Engaged 2 times is it wrong to demand a bigger ring this time?

Question

Ok so I have been engaged 2 times previous and let me just clue you in before you judge....
Ex Number 1 - 50 dollar ring from a pawn shop
Ex Number 2 -A 130 dollar ring from Walmart
Now I am engaged for the third time and I went with my fiance to pick out the ring...It is beautifull
Not anything crazy like a 30000 dollar set but reasonable and affordable. He has no problem with this and I already have the ring and everything. I was really just wondering if it was wrong for me to want a nice ring for a change?
And Ex 1 had a good job like 60 grand a year good
Ex 2 had just gotten out of basic and had at least 4 grand saved...that I know of.

Do you think its a bit harsh or just wanting not to wear cheap jewlery when I know we could have afforded much more?

I dont need an expensive ring the one I have now I wouldnt change for the world the ring set we got only cost 500.00
Thats with his band as well. The point isnt the price Im just not going to walk around with CZ as an engagement ring.
As for buying your own ring I am so sorry you had to do that. I personally could never ever call a ring I bought for myself an engagement ring It is supposed to be a gift from the man you love not yourself... but hey if that works for you more power to you.

Answer 1

Lol I know how you feel. My husband called me from Ft. Hood and said "Hey do you wanna go ahead and get married? Because Ryan got a job at the pawn shop and can get us a good deal." Lol I said yes because I loved the idiot. I picked out my ring from a pawn shop-- and then he bought the wrong one! Supposedly by accident. Lol But since then he's gotten a little more dough rolling and upgraded my ring to my DREAM ring ;) A sapphire/diamond in white gold from Zales. I just had to hang in there. And I still have my old ring for sentimental reasons! The ring was a token of his love, and yes it was pretty but I felt dinky and stupid. My whole family already thought I was too young to marry-- and with all my older cousins sporting classic gold bands and decent rocks, my diamond chip was kinda depressing! I feel ya love!
EDIT:: Man, all these haters. It sounds like you are in love and maybe I'm "materialistic, childish and selfish" as well because HEY I have to look at it everyday, have to show people, my family etcetera-- and I want it to look nice! I want to say "Look my man loves me THIS much!" All this stuff about going into debt--she said they could afford it!!!! You don't want something that's going to break, the stone fall out, tarnish, turn your finger green for heaven's sake! Give me a thumbs down, I don't care. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH WANTING NICE THINGS IN LIFE, ESPECIALLY IF YOU AND YOURS CAN AFFORD IT!

Answer 2

Every woman wants a big, expensive, engagement ring. If they say no they are full of bull... If given the choice of a 3,000
ring or 50.00 from Kmart what do you think the answer will be.

Also, I do not think that 500 is an extreme amount of money
for an engagement ring. My advise is get what you want, as you will look at it every day, also hope your not just looking at the ring but take a good look at the guy you are marring.

When my husband and I were getting engaged I told him I wanted a quality diamond not quantity. I told him what I preferred since he asked. Most bands are 500 for a ring so
I think he is getting away cheap. Also if it can not buy you a ring then he should not look to marry you. If the guy makes great money then it's that he is not looking to spend it on a ring so figure out which one it is. You should not wear cheap jewelry and if he is not going to spend it now you will not get it later.

Answer 3

always look at the big picture. if the ring and the wedding was cheap even though you could afford more and still have a home you can both live together in, then i think you have been shortchanged at the altar. the man hasnt put you first in his life. money is first.

the other thing is, just cos a guy has 4 grand saved. was that saved for the wedding or saved for contingencies? the wedding expenses (ring is an expense unless you make it yourself from spare metal pipe) should not exceed the wedding budget available.

Answer 4

Wow. Haven't you learned yet that an engagement should be much more than your precious ring? Aren't you in love and ready to spend your life with this man? A ring is a symbol of love, and you're putting a price tag on it, and that is just selfish and childish. I'm sorry, but if he wants to buy you a ring, let him pick it out - and if you love him, then love what he buys for you.

Answer 5

I don't understand the question. A wedding/engagement ring is given from love. Shouldn't matter what size it is or whatever. It's a reflection of love. My husband and the jeweler designed my ring after my husband and I spent some time pouring over jewelery stores deciding what I wanted. He put the down payment on it. When it was finished and they showed it to me, I wanted it sized and on my finger ASAP, so I pulled out my check book and paid the balance with money my parents gave me for "wedding expenses." (my mom bought her original wedding ring and they've been married 42 years) He paid for the custom-made band, which is similar to the one I designed in my mind when I was about 12, and I never described it to him. And I get tons of complements on it. It has over a karat of diamonds in it, and the center stone is CZ, and you know what? I don't care. Nobody knows except the jewelers who look at my prongs. And it still cost more than your "set."

Answer 6

Yes. As you said toward the end of your comments, it's supposed to be given from love - not to a greedy girl. If you want some better and bigger bling, work hard and save money to buy yourself a dress ring.
I guess we aren't surprised about the 'exes'.....

Answer 7

Its very materialistic of you to demand a bigger more expensive ring.

The engagement should not be about the ring, it should be about each other and your feelings and your future.

The money should go to a house or a car, something more useful than a ring on your finger.

Answer 8

its not wrong to want something, the ? is why do u need a big expensive ring? its not the cost, or the size that determines your love.my husband got me a 200.00 ring, and i love it as much as a 200,000 dollar ring, and to be honest, i wouldnt want a ring that is big and gaudy, or that expensive!!!
when we married, we bought the wedding set from a fried,{they had never been worn}he had paid 1,500 for them and we paid 200.00, and they are beautiful to me.and we were married for 25 years.

Answer 9

this is a personal issue and between the 2 of you...... I dont see why women worry so much about what the ring looks like, how much it cost, etc..... I would wear one out of a bubble gum machine if it came from my husband to be.... I have been married for 31 yrs, and I paid for my own ring from my savings..... and I could not care less..... I wear it because HE put it on my finger , I love him and that is all that matters......to me anyway........ God bless

Answer 10

His hormones have the better of him and my guess is he replaced into in contact along with her for way longer than you're conscious. you do not usually only "fall out of affection" until eventually somebody else comes alongside which you "fall in love with." He has fairly clouded judgment top now and it rather is insane that he could take a three week previous toddler faraway from his mom. How quite egocentric and ignorant. for sure the different lady is contacting him non-supply up bc she is scared to loss of existence he won't come back. i could write this guy off for the loser that he's. Please get a criminal expert and locate out what's on your maximum suitable pastime. you go with a courtroom order to call for baby help and lay out a custody contract. you shouldn't shop him faraway from his baby. My guess is they have had a courting sans any of the particular worldwide. they are approximately to now journey their affair out interior the actual worldwide complete with help funds, a baby that's not hers, inconveniences of his previous existence now intruding in her new existence, etc. It will under no circumstances be all roses for them. you only shelter you and your baby. enable them to crash and burn on their own.