough but it shouldn't be a problem. Anyways, true love IS based on personality. Ask your family or close friends who know you for advice. Especially if it's a boy.

Answer 9

I wouldn't date you because you come across as someone who is shallow, judgmental, insecure and vain.

Most people date someone they have something in common with, if all you care about is how you look, then it's hard for them to get to know you.

Stop focusing on the external, you can't change it anyway, and start getting out, listening/talking to people without judging them based on their looks. You'll find yourself more popular and happy, and probably with more dates

Answer 10

Yeah, come to America, Asians are hot! ;)

But, seriously, it's not just your looks. How do you carry yourself? Are you funny, outgoing? Or do you hang against the wall in social situations?

Find groups of people that have things in common with you. The guys will flock to you if you share something in common and have things to talk about.