2007-06-29 01:50:35 · 26 answers · asked by Barbara M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The shower and the wedding are two separate events, but the gift is only absolutely required at the shower. The purpose of the shower is gift-giving, and therefore a gift is mandatory. Wedding gifts are actually optional...but they are also traditional and most people do sort of expect them.
So while etiquette says the wedding gift is optional in theory, in practice we generally bring one. Or more properly send it to the couple either shortly before or shortly after the wedding.
2007-06-29 02:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by gileswench 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I made a big mistake a couple of years ago. I went to the bridal shower and gave the couple a gift-something that cost $50 from Pampered Chef.
When I attended the wedding, I had to bring a gift-it didn´t seem right not to. I ended up going to TJ Maxx and buying them a crystal water pitcher-this cost $20. The bride was a really good friend, so I just chucked this up to experience,and have never made this mistake again.
One gift for the shower, another for the wedding.
2007-06-29 05:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wedding gifts are not "expected." However, just because you gave a shower gift doesn't mean you shouldn't give a wedding gift. Consider spending less on the wedding gift if it's an issue of money.
2007-06-29 03:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule is that you bring a gift for the events that you are invited to. So yes, bring a gift to both. Some bridal showers are specifically for the bride, such as a lingerie shower, which would require a separate gift for the couple at the wedding.
2007-06-29 01:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by trpaz2979 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, people do seem to expect a gift for both shower and wedding which makes me think that the shower really isn't about celebrating an upcoming marriage, but really about being "showered" with gifts. I hate to impose that tradition on my guests, so I have been firm about not having one. We will get to celebrate with everyone at the wedding!
2007-06-30 02:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by Stacey I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A shower is where you "shower" them with gifts. So definitely bring a gift.
However you are NOT required to bring a gift for the wedding.
2007-06-29 03:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bathe (bridal, wedding ceremony, despite) and the marriage are 2 distinctive events and a pair of distinctive presents are the norm oftentimes speaking a marriage bathe and bridal bathe are an analogous factor - on occasion if it somewhat is a "jack and jill" bathe (adult men come too) then they gained't say bridal because of the fact this is which includes the groom notwithstanding this is nonetheless a separate journey in case you're strapped for funds they don't would desire to be extravagant, only a small present off the registry for the bathe and a present day or verify for the marriage do not flow broke over it yet have a good time the two separate activities :)
2016-10-03 07:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by eilermann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have always brought a gift for the shower and had a gift sent to their home for the wedding.
2007-06-29 02:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YUP, and when they throw an engagement party in there you talking 3 gifts.
I normally only spend about $50-100 on the shower gift and gift the big gift at the wedding $100-200.
Sometimes you have to budget all your gifts for one wedding.
2007-06-29 02:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
this depends on the theme of the bridal shower, if its for the bride then u will have to take a gift to the wedding that they can both use
2007-06-29 02:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by cassie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋