whats ur oppinion about friendship btween 12 yrs old boy and 21 yrs old guy?

Question

our neighbor have 21 yrs old son and he is friend with my 12 yrs old brother.my brother like the guy either and spend hes free time with him.do u think its normal?

Answer 1

Jason, stop their friendship right this instant!

Answer 2

Instead of thinking so negative maybe he is more of a bigger brother than you are? Do you treat your little brother like a red headed step child and pick on him? Remember he is 12 years old so he is definately into being a little rebel right about now and maybe this 21 year old friend lets him do what he wants? Is that right? It depends on what he is doing. However, you should look into the situation. Ask your little broher why he likes hanging out with him so much. Maybe the reasons I listed above are the reason...well I sure as hell hope so. If it is something else if I were you that 21 year old would have a problem...and I would show him how to deal with it.

Answer 3

Well, I have always gotten along best with folks much older or much younger at least when I was a teen.

That said, you need to step up and talk to your brother. Tell him a story about a guy you read about. Say, "I know this guy who was older than this boy. He made friends with him, got close to him, made his friendship so important to the young boy, that he knew the young boy would do whatever it took to stay friends. Then, when the boy totally trusted the man and truly valued his friendship, he started touching the boy. The boy loved that friendship so much, he was hoping the man would stop...that it was no big deal..not really."

Then explain that your bro needs to be careful. And that you are there if this ever happens.

Putting a story out there, one where he can see that a man could be SETTING HIM UP with the friendship...and letting your bro know that you are there if he needs help. SO important.

The older guy may just be cool. May just want a litle brother. But it's like this....uncles, cousins, neighbors. Watch them.

God bless you for asking and being vigilant.

Answer 4

It could be normal or just plain weird. I know a lot of young boys(12, 13, 14) who hang out with older guys(18, 19, 20). Maybe your younger brother finds the 21 year old a cool person to hang out with. A lot of young boys find older guys cooler because they get to do things that the young kids can't. Uh oh. Now that I bring that up, you best keep your eye on your younger brother so he stays out of trouble.

Answer 5

well don't jump to conclusions yet... watch their interactions, that will give you a clue as to the older guys intentions... ask(without confrontation) your brother what they do when they are together... pay attention to his reaction... does he get nervous or fidgety? Maybe ask if you can do stuff together with them both... see what the older guy says, and how he reacts... if you have any doubts at all, speak to your parents (if they don't know already, they should)... It's unusual, but not totally uncommon for an older guy to be a mentor for a younger guy... especially if they have known each-other for a while. I don't know how old you are, but if you are older than your brother, find time to spend with him so that he can start to see you as a friend and confidante. 12 is an age where guys start to want to act and behave older than they are... so maybe he just admires the older guy... weigh it all up and then see if any legal or police action will need to be taken! Be vigilant and your instincts and gut will tell you whether you need to be worried!

Answer 6

You already know the answer is no, it's not normal for a 21 year old to hang out with someone that's 12.

Answer 7

If the guy is 21 and still lives with his parents, I would seriously question his motives for wanting a twelve year old for a buddy.

Keep an eye out for your brother's safety and well-being. I wouldn't let him go over there again alone.

Answer 8

No, I don't think it's normal. Your 12 year old brother needs to be playing with his own friends his age. And this 21 year old neighbor is an adult... he shouldn't be hanging out with a preteen who is quite vulnerable and gullible. Try and keep them apart and find other things for your brother to do. Would hate to hear something happened... and your brother become another statistic.

Answer 9

Pay attention to this guys behavior around your brother. Does he seem like a preditor and does his behavor seem odd. Or does he seem like he's being a mentor to your brother. Either way, it's good to keep an eye on this situation. You don't want to be overly concerned if there isn't anything going on, but at the same time, you never can tell.

Answer 10

My son is 13 and our neighbor's son is 23. They hang out every once in a great while to play video games, but I make sure they are never alone. Also, I'm sure my son would tell me if anything more than video games was happenin'.
If they are spending too much time t/g, I would definitely try to do something to change that. Maybe you could hang out with your bro. instead?

Answer 11

Depends on what they are doing. If they are getting into trouble, I would totally stop it! If they are not getting into any trouble, maybe the guy just genuinely likes spending time with your brother. Maybe He is like a little brother to him. They may enjoy the same things, i.e. skateboarding, videogames, movies, etc. As long as this guy is not introducing your brother to bad things or influencing him to do bad or dangerous things, I don't see the harm.