My roommate gets drunk every night. He is not mean or abusive, but he just doesn't know what's going on. He goes through his cell phone book and calls people late at night and I tell him that's not good. Don't say to direct him to help, because he won't. I really love this person and don't know what to do. I go to bed but the walls are thin and it wakes me up. I admit I drink with him a lot, but I wouldn't if I didn't have to deal with him. I'm not going to not live with him and I can't help him either. We need each other to pay the bills and I trust him completely with my possessions. He is a nice person all the time, but my gosh he drinks from the time he gets home until he passes out (like his is now). Any advice other than leaving him?
2007-06-28 22:39:35 · 6 answers · asked by Boomer 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take it from a man who is a recovering alcoholic himself.
Trust me he IS an alcoholic!! You tell us that you don't want to hear the advice for him to get help or you leaving the situation.
Well congrats !! You just locked yourself into a problem with no solutions... I am going to tell you straight out, and it is going to be what you don't want to hear. Your only options are to get him help or do the tough love route and find yourself a new room mate so you can afford to pay the bills.
What? Your going to let him deteriorate to the point where he is forced to get treatment? Or will you just let him walk in front of a car and let him get himself killed? Perhaps he'll just take a nice drive down the street and kill himself and some unsuspecting family. Is this what you want? Hey!! he might even survive and wind up in prison for the rest of his life for his actions!!! NO ONE'S LIFE is so terrible that they must drink that much!! So are you going to be a friend and help him or are you just going to let him ruin his life? Your inaction only condemns him to a life of misery. It's time to step up and be a real friend....
2007-06-29 01:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has the beginnings of a problem. As a good friend you should sit down and talk about it when he is sober. It is not normal to drink as much as he seems to be doing. But remember that it is not your job to save him if he doesn't want to be saved.
2007-06-28 22:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to drink a little bit less so he's wake enough... Or you can give him things to do at night, like seriously talk to him about it. Just tell him what you wrote up there..
2007-06-28 22:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by dl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you didn't want me to write this, but he's an alcoholic, and alcoholics need help, unless your happy to watch him waste away in front of you. If he doesn't want to change he won't. You can't force someone to change.
2007-06-28 23:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try filming him when he's drunk and showing it to him when he's sober. If it doesn't make him cringe and change his ways, then he's convinced he doesn't have a problem.
2007-06-28 22:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it the F up...
Sounds like thats the only thing you can do..
Sorry
2007-06-28 22:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by JacksonK 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋