whos in the wrong??

Question

i used to be best friends with this girl....as you have probably guessed we do not speak no more...but when i was her friend i had a longterm boyfriend...we broke up about 1 month ago and i found out last week that she is with him?!?!?! i am so hurt to even think that she would do this....but she isnt my friend no more so is she wrong or am i?? i do not think she should havegone with my ex even tough we are not friends no more but some people i have spoken to about it think its alright as we are no longer friends?? oh and is he wrong too?? x

Answer 1

she didnt do anything wrong. You should piss off your old friend and go out with her ex and make it an ex that she would be really pissed off if you went out with and if at all possible make it the guys best friend. Show her whatsup... cuz look at it this way you get revenge and you get boyfriend out of it.

Answer 2

This happened to me and you think to yourself i wonder if they liked each other all along?! They didn't stay together very long it was probably just easier for them both as they both already knew one another and wouldn;t feel akward and ahev to make small talk as they have you to talk about. I also found out after lots of thinking that my friend had one night stand or a few night stands with every guy i had ever told her i liked - some ppl say tht she was jelous of me and tht she always used to try to steel my friends and be like me - but i don;'t know why she would do that - this could be another silly reason tho. Also if he was nice enough to give her attention as a friend then she may have fallen for him a long time ago - especially if someones shy its much easy to strat a realationship with soemone you know than to start afresh! I wouldn't let it botehr you - even tho it may for a while - show them you can move on have fun being single and find a new guy! They prob won't last long and even if they do i'm sure your find someone you will be alot happier with than when you were with both of them. Good luck in finding that someone, hold you head high an be happy.

Answer 3

You in a sense have already answered your own question.The words USED TO BE. What would be your reaction if he was with someone else other than your ex girlfriend.One piece of advice I would give is DON'T go down the route as some have suggested of deliberately throwing yourself at one of his friends to get back at him.For one thing if he was so insensitive to pick up your friend so soon after leaving you then he probably won't give a toss who you go out with.Wait until the right guy comes along and no matter how long it takes eventually Mr RIGHT will come and you will be happy again.One other thing re the ex friend she was obviously friends with you before you split with you ex so she must know what he is like so I would say it wont be long before he is going out with her best friend THEN YOU CAN LAUGH.

Answer 4

when you say long term you mean about a week or so? You sound about 12! Of course you're wrong you cant tell anyone what to do, especially after you've broken any ties or loyalties with both of them.
How do you end up losing your mate and your man at the same time? Either you need to check your attitude or "krowley" is right and the two of them have probably fancied each other all along!

Answer 5

Two things:
1
What would you do if you were in her situation, you no longer talk to each other, and you have some sort of feeling for the person who used to date your ex friend?
2
Why is your ex dating your once upon a time friend? Do not worry too much...you have a life to live and a million opportunities.... some day you might as well be dating a bloke who happens to be an exfriend of your ex boyfriend or an ex boyfriend of your ex friend. Live life to the full....

Answer 6

I USED to have a friend who did exactly the same. I had split up with my partner (my son's father) and was still going out with this girl but she was seeing my ex. They had not got the guts to tell me so another friend told me. My "so called" friend no longer speaks to me and made my life hell for a couple of months. I stayed in touch with my ex because of my son (much to her disapproval).

I say let them get on with it, they deserve each other. They obviously have no feelings for you or else they would not have done it.

Although you are probably hurt, hold your head up high and let them think you are not bothered.

Hope you find a nice boyfriend soon x

Answer 7

both of you are wrong! When you love this man you want him to be happy and she shouldn't have gone with your man even though you weren't friends anymore! You've letted him go and you must ask yourself if it is her dating him that bothers you or is it him dating someone else that bothers you? because if thats the problem your not over him so make a plan and get him back or get someone else or just accept the fact that your out! Good luck!

Answer 8

Its difficult, I went through a similar thing. Its easy to blame them both but i have to agree above. He's your ex and she's not your friend so in reality its not really any of your business anymore. I know its still sucks and a better friend wouldn't have done that to you but i don't think anyone is really in the wrong.

Answer 9

okay, i think mostly it's that he's wrong. he obviously knew that at one point, you were really good friends with her. Either he's doing it to hurt you, or he has no sense of feelings for other people. I don't know if you or your friend is wrong, because she has the right to date whoever, but she could have picked someone you weren't previously dating. you are not wrong, you are basically the victim.
Im sorry about the whole situation and hope it all works out.

Answer 10

You are wrong. They are not. You are 1) not her friend and 2) not his girlfriend. So what right do you have to an opinion on whether they should go out together. Immature is what you are.