i just broke up with my girlfriend about 14hrs ago , read my other questions , she has joined a dating site in this time and has been emailing other people , she used my hotmail account to set it up and it has made me feel sick , read my other question to get a better understanding about whats happened between us , how can she be so quick to do something like this its heartbreaking , help me , i need words of wisdom ?
2007-06-29 00:58:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do you think that was quick,,she was doing this for a while,,,you just never paid attention , unitl now,,,
2007-06-29 01:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
havent read your other questions - but don't panic about this. Some people when they split up dive straight into another relationship because they cant deal with the hurt on their own, because their self-esteem is so low they need affirmation from other people, because they cant stand the loneliness etc.
It's pretty vile of your ex to be doing this so soon, and especially on your hotmail account, but has it occurred to you that she is actually doing it to try and hurt you rather than because she actually wants a date? I can see no other reason why she would use your hotmail account, she obviously wants you to know about it and that's why she's making sure you do know. I find it highly unlikely she will pursue internet dating - she is probably trying to make a point.
The night I finished with my boyfriend (yes, the SAME NIGHT), he went out and slept with some girl. He saw her for a couple of weeks before admitting to me that he was in so much pain over the break up that he couldn't stand to be alone. So whereas I went to my mum's and moped, he was out drinking and pulling some girl. But it didnt last, and it never meant anything
Your girlfriend sounds like she's being a bit immature, but trust me, she will NOT be getting into a serious relationship any time soon, she is just trying to make a point / hurt you / get over her own hurt
Sorry, this is turning into an essay! I have just read your other questions - if you finished with her, she is trying to make you unhappy and thinks you deserve to be hurt for leaving her. She has been hurting you all the way through your relationship - don't let her carry on hurting you now you've split up. She wont be meeting anyone off this dating site, and even if she does, be damn glad someone else has to suffer her nastiness and not you! Lucky escape for you, I hope you move on and find out how wonderful love can be with the right person
2007-06-29 08:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She had probably been doing this for sometime and you were not aware but this is why your relationship fell apart because she didn't want you really. Yes it makes you feel sick when you discover your partner has been behaving like this but its over now and you need to move on. Personally i don't think finding someone else immediately is the best way- re-bound relationships rarely work well. You need time to discover who you and want you want from life then you will be in a better position to decide what you want from a relationship- then you can start looking for someone who wants the same. Time to thank your lucky stars that you are out of that relationship now. Life will get better.
2007-06-29 08:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Ellie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once again she hurts you this is her talent and reaffirmation that you need to get away from her forever. My ex did the exact same thing the point is she did not love you so was over you for ages and was just using and abusing you.
Stop this torture and levae her get her out of your head stop hunting her down looking for more pain.
You were asking earlier about dating sites come on mate it's too soon for a new relationship, you may go get a girl for a rebound affair or one night stand but it just makes you feel like crap the next day. I have heard you need to give yourself a month for every year you were with your ex to properly get over them. During that time you need to completely cut off all contact and work on self improvment. After a little time you will feel better about yourself ad stop obsessing over this beast of a woman who totally made a dick out of you.
Come on get up and go out do something to get her out of your head for a few hoursBy the way go into your account and delete what she has used it for and then change every password you've ever used.
2007-06-29 08:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by That 70's Show Gal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like shes done a good job on you. Reading a few of your questions, she has completely manipulated you into losing all of your friends so you depend completely on her and no one else, and that is why you can't stop thinking about her and wanting to call her because and I don't want this to come across in a bad way, but it doesn't sound like you have anyone else to speak to. Call up some friends, if they say no then fair enough but going out and not getting on everyone in sight, just enjoy yourself.
Joining a dating website is her way of trying to make you jealous and its working. You were strong enough to wlak away, so be strong enough to stay away.
My e-mails on my profile if you need someone to talk to.
2007-06-29 08:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Libby F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the only thing i can suggest is that you ignore her and keep her out of your life shes not worth the trouble, i know thats difficult to do and that you probably still care for her but shes trying to move on and so do you. im not saying that it was ok to use YOUR hotmail to set this up thats just uncaring and sick! but it is proof shes moving on the only cure for you is to try and do the same gd luck! x
2007-06-29 08:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by LusT aFter INsaNIty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's your ex so it's okay for her to move on...sorry if it's hurting you but typically in a break up at least one party does get hurt.
If someone can get over you that quickly, then their feelings weren't very deep anyway. Try to leave the situation behind and move forward toward more positive things for yourself.
2007-06-29 08:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that she was already doing this before you broke up. You need to move on, which is easier said and done. I'm sorry you had a bad experience, but there are nice people out there, too.
2007-06-29 08:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
cos she only cares about herself? my ex broke up with me at christmas, his reason being that he couldnt handle a full-on relationship at that time. recently he has started visiting me and he's told me that he's living with someone and has been for a couple of months! he only knew her (and her kids!) for a short while before he gave up his house and moved in. now he's sorry and sorry for hurting me and doesn't know why he did it. people do really mad things sometimes, and i dont think we'll ever know what makes them tick. im guessing your ex knew that you were going to split and joined the dating site as a mask her hurt, as she likes to feel wanted. it gives her something to think about instead of you.
2007-06-29 08:07:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She obviously did this so you would find it and be jealous. This girl is seriously playing you and will stop at nothing to get the upper hand or see you destroyed. You need to consider her dumped and never speak to her again.
2007-06-29 08:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by ninebadthings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your whining suggests to me why she may have broken up with you and is finding it so easy to move on.
Since it's your hotmail account, either cancel it or delete all the messages that come in.
2007-06-29 08:03:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋