Suicide thoughts help?

Question

My financee is suicial what do i do? Please no just call 911 stuff i tried that he just made bigger threats. We have had lots of problems lately. I need real advice here.

Answer 1

ask him if he would like help in any way shape or form.Pray he is willing.If so,take it slow and start off by talking with someone who has been through what he is going through.I have to go to work or i would write alot more.Good luck.

Answer 2

Has he done this before? What were the circumstances this time? Most people who say such things are either severely depressed, attention seekers, or he could be trying to manipulate you. See suicidal thoughts and depression at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on pages 5, and 2. If you think he has been depressed recently, he may well mean it, and needs to be restrained, for his own protection, but don't be obvious about calling for help; maybe phone from the bathroom, with the shower on, to cover the sound. It's your decision. If there is a next time; provide some background details, please. I'm flying blind, here.

Answer 3

ive had many suicide attemps, the first one when i was 13years, if he wont get help, then just be there for him (I know this is going to be hard for you) but i am willing to be here for you anytime you feel like your going insane, The only thing with these thoughts is evan though they go, the thoughts come back, try to remind himevan though he thinks hes no good, world better off with out him,or to join a loved one it will pass no matter how much he thinksit wont. i am 38yrs now and i still get them, they sneakupwithout warning, as for the people out there who says hes selfish, DO NOT LISTEN TO IGNORANT PRATS, if you know why hes depressed you will find it easier to sort out the help you need, they have various treatments, if all else fails then try tuff love e.g: If your not going to seek help evan for the sake of our relationship then i cant carry on, I hope he sees whathe could be doing toyou. After all if you become stressed then you wont be able to hold himup to, if you ever feel like a heart 2 heart then iam here (most of the time) Good Luck
p.s the advice i gave you is based onmy own experiences

Answer 4

The worst thing i could actually say now is that i understand how you feel because i don't. I cant actually picture myself in your shoes right now. The best advice that i could give you is to just listen to your fiance' find out the core problem that is bringing these feelings along. Just knowing that you there and willing to help could make a difference unless its psychological but still show your support. Just take this as a test on how strong your relationship is. Hope you find a suitable solution . Ciao

Answer 5

You return the ring! This person is highly unstable and it could result in your being seriously hurt and targeted. Immediately go seek pro counseling for yourself to separate from this person.

A Friend of mine is in the same boat, and I just gave the identical advice. And if you say you are still in Love, then you are masochistic and really need pro help of a psych nature.

Don;t wait. End this today.


Also, call the police and ask for their advice in term of your personal safety, or await you can do to get this person into a full time pchyc ward to get out of this condition,. It is humane to save someone despite their insanity.

Answer 6

Talk to him, help him work out his problems. I get suicidal at times, and I myself would rather no-one call 911, because that stresses me more to know I'd be put in some mental institute. He can go to a doctor and be put on some kinda medicine like prozac. Give him more attention... some do it for attention, which is sad and sick, but just try and keep him busy as well!

Answer 7

Get in touch with his doctor. Don't threaten him with it,just do it. Explain clearly to the doctor that your boyfriend is suicidal.
If he is drinking alcohol,try to stop him having anymore. It makes it worse for him.
Usually,people who are a danger to themselves can be admitted into a hospital or clinic against their will but for their own benefit.
If the situation isn't too immediate....first get yourself some help. You need support. If he will talk to you about the depression he is feeling,you might be able to make him see that there is always hope and always a way out of a mess.
He needs professional help. He needs to speak to a doctor. Once that has happened,you won't be alone to cope with this.
There are people to help you,you just have to find them and it isn't always easy.
But you will get there. Both of you.

Answer 8

Suicide should never be taken lightly. My experience is that when one makes threats they are wanting attention, sympathy, pity, etc. I know first hand that most people are hurting so bad inside that they don't fore warn anyone about their intentions to end their life. Now this is by no means carved in stone. I would demand that that he seek help or I'd break it off with him. You can't help someone who won't help theirselves. If he really cares about you he will get the help he needs. You can not allow him to continually bring you down with this or eventually you will feel like a hostage with a loaded gun to your head. Try to get him to seek the help he needs.

Answer 9

If you live with your fiancee, you are being threatened also. You don't stop trying just because the threats got bigger. You need to leave. He is the only one that can help himself. Are there children there too? If so, run, don't walk away quickly. Get yourself safe and if he wants help he'll get it. You can't live like this and he is ill and needs to be under Dr care. Please get help today.

Answer 10

See if you can get him into crisis counseling. Make certain he feels like he's getting enough attention,because if he's talking about it first,MOST times that's what it's for,attention. Not always,but most times. I attempted it 3 times myself,when I was really planning on doing it,I never told anyone. When I wasn't serious,I talked about it. If he's using suicide as a threat to keep you in a relationship,then,that's mental abuse,I'd advise to leave,because he's not stable. If you'd like someone to talk to,please email me. Good luck.

Answer 11

Dont ever take your own life! There are alot of things you could rather do! Start working! Get more than one job! Get one to do during the day and one to do during the evening! Start to cut your expenses! Just buy what you cannot live without and start to look at what you buy! Dont make debt! There are always someone who loves you and there is always someone who can help you! Dont give up on yourself because then you would give up on the people around you! They wont give up on you so it would be unfair!!!! Pray to God and ask him to help you because He is powerful! Listen to Josh Groban's song "dont give up (everybody wants to be understood)"! Hold on