Can somebody give me their opinion about this in speaking?:avoiding difficult and unpleasant material?

Answer 1

I suppose it depends on who, exactly, finds the material difficult and unpleasant.

It would indeed be considered poor etiquette to introduce a subject that's highly likely to spark discord and disagreement, since one's hosts want guests to enjoy themselves, not argue.

Likewise, it's unwise to bring up subject which might offend those with delicate sensibilities, like bathroom practices, symptoms of illness in detail, and such.

Basically, you can aim for anything that would be safe to say around both a sheltered 13-year-old girl and her great-grandmother.

I'm not saying you can't discuss things in which there can be friendly disagreement, from sports to what should happen to the old school building to whether Paris Hilton should have served more time. Nobody much enjoys an entire evening of lollipops and rainbows.

Answer 2

Context and content are important considerations if one wishes to practice proper etiquette. If one is making conversation in a social gathering such as a party or a dinner it is not the time nor place for contentiousness or unpleasantness. Avoid such subjects that can cause people to be uncomfortable.

If you are speaking publicly, it all depends, again, on the context. If you are discussing politics contentiousness is unavoidable and is probably what your audience is there to hear. In this context, it is perfectly proper to discuss important issues regardless of the comfort level. However, one should do so in a way that seeks to avoid offensiveness.

Public speaking at, say, a graduation should never be used ad a platform for politics. Instead, the speech should be uplifting and inclusive of all in attendance. It is not the time to anger or annoy people.

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Answer 3

By avoiding the material, we learn nothing from it.

Answer 4

Avoid the topics of sex, religion and politics and you will be safe.

Answer 5

why avoid them you should learn from them