while i was working this guy asked for my number and i thought he was pretty cute so i gave it to him. i saw so many missed calls from him when i got off work, texts, and voicemails telling me to call him back and that he'll be waiting for my call. so i called him back and we started to get to know each other a little more by telling eachother about ourselves. then he tells me he thinks i'm really pretty and he started to talk about sex. what's my fav position, what turns me on, etc. he told me he's a freak and jacks off like everyday. he had sex with so many girls but he seems like a good guy at the same time. he also said i should just leave my bf and get with him. he's also 3 years older than me and he's mexican. i'm filipino/chinese and i'm in a relationship. but my bf and i aren't on good terms at all. i'm so confused. i'm not sure if i should keep on talking to him. i think maybe he's going to fast?
2007-06-28 22:10:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like a creep. No good guy goes from getting to know you to telling you he jacks off daily in one phone call. Work things out with your boyfriend or go it alone, but don't go with this guy. He is NOT a good catch. No maybes about it.
2007-06-28 22:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that this young boy has "player" written all over him! You didn't specify how long you conversed about yourselves before sex became the focus of the calls. Are we talking about a few minutes, hours, days, weeks, months? You also don't tell us how old you are, although you did mention that the boy is 3 years older.
Race should have no bearing on what you do with him, about him, or when. You mentioning your races tells me that perhaps your family is hesitant about interracial relationships. I know my family still is, and I am well into adulthood.
Regardless of what this boy wants from you, he should have no bearing on how you handle your current relationship. Him telling you to leave your current boyfriend and hook with him instead indicates that he is not in this for a long-term relationship, and is most likely looking for a physical short-term fling.
My advice is to stop talking with this guy, and focus on your current relationship. If you don't want to continue seeing your boyfriend, that is fine - but don't disrespect him by dumping him for some random boy. That kind of behavior only reflects badly on you, no matter how rocky your relationship is currently.
Yes, I do think that the new guy you met is moving too fast. I also think that having several missed calls, texts, and voicemails from him on the first night indicates that he may not be the most stable of beings, and that he may bring more harm than good into your life.
2007-06-29 05:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by devyl gyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like a pathetic guy. daaaaaaaang he's already calling you sooo many times right after you gave him your number. thats weird and kinda desperate dont you think? when a guy is really straight forward in the first fonecall...well its kidna good and kinda bad, good thing is that he's confortable with you and lieks talking to you..bad cuz he's kinda saying the wrong things. and whenn a guy talks about jacking off on the first call man id find that kinda disturbing. but you shouldnt see his race as one of the reasons why he's not good for you. im indonesian dutch and chinese and im dating an equadorina&mexican guy and ive never looked at it.. but you are right he's going tooooooo fast. you have a bf tho so you should really work something out with him, before you do something dumb and regret it. esp to a guy like this one
2007-06-29 05:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by stefani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a creep, to be honest with you. Any respectful guy wouldn't start talking like that during your first phone call. And what's with the obsessive missed calls???? That's definitely a red flag. I realize you're having problems with your bf and the attention this guy is giving you might seem nice, but it's not the kind of attention you want.
2007-06-29 05:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time for the creep to go. And this is separate from your relationship with your bf, by the way. Think about possibly ending that, if you're not on good terms, without considering this guy into it, yeah?
2007-06-29 05:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are half-filipino? I am half-filipino, too. Well if you can understand Tagalog, I would advise you this:
Huwag na huwag kang magpapatangay sa kanya. Katawan mo lang ang hanap niya at hindi pagmamahal. Gusto ka lang niyang maangkin. Pagkatapos ka niyang pagsawaan, ibabasura ka na lang niya. Mababaw ang pag-ibig na inihahandog niya sa iyo.
In English, "Don't ever be fooled with his words or his actions. He only want sex, nothing more, not love. He only wants to sleep with you in bed. After he will get through you, he will only damp you like a rag."
In short, find another guy who is worthier than him and your current boyfriend.
2007-06-29 05:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nooo... weirdo.. no guy calls that much... let's pretend he didn't mention the jerking off and the girls he's f**ked, he is a little too desperate.. now factor in the jerking and f**king and that's way too far.. We know that guys want sex and that it's hard to find one whose initial intentions are NOT sex but damn, a little discretion would be nice.
2007-06-29 05:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by Noodle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Way too fast! He is giving TMI about his sex habits already and it sounds like he is a poon hound. He will go to bed with a flower pot if it asked and he probably doesn't exercise good judgment and use condoms either. Work out your probs with your BF or let him go. But this guy doesn't sound like a good alternative.
2007-06-29 05:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by ♠♥ Miss Zora ♦♣ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is disrespecting you by discussing sex with you so soon. Why would you want to be with a man that has been with all of these women? He may have a disease or 10 kids by now.
Run, run, get away from him. He is not only a jerk, but an idiot!!
2007-06-29 05:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, all he did and does is to get you to bed. No one will ask that kind of question on the first conversation. And I really hope and pray that you won't leave your bf because of him. You will regret for the rest of your life.
2007-06-29 05:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by My Dear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋